At this age, my daughter is independent and can go to the bathroom by herself and put on and take off less complicated clothes by herself.
The first kindergarten is a relatively small kindergarten near home. Usually the kindergarten will be open for a period of time after school, and the children nearby will go there to play. I'm just taking my daughter to get familiar with the environment so that she can adapt better after leaving her mother.
Sure enough, after going there often, my daughter agreed to go to school there.
On the first day of school, my daughter got up early to get dressed and carried a small schoolbag issued by kindergarten. She looks like a pupil. I took her by the hand and took her to the breakfast shop next to the kindergarten for breakfast, and then I sent her to the kindergarten. As soon as you enter the door, there will be a warm reception from the teacher, and the daughter will be very good and greet the teacher with other children. Then she waved goodbye to me. She went in before I could change my mood.
Slowly, I feel very at ease with my children. I feel so relieved to go to kindergarten.
After about two months, my daughter suddenly rejected kindergarten and didn't like reading very much. When she came back, she left her schoolbag behind. I asked her if she was happy in kindergarten, and she said yes.
But when I went to kindergarten the next morning, I refused to go in and cried at the door. I stayed with her for a while and she tugged at my trouser leg. Although she stopped crying, she didn't let go. Her empty eyes looked at the ground. Seeing the stalemate, the teacher indicated that I could go, and I was worried. The teacher said that children are like this, and it would be good if mom left. Seeing that I was leaving, my daughter shed tears again. She cried loudly and looked at me piteously with her eyes. The teacher hurried her daughter into the classroom, and I escaped.
In this way, I repeat it almost every day. After another week, I finally couldn't help looking for the teacher to understand the situation. The teacher said that the child is very good but introverted and does not like to talk, and may still lack independence.
I don't understand. If my daughter is introverted and independent, why did it take more than two months to show up? The teacher said that many children are like this. If they were older, they would only go to the garden and cry for a while. It's okay.
Although I am worried about it, I still comfort myself. Maybe after a while, just like the teacher said.
Every day when my daughter comes back, I ask her, what did the kindergarten do today? Is the game you play interesting? Can you teach your mother to play? Because I think if my daughter thinks kindergarten is a happy game, maybe she will get better gradually.
Until one day, my aunt's daughter visited my house.
Aunt's daughter Lele and my daughter are in a kindergarten, a few months younger than my daughter, and often play together. We adults are talking in the living room, and they are playing beside us. Soon, their games attracted us adults.
The daughter took a pencil and pretended to be a teacher. "Quiet, quiet, it's too noisy." She frowned and slammed the pencil on the table, which made her look like a strict teacher.
Lele on the stool below quickly shut up and patted the doll on the stool next to her, as if to remind her to shut up quickly. The teacher is watching.
We adults are too happy to bother them with a smile.
The daughter put down the pencil ruler and pointed to Lele and said, "Lele, the fruit is so annoying." The whole class is noisy and doesn't listen to the teacher and sticks their mouths together. "
Lele stood up at once, because she got up so fast that her lovely little body almost fell down. She ran to the drawer and took out my usual scotch tape, tore off a piece and stuck it on the doll's mouth with the tape ring.
In this way, the "little teacher" was still unconvinced and went straight up to grab the doll and threw it on the ground, not forgetting to make up a foot.
Then I picked up the doll and threw a parabola into the kitchen, slamming the doors of the living room and the room. I said angrily, "Cry, cry, I told you not to listen to the teacher, and I will lock you in the dark room today." It's no use calling mom. You have to come to kindergarten tomorrow ... "
We adults watched in horror. What kind of classroom game is this? Where did the children learn it?
The next day, I went to the kindergarten to find the director. The headmaster called Mr. Fang, who was imitated by the children, and said to me, you see how gentle our teacher is. How could he do such a thing? It's impossible.
Teacher Fang looks very young, looks really sweet, and seems to have no psychological problems.
However, she said there was a way to close the darkroom, but there was no way to stick the mouth with tape.
But what she said seems to be a very common thing. It looks like I'm making a mountain out of a molehill.
When I came back, I told the children that you don't have to go to that kindergarten anymore, and I will give you a new kindergarten. The two children are very happy. They ate a big bowl of rice that night and revealed that the teacher had threatened them to be happy in kindergarten. Whoever made a mistake will make you look good the next day. Children may not understand the meaning of "you look good", but they understand the teacher's meaning.
The new kindergarten has been inspected for a long time, and it is still true. The child is not independent and no longer goes to kindergarten to cry. They are happy every day.
What I want to say is that if children can't adapt to kindergarten for a long time, then parents may have to change their environment.
Up to now, I have no evidence to prove whether there is a problem with kindergarten teachers. After all, the child is still young, and it is impossible for others to believe what he said, let alone testify. But I think so. Mothers must trust their children and give them the greatest sense of security.