Son 1 year, 10 month. After a day's work, I always ask my grandmother, "Grandma, is the baby good today?" Grandma has often said reproachfully recently, "OK?" More and more naughty, I learned to talk back today. "
Many parents will find that when their children are one and a half years old, they are no longer the lovely group with healing smiles and obedient children, but become more and more thoughtful and tempered.
1. 1.5-3-year-old children's common manifestations: I will say no, and I recently bathed my son and got dressed. My son didn't wear it anyway. He said "no, no" and ran to the living room. When I chased him to the living room to "catch" him getting dressed, he grabbed the clothes and threw them on the ground, shouting "pig!" Grandma, who knows the child, said helplessly, "Your son is going there to wear George's clothes." Makes me laugh and cry. Throw things. Take my son downstairs to play with children. My little friend Hao Hao stared at the toy truck in his hand. I said to my son, "Baby, share this toy with Hao Hao. Hao Hao likes your car. " My son suddenly threw the car to the ground. I quickly picked it up and said to my son, "What's the matter? I'm not happy." The son still pouted and threw the car further ... and lost his temper. Grandma cooks in the kitchen, and her son and sister play with toys in the living room. My son suddenly ran to the kitchen and stamped his feet and cried. Grandma asked, "What happened to the baby?" My son leaned forward and hurried to the sofa in the living room, still crying. He picked him up and patted him on the back to comfort him. Then his crying gradually stopped and he said, "I'm hungry." Some precious mothers in the community would also say that children at home bite when they are happy and pull each other when playing with friends. If parents want to know what is the motivation behind these performances, they need to understand the psychological characteristics of children at this stage. 1 year and a half is the embryonic stage of children's self-awareness. "Who am I?" "Where am I from?" The child's little brain began to think about these problems. They are confused, explore hard and actively understand the difference between themselves and others.
2. 1.5-3 years old children's psychological characteristics The famous psychologist Erickson's development stage theory holds that life can be divided into eight stages, and each stage has tasks to be completed:
Infants (0 ~ 1.5 years old): psychological conflict between basic trust and distrust.
Childhood (1.5 ~ 3 years old): the conflict between autonomy and shyness (or doubt)
Early school age (3 ~ 6 years old): conflict between initiative and guilt
School age (6 ~ 12 years old): the conflict between diligence and inferiority.
Puberty (12 ~ 18 years old): the conflict between self-identity and role confusion
Early adulthood (18 ~ 40 years old): the conflict between intimacy and loneliness
Adulthood (40 ~ 65 years old): Suffering from the conflict with self-concentration.
Maturity (over 65 years old): the conflict between self-adjustment and despair
In childhood (1.5 ~ 3 years old), children have mastered many skills, such as crawling, walking and talking. More importantly, they learned how to persist or give up, that is, children began to "have the will" to decide what to do or not to do.
1.5-3-year-old babies develop the will to make decisions independently and begin to accept social norms. Parents should guide their children to conform to social norms, what can be done and why not. If you can't press the elevator indiscriminately, you can't make a loud noise in public places. 1.5-3 years old, the baby has the first period of resistance, and the child begins to have a sense of autonomy and will say "no" to resist control. Parents need to guide their children to develop good habits, such as not wasting meals and washing their hands when going to the toilet. 1.5-3 years old, curious, trying everything, the baby will lose his temper if he can't do one thing. If parents criticize, punish or stop them too much, children will form inferiority complex, feel suspicious and shy, and will be timid when something goes wrong. 1.5-3 years old, with weak language skills. When he wants to do something unclear or his family doesn't understand his intentions, he will cry or stamp his feet. Parental comfort can help children learn to control their emotions. 1.5-3 years old children are in a sensitive period of self-awareness. The development goal behind this period is to establish the relationship between you, me and him, establish the property right relationship and start to determine your own interpersonal communication style, which needs to be respected.
Parents who understand children's psychology do this. Don't compete with children. When a child doesn't want to share, don't force him to scold him, don't say he is selfish, and respect his ownership. You know, the car in the eyes of children may be the house in the eyes of adults. I am the owner of my things. When children gradually understand the boundary between "mine" and "yours", they will be willing to exchange their own things with others and learn to share them. Distract your attention. If the child suddenly loses his temper, let him vent patiently. Parents must reason with their children when they are depressed or crying. It is undoubtedly worse, which will only make children react more violently. If it is not good, it will be out of control. Children around the age of 2 are actually very good at "coaxing". General food, toys and fresh things can successfully divert children's attention. When children are calm, you can reason with them and avoid their stubbornness. More praise and more encouragement. When children share food with you, praise "the baby is really good and knows how to love his mother." ; When a child is willing to share his toys with friends, give him a compliment "Great! Babies who share will have good friends "; When the baby patiently builds blocks, encourage him to "yes, take your time, don't worry, the patient baby will definitely build tall blocks"; Parents are constantly strengthening their children's behavior, praising them, making them happy and avoiding shame. Picture book guidance. Nowadays, many early education picture books are aimed at the problems that are easy to occur for one-month-old children. Living habits, daily etiquette, emotional control, etc. Picture books are full of childlike interest and children are willing to imitate them. Children know life from picture books, are familiar with various life scenes, and gradually transition to the cultivation of behavior habits. 1.5-3 years old is a critical sensitive period for shaping children's behavior. Smart parents are good at grasping this period and cultivating children's good character and habits. Parents should lead by example, teach by example, patiently guide their children, and explore the secrets of the sensitive period of self-awareness with their children in order to successfully pass this rebellious period of "everyone is annoying".