1. The more people, the better

Companionship is the best early education, and companionship is the longest confession, which has already been deeply rooted in people's hearts. But there are also some mothers, especially some working mothers, who spend less time with their children because of their work. They always feel that they are not accompanied enough and have a strong sense of guilt for their children.

With the growth of children, it is not necessarily necessary for children to stay with them.

Happy mother and baby

2. Accomplish task-based companionship

Accompanying children is the task that parents have been hanging on the memo.

Or because of busy work or many social activities, I don't want to put down my mobile phone and turn off my computer when I am with my children, thinking that I am a good father and mother. This "being together" with children in space is companionship, not companionship.

3. I hope children can learn something.

When I accompany my children, I always hope they can learn something. For example, I hope to exercise their logical thinking by building blocks and improve their reading ability by reading. But children are often not interested and just want to play hide-and-seek over and over again. This kind of companionship not only hits the children, but also wears away the patience of parents and makes them exhausted.

4. the theory of supreme goodness

Experts say that reading picture books and making up stories can help enhance creativity and imagination, but children won't listen and let him make up stories, and they can't tell why. It's really tiring to accompany the children!

Painting with children, but in the blink of an eye, he painted everywhere. It takes longer to clean up than to play, and all the beauty is gone.

In the process of companionship, children are troubled and twisted, and adults are full of anger, which is not as beautiful as imagined.

When parents, especially mothers, accompany their children when they are under too much pressure, lack of sleep, guilt and anxiety, it is easy to pass on the pressure and negative emotions to their children, which is not good for their growth. Therefore, it is more important for you to accompany your child with guilt, persecution, heavy feelings, or with a casual, carefree and relaxed state than what games you play with your child.

Children need different companionship when they grow up. Before the age of 3, children need personal company.

In the first three years after birth, children must rely on the care and care of adults to grow up. Combining the physiological and psychological characteristics of children's development can give children better companionship.

? 0 ~ 1.5 years old is the baby's mouth desire period.

At this stage, children often eat their hands constantly, and everything they get should be licked and tasted. This is the normal stage of children's development. It is necessary to satisfy their desire to explore and ensure the safety and hygiene of their exploration.

? 1.5 ~ 2 years old is the sensitive period of baby's details and language.

At this stage, babies will be very sensitive to small things, as if they have a "microscope" in their eyes, which can reach the microscopic world that adults can't see and understand. For example, they will be interested in various vulnerabilities and bugs. Therefore, in companionship, children can be guided to observe nature, such as observing ants and frogs, or finding out details such as small illustrations in picture books, which can cultivate their ability to observe details.

Moreover, at this stage, no matter what children don't understand, it is necessary to provide children with the necessary language nourishment, and the whole communication between parents and children is very necessary.

? 2 ~ 3 years old is the stubborn period of the baby.

With the development of baby's ability and the strengthening of independent consciousness, children will be particularly stubborn in living habits, order, order, and item placement. If they are not satisfied, they will cry and lose their temper. In companionship, helping children to establish an orderly environment without violating their wishes will be beneficial to their growth.

Before the age of 3, although children have a high demand for personal companionship, mothers don't need to be online 24 hours a day. Being single also has disadvantages, which easily leads to children's excessive dependence on their mothers, but it is not good for their social development. The growth of children also needs the company of fathers and other family members.

After the age of 3, children need vigilant companionship.

After the age of 3, many children's abilities have also been developed. They don't need you to stay with them anymore. On the contrary, they are eager to have their own space.

At this time, the children began to go to kindergarten one after another. We need to let children have their own independent space and thinking space. Parental companionship gradually changed into vigilant psychological companionship.