With the change of one's own mood, the child is hot and cold, which greatly affects his physical and mental health. Such parents and families are not uncommon in today's society.
The influence of parents' emotional instability on children is mainly manifested in:
1. It is easy to cause children's emotional instability.
Children's psychology is easily disturbed by external factors, and changes in parents' emotions are transformed into changes in their attitudes towards children. After a long time, children's psychology will be unstable.
2. It is easy for children to be indecisive.
Parents have different attitudes towards their children, and children can't fully understand them. When a child has done nothing wrong, but is snubbed or reprimanded by his parents, his parents' willfulness will make the child feel puzzled, and sometimes he will feel wronged and at a loss in front of his parents. Over time, children will behave differently, and if something goes wrong, they will be distracted.
3. It is easy for children to have an incorrect understanding of adults.
Parents are sometimes cold and sometimes hot to their children, which often makes them feel that adults are eccentric, incredible and unworthy of respect, but they are indifferent to parents and others and look down on adults around them, which is easy to develop a withdrawn and lofty character.
As parents, no matter whether they are in a good mood, idle or busy, they should always treat their children with a guiding and caring attitude, so that children can feel that their parents always love and care for them, thus giving them a sense of stability, security and trust.
Don't let four kinds of bad emotions affect children's psychology.
Parents are children's first teachers, and their behavior is the benchmark of children and the influence index of their psychological development. Parents are the closest and most direct life and growth partners of children. Parents' emotions directly affect children's mental health development.
Sociologists believe that parents' behavior in family life, especially their emotions, is a direct factor affecting children's mental health development; .
Research shows that parents are friendly and peaceful at home, and they are modest and courteous in dealing with others, which is conducive to the healthy development of their children's psychology; And if parents are often in a bad mood at home, quarreling and bickering will make children often in tension and fear, which is extremely unfavorable to their psychological development.
Therefore, from the perspective of children's mental health development, parents should pay attention to special emotional control in their daily family life to prevent children from affecting their normal psychological development because of their parents' bad emotions. Experts remind parents that in order to cultivate their children's mental health, the following emotional control needs special attention:
1, don't quarrel in front of the children.
Parents don't make any evasive quarrels in front of their children, or parents quarrel with others, which will make children feel nervous and scared. Parents often make a hullabaloo about in front of their children, which will make them highly nervous and psychologically breed insecurity. Therefore, parents must remember not to quarrel in front of their children and not to be rude.
2. Don't complain about life or show decadent mood in front of children.
Parents are children's biggest backers, and their attitude towards life directly affects children's sense of security and confidence in growth. Parents often complain about life in front of their children, or often show decadent emotions, which will expose their children to the pressure of society or life prematurely and make them feel insecure psychologically. Doubt or decadent attitude towards life may be accompanied by children's growth, which makes children suffer undue pressure in body and mind prematurely.
Therefore, it is especially necessary to remind parents and friends that no matter how difficult or frustrated you are temporarily, please don't complain about life in front of your children and don't show decadent emotions for their healthy growth.
Don't scold or criticize others in front of children.
Some parents often do not hesitate to scold or criticize others in front of their children. These parents think that their children are young and ignorant, and scolding or criticizing others in front of them has no effect on their children. In fact, this is not only a very bad lifestyle, but also a bad way of education that is harmful to the healthy growth of children.
Such behavior will make children doubt their parents' daily formal education, and also make them learn this bad lifestyle, thus distorting their minds and greatly affecting their mental health.
Don't express your views on things in extreme tone in front of children.
Some parents and friends have extreme personalities and extreme views on things, and often express extreme language on their children. Psychologists believe that parents' excessive words and emotions will make children's psychology change in an extreme direction, which will have a negative impact on children's character building and psychological development.
Therefore, for the sake of children's mental health development, don't express your views on things in extreme tone in front of children. From China Early Education Network, Yanyuan Bosi Psychological Counseling Center.