First, academic performance.
Chinese misspelled words: You must have taught her to read when she was very young. At that time, she didn't understand it, so she had to memorize it, and the teaching methods didn't take into account the cognitive characteristics of children, which led to her misuse of these words when she grew up.
Math: "My daughter has no mind to do math problems at all. Her mother hired a math tutor for her, and we watched her in class. I don't know when the teacher gave an example, she repeatedly nodded to show that she had understood it thoroughly, but when she did the type questions herself, she had no concept at all. " Obviously, she is not interested in mathematics. I don't know what caused it. You need to summarize it yourself. When my child goes to school, I tell him that math makes you smarter (often more motivated), and it is more important to encourage children to find solutions to problems and stimulate their interest in learning than to find a tutor for her. How will you feel if you find a tutor to help you with your math now? )
Second, make friends and socialize.
According to the children, there is no strong need for communication, that is, there is no strong sense of loneliness. (It also shows that the family is very warm) It is not until the middle and late adolescence that there is a requirement to make friends actively. You are a high school teacher. If you ask your students, you can find that most of their friends associate in junior high school, but few in primary school. This is an objective law. ) "I don't know how to talk to others" is basically influenced by parents. According to social practice, soldiers, policemen, teachers and other people who have been in a dominant position in their work for a long time have similar social problems.
Third, the problem of correcting shortcomings
Only when a person realizes that he is wrong will he correct it. If you don't realize that you are wrong and oppressed by the outside world, you will only show your promise, not change it. Realizing that you are wrong requires cognitive reconstruction. Fortunately, entering adolescence is an opportunity for cognitive reconstruction. Parents should not miss it.
Fourth, social experience.
The one in the car is a question of social experience (maybe she has other ideas). For her peers, I think it's ok.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) about ideal
I wonder if the children have any supportive actions after expressing their ideals? Encourage her to participate in the school's theatrical performances, take her to meet some actors or artists (even if it is to let her pay attention to the erhu performance in the street), go to the theater to watch the performance (if you can go backstage to see the preparation of the actors), and go to the movie city to see the filming scene. Then ask the child what it takes to be an actor. Is this not a joke? !
The child is about to enter adolescence and his mind is developing rapidly. Parents need to pay close attention to their changes, communicate in time and guide them appropriately. I hope that the "ugly duckling" in your eyes will grow into a beautiful "white swan" in a few years.
I don't teach Chinese. Don't mind the typo.