? We have been receiving all kinds of education since birth: prenatal education for pregnant women, early childhood education, various interest classes in primary schools, various make-up classes, various trainings, different types, different models, different people and various forests. There are different types of counseling institutions in different periods in primary schools, junior high schools and senior high schools.
? Primary school stage: interest class, afternoon class, evening class, cram school, high school class.
? Middle school stage: all kinds of remedial classes, mainly remedial classes.
? Lunch classes and evening self-study classes mainly depend on the environment and meals, and interest classes can be considered according to their interests. This paper mainly analyzes the remedial classes of remedial learning types as an example. Facing the same but different educational institutions, what should parents and children do? How should they choose to let their children receive real quality education, get twice the result with half the effort in their studies and make their grades soar?
? (1) Parents and children: I just hope my academic performance can be improved. In fact, it mainly depends on the score. If the test score is high, it means progress. If the score drops, it means that it has regressed, or it belongs to invalid tutoring.
? (2) Counseling institutions: Profitability is definitely the first (this is understandable, the teaching and training industry is also an enterprise, and maximizing benefits is the goal of the enterprise). As parents should understand and support, all publicity is actually around this ultimate goal.
(1) Parents' behavior pattern: Through publicity, advertising, listening to the introductions of relatives and friends, and the recommendation of teachers and parents of students, they receive the publicity information of enrollment in the teaching and training industry, and rush around like sick to find all kinds of so-called "famous teachers". Once you find a teacher that your child likes and a teacher who gives you a "guiding light" in organizing publicity, you will immediately pay for class without any thinking. You just want to seize this lifeline without thinking about the feasibility of the method at all, not to mention how much water and exaggeration this kind of propaganda has, whether it violates the basic law between pay and harvest, whether it only strengthens the results and weakens the process, and whether it only boasts about its unique teaching methods and process.
? Parents don't make any analysis on their children's learning content in each class, the teacher's educational philosophy, teaching mode and teaching method, whether the child's main "symptoms" are diagnosed, whether the main symptoms are "the right medicine", what the effect is, whether it is a short-term curative effect or a long-term benefit, but only listen to others say that this teacher teaches well and that teacher teaches well. There are scores here and breakthroughs there. What's more, I don't know where or why. Everything comes from listening and speaking, lacking my own analysis and judgment, and only a schoolbag full of tuition fees and good expectations for the results are brought to class.
? Many parents never summarize and analyze what their children have learned with their children after class. What's more, they never contact the make-up teacher to ask about their children's tutoring, let alone adjust and correct their learning behavior in time. As soon as the tuition fee is paid, parents seem to be relieved. "Son, mother can only help you here. You don't want to eat or wear. I can't blame my mother for giving the big one to the small one. You have worked hard and earned some money. If you don't study hard in the future! "
? Some parents may retort that we all decided after consulting and comparing many institutions. Excuse me, what is the process of your inspection and what is the content of comparison? What is the basis of your decision? Is the sermon you received reasonable, opportunistic, logical and unearned? Have you seriously considered all the points mentioned above? Or do you just have a good eye and perform "painting cakes" with a "panacea" and wait for the teacher to brainwash you?
? After a period of study, I found that children's grades have not improved significantly. At this time, parents began to unconsciously "external attribution" and denied the teaching standards of the tutors and educational institutions they had chosen before, and various problems surfaced one after another. At the same time, I began to inquire, inquire and search, and started a new round of "famous teacher" search. Riding a bike, wading through mountains and rivers, not afraid of hardship, rain or shine, institutions have changed one after another, teachers have changed one after another, and the final results are average. It seems that parents and children will never achieve the desired results. Dear parents, think about whether you have come all the way. Calculate, since the child first reported to work, you have changed several houses, how much did it cost?
? (B) Students' behavior patterns: The reason for poor grades is still a natural "external attribution", which is attributed to the fact that school teachers speak fast, and they can't understand what they say and can't keep up with the rhythm of school teachers. Although they can understand it, they just can't do it when they encounter problems. Too many poor students in the class affect his study, and he can't find anything he doesn't understand, and he is embarrassed to ask the teacher if he does. He doesn't give lectures. He has too much homework to finish, so he has no time. I really hope that by changing the surrounding environment and hiring famous teachers with high salaries, my grades will be significantly improved.
? Frequently changing from one place to another, from one teacher to another, all the choices are based on listening to classmates, parents, friends, teachers and the person in charge of enrollment in counseling institutions. Which teacher teaches well, which institution is in strict control, which classmate's grades have improved, and where can I have my own classmates and acquaintances in counseling classes? Everything is just to create an environment and atmosphere you want. Everything only sees the result after success, but never pays attention to the hardships and bitterness of the process from goal to result.
(3) The hope behind parents' and students' behaviors is urgent, which is what new teachers expect. When we calm down and think about it, are parents and children really looking forward to a generation of famous teachers and the way to turn the stone into gold?
? What they want more is the magic of "turning stone into gold", which is the fairy's wand. It can achieve something faster and easier in a shorter period of time, with no effort, or there is some kind of fairy secret recipe to keep the existing learning state unchanged, or with a little effort, it can learn more knowledge faster, better and easier than others and score quickly.
? Please don't deny that these are what everyone subconsciously wants most, even I am struggling to find them!
? Perhaps this statement will be questioned by parents and children:
1, instead: "I know that studying is hard, we didn't find a shortcut, and I don't want to get results quickly. I just don't know how to learn. I need the guidance of my teacher to get myself on the right track. I will study hard. "
Refutation: "Dear parents and children, don't you really know how to study?" Didn't the school teacher teach you how to study? Have you learned nothing from years of study experience? Change mentors again and again. Don't so many teachers teach you methods? Will dozens of carriers not know what a learning method is when they go to school?
? Did the teacher do his homework carefully? Did you deduce it? Have you carefully reviewed the wrong books? Can you recite all the words? Make sure that everything you learn and write can be done independently. Do you know why? Do you insist on doing every step according to the teacher's requirements?
? Try it every day, with the denial of the existing learning methods and the expectation that there will be a mysterious way to wish you success when you take a step. Excuse me, what is the learning method and what language is used to express it to you, which do you think is the learning method? "
2. Reverse: "These previous learning methods are not suitable for you."
? Refutation: "What kind of learning method do you think is suitable for you? In fact, you know it very well. "
The method boils down to: "Diligence can make up for mistakes, stupid birds fly first, preview before class, listen carefully in class, ask teachers and classmates if you don't understand, listen to them again and again until you understand every knowledge point, then sort out the wrong questions and questions one by one, practice the wrong questions repeatedly, review them carefully again and again, and solve the blind spots of knowledge one by one." Do one question after another, make sure (pay attention to ensure) that the questions you do are true. Everyone knows that because of this, make clear the knowledge points you want to test, which knowledge points to use, how to use them, understand them one by one, practice them one by one, and don't stop until you reach your goal. "
3, anti: "I really work hard, but I just can't learn!"
? Refutation: "What is real effort?
? To sum up: "Look at your study from the perspective of a bystander. You do your homework every day, but you still don't know what you can't do in your homework. The wrong question is still wrong. What you don't understand today is still unknown tomorrow. You have made one set of tutoring materials after another. You will never review them to ensure the correctness of your knowledge. Despite all the difficulties, you never have enough strength to make progress. You just chickened out and never dug deep. How can you make progress? "
? What you do is to mechanically repeat what you have learned, and never solve the problem you can't, because what you can't learn is difficult, and what you have learned is easy to do! Is this your so-called effort? "
? In the face of unsatisfactory exams again and again, groups of counseling institutions and tutors who are not in the eyes of students and parents are looking for it day after day, expecting, progressing, regressing, progressing and regressing year after year. In the end, you are still you, I am still me!
? There may be another parent who wants to raise the threshold: "If you learn correctly, you can get twice the result with half the effort and take fewer detours. Mastering some learning skills will help you solve problems quickly and get points quickly. "
? I quite agree with this question, but I also want to explain: "Being is reasonable. Good learning methods, big tricks and problem-solving ideas can certainly help learning, but this is conditional."
? First of all, we should recognize who they are helping. Those who love to study, study hard and get good grades, but their efficacy is slightly lower, I hope they can work harder and become better. The key is that these students have excellent grades, can endure hardships, can persist and can struggle, so that teachers can shine at the moment with a little guidance.
? Secondly, skills are built on a certain basis. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect, and familiarity is the premise. Practice first and then practice. Every year, there are always some remedial classes to explain the skills of sprinting before the exam, and some people always ask whether such courses are effective. What I want to say is that if you have a solid basic skills, such a famous teacher will definitely help you, but if you can't even master the basic formula theorem, how can you talk about skills empty-handed?
? Some people may say: xxxx's children have made rapid progress after making up lessons. There must be a teacher's indelible contribution here, but the real reason for the child's progress must be that he can persistently complete all the work to be done according to the teacher's requirements. He wants to learn and he has suffered.
Therefore, the same teacher, the same institution, others can make progress, not necessarily their own children!
? (D) the behavior pattern of counseling institutions: the purpose determines the behavior. As a counseling institution of an enterprise, it is natural to pursue the maximization of interests, and it should never be the reason for some parents and students to make bad friends with institutions and teachers.
Under the guidance of interests, the main tasks of institutions and teachers are to push and sell classes. Large class teaching, small class teaching, one-to-one, one-to-two, famous teacher lecture hall, training class, special training class, guaranteed class, synchronous lecture class, intensive class, pre-test punching class, signing over-the-line class and various classes.
? What is their essence? Are they different?
? Many people may talk about the differences, advantages, advantages and disadvantages of each class. Think carefully, the essence of all kinds of classes is teaching, and teachers impart knowledge to students. In the complicated packaging, whoever knows it will master it. Whoever learns will make progress; Who pays, who gains!
? Just like M-Zone Package, 38 yuan Package, GSM Package, etc. Except for different charges, the most essential services offered by communication companies are the same, that is, calling and information transmission. This is called: homogeneous service in management; Psychologically called: limited choices!
? In order to achieve this marketing goal, apart from different classes, there are different activities, different preferential policies, different soft and hard advertisements and different publicity modes. Audition, trial lecture, tuition refund, scholarships, summer camps, foreign teachers, study tours, exam lectures and other forms are dazzling and countless. As for the quality of classes and teaching, different people have different views. As long as the teacher teaches him what he should teach, institutions and teachers will fulfill their obligations. As for the rapid improvement of scores, it is the "unrequited luxury" of these poor parents and children!
? I believe in one sentence: "Anything that is illogical must be problematic." Acts that violate the laws of human learning, right brain development, new thinking, new methods and high efficiency "step by step, many a mickle makes a mickle" are definitely problematic and ineffective.
? Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "no pains, no gains" and "Rome was not built in a day". Then why does such an institution still exist? Because I also believe in a sentence: "Existence is reasonable, and there is demand and there is market". Although these so-called learning methods are not desirable from the perspective of learning, they are in line with the law of market development because too many parents and students have such needs. They are eager to find a way to improve their grades quickly, a teacher who can help him make up lessons and make his grades soar, and an institution that can make them sweat as much as they do now, but can double their grades quickly.
? Parents and students are looking forward to such a "magical effect" and such a "dream come true". In this way, counseling institutions have changed one after another, and counseling teachers have changed one after another, changing, thinking, dreaming ... dreaming, changing and thinking. ...
? As a remedial class for commercial organizations, it is naturally an "iron soldier", and the purpose of making money has been achieved. No matter how many cities there are, are there other common reasons for the closure of counseling institutions, large and small, besides their bloated institutions, high rent and personnel expenses, which lead to their inability to make ends meet? Has anyone seen a remedial class with only teachers and no students? No matter how many students there are, even if there is only one student, as soon as the door is opened, someone will go to class. No matter whether the teaching is good or bad, some people will think that they have found a "famous teacher". This is the lifeline they want to save their lives.
Attitude determines everything, please return to the original point of counseling!
? The so-called counseling means that after studying at school, you really have some knowledge you don't understand, sort it out by yourself, go to the remedial class on time every day like going to work, and have no chance to find a school teacher to solve it, instead of being empty-handed and ignorant of your own problems.
? Looking up at the starry sky every day at school, I learned nothing. Make up lessons quickly after school and on weekends. I usually live like a criminal. Detained by school during the day, like a star on weekends. At one time, my parents sent me to the East and West as an agent. I never had a self. I don't even know what I'm missing, let alone what I want. Of course, I got nothing in the end!
? Speaking of which, how to choose counseling institutions and tutors? Have you learned?
? Since ancient times, "strict teacher has made a great teacher". I don't know when "strict teacher" was replaced by "famous teacher", but this so-called "famous teacher" is just some halo on the teacher's head! This aura will not illuminate the students' way forward, because the road is bumpy, and only the students' own hands can cut through the thorns and fight their way out!
? In fact, there is no essential difference between how to choose a tutor and an educational institution! The only difference is how to use the resources in your hands. The soaring grades only exist in your dreams!
? Choose a tutor, a tutor institution, calm down, make steady progress and give full play to the role of a tutor. Don't let the tutor take him. Let the tutor become a tool to serve yourself. When there is no difficulty, teachers outside these schools can appear at any time to solve our problems. When there is no difficulty, we should try our best to move forward bravely. Every time you attend a tutoring class, you should come prepared, and more importantly, you should come home empty-handed. "
? You got it?
Finally, parents should stop saying that they have no time to help themselves. If children can change, all the reasons why parents can't do it are so pale and powerless, let alone just let you be the master!