1, aspect of eating: a bowl, which is the basic amount. If he says mom, I can't finish eating, I will say yes and let him get off the table. At dinner in the evening, I will put his lunch in front of him and eat a new one after eating it. There will be no such problems in the future. Don't ask for seven points full, too much is harmful and useless, just enough for the body to consume energy, so there are many gullies in the cerebral cortex, which is conducive to memory and so on. Eat less meat and more fruits and vegetables. Don't let the body accumulate fat and affect the brain.
2. Do homework after school: set a time when he is not allowed to do it. He said that if he didn't finish his homework, he would be punished by the teacher tomorrow, but I told him when to do something and not to misappropriate it. He got up early the next morning and did it, and I was not allowed. He went to school crying. After that, he finished his homework before dinner. From then on until he graduated from high school, he always finished his homework first. From junior high school to senior high school, all homework is done at school. At that time, I didn't allow my son to take up the time and pressure of playing and reading extracurricular books to do his homework. (Fun, right)
3. The teacher complained about punishing homework (about criticism): My son was also punished in the first grade of primary school. I went to pick him up from school until he finished his homework. At the same time, listen to the teacher talk about how his son is not serious in class, how things happen with his classmates and so on. But I still looked at my son kindly and waited patiently for him to finish writing (inner monologue: just write it again). Ask about the situation carefully after returning home. If it belongs to a classmate, don't criticize him. It's his own problem, but he always speaks amazingly, telling him how to pay attention and correct it. It is very important that parents should use reason to alleviate the negative emotions they may have towards their teachers. Parents and teachers are the main ones who hurt children's self-confidence. If the child is scolded at school, the mother should understand the matter clearly that night to resolve the child's emotions and repair the child's self-confidence. Self-confidence is very important in his life.
4. inattention: can't you sleep well at night? Are you too full? Is it because you don't know the class? Find out the reason, find the solution to the problem according to the reason, don't just scold the child. For example, the doll's body is hot and humid, and people are uncomfortable, so naturally they have no energy for class. If you can't find all the reasons, you can consider using the Buddhist method.
5, fun nature: give him time to play, hands-on itself is equal to brains, there is nothing wrong, parents and children get along well between recess and sleep, everything comes according to the schedule. Playing card games is a method taught by special education teachers. I applied it, practiced it and succeeded. When my son was in primary school, the class teacher assigned homework, which he finished quickly.
6, nothing, you want your child to throw objects with his left hand, which is to exercise his right brain and prepare for junior high school. Parents and children play card addition once a day, draw two cards and shake them quickly in front of him, so that he can quickly say the added number and insist on adding once and subtracting once until the third grade, but not after the fifth grade. Exercise attention, quick reaction ability and mental arithmetic ability.
7. I read a post: I have been thinking about some problems about children's education and want to share them with you. I think:
First, carry out phased education, pay attention to developing thinking intelligence, and don't force him to learn anything.
Second, be kind to all life and teach him to learn to put himself in the other's shoes. It is no longer pleasant not to cause trouble to others.
Third, teach him to follow the example of water, be soft when things happen, and take a detour when things happen.
Fourth, learn to be content.
Fifth, quiet and far-reaching, indifferent to fame and fortune, rest assured of freedom.
That's how I raise my children.
First, some things about homework:
1, the teacher assigned homework and asked the parents to check and sign: I took the method of letting the children check by themselves, and I signed after the check. When signing, ask: Are you all right after the inspection? If he is sure there is no problem, his parents will sign it. However, when he checks whether it is found out, don't point out the wrong question for him, so there will be a red gap in his homework tomorrow. In the face of this situation, what you have to do is to say why you didn't find out yesterday, parents should not be too strict, and children should not worry that when you hit him, everything should be based on reason. So he will be more careful in the next exam.
2. About dictation: Everyone knows that Trump is not standard. My solution is to let him dictate. He was confused and stared at me with wide eyes. I said that no one will read it to you. You can think up all the new words you have learned and write them down from memory. That doesn't prove that you are great. He honestly returned to the study and honestly put his Chinese in front of me. I saw this move, and I said come and take your book away. Mom believed that you wouldn't read it, so he took the book honestly.
In the first year of senior one, parents should have a heart-to-heart talk with their children and let them know that learning is his main task as a student. Learning is not for parents, it has nothing to do with parents. Parents have the responsibility of parents; Let the children check for themselves, which is a learning problem. Try to let the children manage themselves. It avoids the responsibility of parents: if the child comes home the next day after the parents check the signature and says to you, look, you didn't check a wrong question, then the parents have nothing to say.
Second, early education is really important! Our family is very democratic, and we can tell the truth without forcing him to do anything.
My family started with a child who can talk, and we always ask his advice for anything wrong (including breaking things). We asked him to tell us what happened before and after and why. I won't criticize him or hit him. After we finish, we will point out the problems and correct them, and then say that we should pay attention in the future.
Older children have developed certain habits, which depends on adults adjusting their own ways and methods to reason with him:
1, mainly to let children know that their school status should have tasks and responsibilities.
Let him know that learning is a stage to lay the foundation for his later life. Only when he has mastered his own life can he live a relaxed and wonderful life.
Let him learn to be responsible for his own life.
About eating:
1, eating less doesn't matter much. When my son was in primary school, he only had a few bites of dinner. I don't chase him, so I don't eat, but I heat up the leftovers from the last meal and put them in front of him at the next meal. My attitude is: I don't want to eat leftovers, so I will finish them at noon.
Try to train your children to eat fruits and vegetables. Your children won my heart if they don't eat meat. I peel two or three apples for my son every day and give him (other fruits are accessories) as much meat and rice as he likes. My family didn't buy colored drinks and bagged snacks for my son before he went to high school, but only gave him mineral water or boiled water or tea. It is said that that kind of food is junk food. Why eat something that costs money and is called garbage? Please ask parents to think deeply.
Your child doesn't eat meat and eats less-the teacher said she was smart and would get such a result. "I often lose my concentration." Have you talked to your child carefully about why? It's not just rude criticism, is it You must find the reason.
4. "She is not nutritious enough": she must bring snacks, put all kinds of fruits, replace them with fruits, and eat apples and bananas every day, both of which are related to intelligence and have a calming effect.
5. Cultivate children's mind: The malicious disputes of different children extend to loving flowers, animals, insects and beautiful flowers. You can appreciate them, and don't stretch out your hand to fold them. Small animals, especially all kinds of insects, are alive. Cultivate children's compassion for them, and they can't see ants in front, so they can stretch their feet to step on them, and cultivate children to respect all life and all people and things outside. The child's mind is to teach him to treat everything with love when he is young. Obeying all beings and getting retribution means that everything goes well for yourself.
In the contact with classmates and adults, it is inevitable that there will be things that are bad for children and things that he thinks are unfair and unwilling. How do adults ease children's emotions? I told him that others have no obligation to be kind to you, and people's hearts are uneven, such as mountains, valleys and plains. Then if he treats you well, you should be grateful to others. If he treats you badly, that's his behavior. It's normal. Everything is not absolutely fair. The bigger your mind, the more energy you can get, and the more complacent you are if you don't ask for it. Anyone who studies Buddhism can understand this truth. Mind and compassion are very important and play a decisive role in children's future life and situation differences. As Chris Lee said, attitude determines who you are. Problem: Some children may be born unwilling to learn and stubborn. If you have such a child, I don't know if this method will be counterproductive.
Answer: children are born with a blank sheet of paper and are also very smart. What is wrong is the adult's education method. Children's education begins at the age of 0;
First, the behavior of parents before pregnancy:
First of all, people's healthy constitution is weak alkali. Both parents should take care of themselves, and it is best not to smoke or drink. The food should be as light as possible. The man should supplement vitamin E and the woman should supplement folic acid every day. Meat is an acidic food. Try to reduce it. Adjust your body for three months and you will naturally have children. This is to ensure that your child has a healthy constitution, and is less sick and relaxed after birth.
Second, after pregnancy:
1, prenatal education is very important for mothers. On the one hand, please ask your mother to take some time to read quietly every day, calm down and listen to music, and relax in short.
2, in terms of diet: do not eat sweets such as fat and biscuits, try not to let the fetus grow too big in the mother. During pregnancy (five months later), you can only sew the epiphyllum, steam the eggs with it, the more the better. The rest of the dietary precautions are generally understood.
Try not to buy live animals to eat, but eat three clean meats: don't kill, don't kill for you, don't kill until you see it. For example, fish is easily absorbed by protein one hour after death. It's not that killing live fish is delicious, it's just a eating habit. Try to buy ready-made ones, and don't let the kitchen at home become a place where ghosts gather. This is also for children to have a natural birth and eat healthily.
Three, after giving birth to a child, the content of brain development:
1, breastfeeding is very important, and it is the best and safest food. Ensure the health of children and avoid the probability of breast cancer after the mother is 40 years old. Just after giving birth to a child, breast blockage may occur, so it must be dredged, about nine eyes. You can't not breast-feed your child for your so-called figure.
As I said, I started early education more than 20 days after I was a child. When the child wakes up, I will let the child's little hand touch everything at hand. As we all know, children's brains develop rapidly from birth to one year old, and one year old to three years old is another stage. At this most important stage of life, you don't just have to ask a nanny to take care of it, so that the child won't cry. What is most needed is the time that mothers pay attention to.
In order to stimulate brain development, touch the world with the child's back. Now take care of the children, and parents are fully prepared for toys. Before half a year old, the baby will give the toy to the baby and let him touch it with his little hand. The mother will explain to the baby what it is and what it is for. Remember not to say "cars, cars, Fan Fan, etc." to babies aged 0 to 3. Just say cars or jeeps, tractors or porridge, steamed bread, etc. In this way, children will absorb a lot of words.
When children 10 months, wake up after a short sleep time, they can find a whole set of "why?" Various encyclopedias, 365 nights and so on. " Those books with pictures and words. Tell the children the elements in your finger picture with the following words. This is to stimulate the development of children's cerebral cortex.
At a certain time, if you tell him this book again, he will reach out and turn to the next page, indicating that he has an impression on this page and wants something fresh. If I take my children to nature (I take them to the park every Sunday, where there are mountains and water), all kinds of plants, branches and leaves, grass, ants and snails are the best props for children to observe.
The above is to let children touch the world through their hands, and adults will play tapes to tell stories to their children when they have no leisure time. Sister Ju Ping told me at that time that there should be many kinds now. In terms of comics, the comics that my son and I read the most are the stories of Hullova and the fighter, the saint and the saint. I think these two pictures are beautiful and dazzling, and they have good thinking about children's images.
At the same time, find something with subtitles, such as discipleship rules and Chinese studies, and show it to children every day. In this way, children will be exposed to many words and phrases invisibly. If their thinking is well stimulated when they are young, the words and phrases they see will move slowly and be applied to other places invisibly.
Listen to story tapes before going to bed, arrange discs with subtitles during the day, tell encyclopedic knowledge albums (there are many kinds in bookstores) and idiom story books. The above is to stimulate children's left brain and image thinking, and the rest is that your parents should also develop children's right brain. The right brain is the function of the left hand. Take some spare time every day, play games with children, throw balls with your left hand, catch balls with your left hand and so on. You can probably give him the number in your heart and do the rest when you're done.
Another way to exercise the brain: drawing, we don't ask children to draw very much like real things. As long as you can draw lines by hand, it will have an impact on your brain. I am most afraid of people who don't know how to educate their children. Why don't you draw a car like a child? At this point, you have to correct it quickly. This is a deformed car painted by the baby.
In the education of 0-3 years old, we should encourage him not to attack him, not to let him draw more pictures, and to exercise the sulcus of the cerebral cortex.
In terms of diet, I emphasize vegetables and fruits. When children can eat, the dishes added to their bowls are all kinds of vegetables. Don't add meat to him, because children usually take the initiative to bring meat instead of vegetables. When children can eat vegetables, we adults will guide him. Fruit: Apples and bananas are daily necessities. This way, the child will not be raised chubby.
When the brain develops to a certain extent, the child's thirst for knowledge is stronger. What adults have to do is to satisfy him and find all kinds of books for him to read.
My family prepared breakfast for my son: an egg, an apple and water.
My son seldom eats dinner since he was a child, because he always peels two or three apples for him as soon as he comes home from school, then does his homework and then has dinner. There are meat dishes, but we adults always say to eat vegetables first. My friends say that my son has less input and more output. After graduating from high school, the net height was 1.8 meters, only 100 kilograms, but when I came back this holiday, it was 130 kilograms (swimming and basketball were chosen in school, and badminton was chosen this semester).
No appetite: eating seven points is common sense.
I know a doctor friend who once told me never to force children to eat. Children have several stages of growth, especially adolescence, and their appetite will naturally increase. If you open your appetite early, his appetite will end when he develops, and he can't be allowed to eat less in adolescence. Childhood obesity is the expansion of adult love.
About English:
After graduating from primary school, English classes were offered. I ask you to remember a lesson when you study it. He memorized several lessons. He thinks that rote learning is a bad method and very painful. I say you find a way to solve this problem yourself. A few days later, he reported to me that he thought of a way to type words on the computer, using an intangible memory method: type the English word ONE in column C 1, type the English word ONE in column D 1, and type the formula: = if (c1= d) in column E 1. Think more and type more English words that have made mistakes. I let him finish five English vocabulary exercises (12345, 23456, 34567, etc., including the words in computer games) first every day. You can't do anything else on the computer until you finish the exercise.
I don't know if this method is useful to others, but my son won the first prize in the national English competition in the second day of junior high school. My son likes watching NBA and football games. One day, I saw that his interface was in Chinese, so I chatted with him about the Premier League and Milan. I casually said that you can actually read these contents on English websites. If you don't understand them, look them up and improve your English reading level. The second day, I naively saw that the interface was all in English. In order to encourage him, I occasionally point to a player's picture and ask him what he means, and he will be happy to introduce me.
Type English words on the computer with both hands. After a period of persistence, those words will be reflected in the brain and hands. He may not be happy if you let him use this method. Children can learn English words that must be memorized in a class first. Memorizing that method is very painful. When he can't think of a better way, you can tell him that there are other ways. It would be better if he could find a way by himself!
About fractions
You can't express too many opinions during the exam. My principle is that learning is his own business. I just asked him to analyze the reasons for the wrong questions on the paper, whether it was ignorance or carelessness, and just correct them himself. I won't ask him where this score ranks in my class (until I graduate from high school).
About carelessness
Math will always make mistakes on very simple questions, and adults and children will say with regret, "It's a pity that if you are more careful, you will get full marks in math." I've been in this situation. Seeing the 99-point paper, I thought about how to keep him from being careless. Probably in the third grade, the opportunity came in the pain of others. A unit repaired a house, and the house collapsed halfway through the repair. I took him to the opportunity education website. In mechanics and other methods, because of a little error in calculation, the house supported by footings will be different, and the points with less calculation will sink; As far as building materials are concerned, there is less cement, smaller steel bars and lower quality bricks. The whole house is a dangerous building. In order to let him have a deep understanding, I said that if someone dies because of your careless calculation (six people died in the accident), how can people pay for their own lives? How to compensate for tens of millions of economic losses? Judging from the perfect score of the college entrance examination, this opportunity education is successful.