In fact, there are many similar experiences with the mother above. There is a treasure mother in our community who was told that she was unqualified when she took her son to the kindergarten for an interview, because the child could not sit down and play by herself. Therefore, although the problem of children always sitting still seems small, it has a great impact on real life.
Why can't children sit still? 1. The nervous system is underdeveloped and attention is easily distracted.
You know, the human brain will not develop until the age of 20, so the nervous system will continue to improve with the development of the brain. Similarly, younger children are more likely to be distracted. For example, infants in small classes in kindergartens can concentrate for about 10- 15 minutes, middle classes 15-20 minutes, and large classes for about 20-25 minutes. Therefore, parents should know that there are physiological factors for children to sit still, and we should treat them rationally.
2. The child is nervous and has poor self-control.
It is not easy for a little baby to control his emotions. If the surrounding environment is noisy, he is not interested in the games he plays or the courses he studies, and he is more anxious and unable to sit still. In addition, if children watch cartoons and play games for too long, or are dissatisfied with the discipline of their parents and teachers, they are prone to confrontation and always can't sit still. Therefore, teachers and parents need to find out the problem, patiently guide and help children improve their self-control.
3. Individual differences in adaptability
Every child's adaptability to the environment is different. For example, in the same class, some children get used to it twice, and some children cry for several days. This is not only related to innate adaptability, but also related to acquired education. For example, children brought by mothers are more likely to sit down, and children who often go out to play are more likely to adapt to unfamiliar environments.
4. Born active, interested in sports and games.
Every child is born different. Some children are naturally quiet, while others are naturally active, especially boys. They are more interested in sports, games and other activities, but less interested in reading and building blocks. In the process of taking care of children, I found that once my son plays with older boys, he can't sit still. They will keep chasing, playing and jumping.
5. Feeling uncomfortable or eager to do something.
In addition to the reasons mentioned above, children can't sit still because they are uncomfortable. For example, children are prone to crying when they have a cold, and they are restless when they hold their urine. Another possibility is that he is in a hurry to play games outdoors, or go out to play with children, and he can't sit still.
What can parents do to make their children sit down? 1. Ensure children's rest and nutrition.
Lack of sleep and physical discomfort can cause children to sit still, so it is necessary to ensure the children's sleep time and balanced intake of nutrition. Give children more brain-nourishing foods, such as fish, bean products, spinach and apples. Don't give children drinks, sweets and other foods containing a lot of pigments and saccharin, which are not conducive to their health.
2. Patiently ask the child why he can't sit down.
Children can't sit. If parents criticize blindly, firstly, it will aggravate children's frustration and make them resistant. The second is to cause the child "dead mice can't touch the cold." Everything I did was wrong anyway. Do I need to change it? Therefore, parents must learn to respect their children, patiently ask the reasons why children can't sit still, and prescribe the right medicine. Once a child makes a little progress, such as sitting down to look at a painting, parents should give encouragement. In addition, parents can also tell their children to be happy when playing and to sit down and study hard when studying. The time can be extended by 10 minutes and 20 minutes in turn, with a maximum of 45 minutes, with a break in between.
3. Provide children with clean clothes and a quiet environment.
We often see some children picking their nails, picking dirty things on their clothes or scratching their hair when they can't sit still. Therefore, parents should do a good job in children's hygiene, cut their nails frequently, change clothes frequently, and reduce the number of small gestures. In addition, we should provide children with a quiet and tidy environment, put less sundries and more toys, books or stationery to avoid children's distraction and help them concentrate.
4. Actively carry out parent-child activities to let parents know more about their children.
At home at night or on weekends, parents can interact with their children to play games or tell stories, or play sports with their children, such as playing ball and running, which can exercise their brain command and control ability. In addition, children can take advantage of their playfulness to participate in some interesting activities that can also exercise patience and perseverance, such as building blocks, playing with plasticine, puzzles and so on. , can improve the enthusiasm of children to participate in activities, stimulate their interest, but also can extend their time of activities and cultivate their willpower.