Most young people are dual-employed. It takes three years for a mother to raise a child, and then it takes several years for the quality of life to drop significantly. For people with family background and good family economy, the pressure of raising a second child may be less, but it will take as much energy.
From eating and drinking Lazar when the child is born to attending early education, kindergarten and primary school, you don't have to worry about it. This educational problem is also a great pressure for young people.
Our family is an ordinary dual-employee family, not particularly rich. Raising a child is barely enough. But although there is only one child, the pressure is relatively high.
I have calculated an account myself: kindergarten private kindergarten, one semester 12000, 24000 a year; Interest classes, English, piano, chess, online and offline, with a tuition fee of more than 30 thousand a year; Coupled with food, clothing, housing and transportation, the cost of spending on children alone is at least 70,000 to 80,000 a year.
A person spent so much. One more pressure is enough. At that time, I also thought that if I had another child, the education standards of the two babies would be lowered, but I always felt sorry for the children. On second thought, I'd better forget it. Under the existing economic conditions, I still chose to have one.
Second, occupational stress. Now in his thirties, his career is booming, and suddenly he is pregnant again. It is estimated that promotion and salary increase have nothing to do with us. After "unloading", I returned to the workplace, and I was almost forty. Can I continue my important work? It's hard to say. Due to work considerations, the plan to have a second child was temporarily stranded.
Third, the pressure of bringing a baby. Who will take care of the baby after it is born? My mother is already taking care of my brother, and my mother-in-law is old, over 70 years old, and her waist and legs are not very good. It is difficult to take care of a child. If you have another child, who will take care of it?
Please take a New Year's Eve dinner? Almost equal to your salary. Don't ask for a new moon? Will you quit your job and take care of the baby full time? Going back to that question, can I return to the workplace after being a full-time mother? Will it be out of touch with society if you don't return to the workplace? Do children respect themselves if they don't make money? A lot of headaches
Fourth, the pressure of older children. In addition, I am particularly worried that if I have a second child, I am afraid that my bowl of water will be flat, which will have a certain psychological impact on the child.
Now the situation in my family is: Dabao is envious when he sees that all his neighbors have brothers and sisters, and always urges me to have another one for him. But as a brother and sister, I am deeply influenced by my parents' partiality, and I am afraid that if I have Bauer, I will be eccentric and affect Dabao's mental health.
Although mother thinks too much, after all, it is not a trivial matter to have two treasures, and all aspects should be considered. Therefore, out of the above pressure, I didn't choose to have a second child. I wonder how stressful it is for you not to have a second child.