In fact, these problems have a long history, but many parents don't realize that when children show themselves more and more from the dribs and drabs of life, they are out of control like volcanic eruptions.
However, many parents don't know that these problems are accumulated bit by bit. In the past, it was just that our parents didn't pay attention to it or pay attention to it, and finally it broke out.
Therefore, the big problem of raising a baby requires wise parents to subconsciously kill these problems in the cradle in time with their eyes, so as not to snowball.
First of all: before the child is three years old, we must pay attention to it. It is said that a child's character is cultivated at the age of three, so it is necessary to cultivate the child's sense of security and let the child feel safe and not afraid.
How can a baby feel insecure when he is young? It is easy for him to form an autistic character, and it will also make him feel inferior in front of others and act passively, so that the child's mood will also be lacking. Such a shadow will accompany the child's life, and this regret must not be there.
According to our professor Li Meijin, when children are young, don't make excuses to stay away from them, or even let them become left-behind children. At this time, the baby wants companionship, not superior living conditions.
Therefore, before the child is three years old, the baby will be particularly attached to his parents, especially his mother. It is said that children with mothers are precious. It is for this reason that the mother's feelings play a very good role in the parent-child relationship. If our little babies don't get the return of their parents' feelings, they will be disappointed, insecure and may affect their lives.
I heard that a son started to beat and scold his parents. Later, I didn't know what to do. Finally, the couple took their children to the police station for help. The parents had to kneel in front of the comrades in the police station, hoping to get their son's forgiveness. What is the reason? Let 13-year-old boy punch and kick his biological parents? Why is this?
Later, I learned that the parents have been taking care of grandpa at home since they gave birth to their children. In order to live and give their son a better future, the couple went to other places and rarely came back. Later, the couple's career was very successful, but the son never got fatherly love and maternal love from his grandparents, and he was full of resentment towards his parents. Grandpa is too old to manage it. Finally, the son became what the society called "no"
Babies are most insecure in infancy and have a special desire for feelings. This is what parents should give their children. At that stage, only when parents try their best to calm their emotions will they feel safe.
Nowadays, parents want their children not to lose at the starting line. Some prenatal education has been completed. Children under the age of 6 have actually learned elementary school courses, multiplication tables and can recite many poems. In fact, this is a bit premature, and it is completely putting the cart before the horse.
Our favorite professor Li Meijin once said: Children before the age of 6 are very easy to accept. At this time, the child will firmly remember what you said. However, when children 12 years old, they will not remember what you said to them, because they are no longer listening, and they will throw away what you said as garbage.
Before the age of 6, this golden age is the best time for children's character development. It is said that personality determines fate. At this time, let the children know right and wrong bit by bit, make it clear thoroughly, and let the children know what is the bottom line, what is the boundary, what must be done and what cannot be touched.
The order of educating children must be clear. These truths must be told to children at this golden point before they are 6 years old. At this time, children are the most obedient and have the best memory. Don't wait for children's rebellious period to reason with them. Sorry, at that time, if you tell them again, they will think you are farting and throw it away like garbage. It's too late at this time, parents must remember.
Why are those well-educated children often "other people's children"? It is not because they are born smarter than our children, but because of the educational gap between parents. Have you thought about it? Did you guide your baby correctly before he was six years old?
When it comes to bullying, parents and friends must not misunderstand. What the professor here wants to express is that in the process of bullying, educating and guiding children, we must pay attention to ways and means, instead of really setting a dead rule, so that children can understand the right and wrong of the world from their own perspective, so that children can't resist and go deep into their hearts.
Give a simple example: Why do people live? This is also our initial cognition of our own value.
Of course, children today can't reach such profound problems, but some basic values must be established in time. You must think it over before they are 12 years old.
For example, you can guide children. Do you have any hobbies? What do you want to be when you grow up? Why are you doing this? What's the point? As parents, we must patiently guide our children to think from an early age, so as to correct their mistakes. At the same time, let them develop good reading habits and take them to the library to study more often.
This is a good positioning for children, let them know the sense of value. Never let children become marionettes in the hands of our parents. Once manipulated by parents, children will lose the ability to think independently. We should encourage children, stop caring about them all the time, and tell them to come on, so that they can grow up faster and better.
As parents, they don't love their children. Everything is for children, forcing them to do things they don't like. At the same time, you should trust your children more. This trust is mutual, so that children will trust you. At the same time, when you place hope on him, he will redouble his efforts to repay you.
This is the so-called "as you sow, so you reap". The same is true for growing beans and raising children.
What I want to say most is: If you want to raise an excellent baby, as a parent, you must strive to be an excellent parent. Let's cheer together.
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