Parents like him abound, and everyone ignores that children are "social learners". It seems that "chatting" that has nothing to do with study can make them better.
Useful "small talk"
It is amazing that the conversation between parents and children can affect the biological growth of children's brains. Smart kids are chatting! Chatting is not only language communication, but also body movements and facial expressions, as well as reaction ability and social information. Children not only develop their language skills in chatting, but also develop their social skills and oral reasoning skills.
Class differentiation based on vocabulary
The "30-million-word gap", which has aroused widespread concern in the education sector, reveals the fact that children born in poor families will hear 30 million fewer English words at the age of 4 than children born in rich families. By the time they are 10 years old, the result of the return visit is that the children with large vocabulary have outstanding academic achievements.
Chatting is more useful than reading
Based on the research of "30 million words gap", more parents began to pay attention to their children's reading, and even took special picture book early education classes. Can increasing vocabulary really make your baby better? In a recent study jointly conducted by Massachusetts, Harvard University and the University of Pennsylvania, scientists surveyed more than 30 children in the Boston area. The results show that the influence of vocabulary on the brain has nothing to do with quantity, but is closely related to the number of conversations. In other words, those active children are "chatting".
How to "chat" with children at different stages
Many parents will say that we certainly know the benefits of communicating with children, but we really don't know what to say to them. Especially those babbling babies who are 1 2 years old. Do you want me to talk to him seriously? In fact, chatting includes not only language and pronunciation, but also your expressions and gestures. Even if you are a baby, your parents can "chat" with him.
Talking to a newborn baby is a bit like casting pearls before swine for parents. But as long as you look carefully, you will find that Eva is actually looking at you. In a short waking state, the baby will carefully observe your expression and lip movement when you speak, and you can also use expression feedback. Eva can distinguish more tones than we thought. Soon he will be able to establish the connection between sound and objects, and he will know that the milk you are talking about is the delicious thing.
For Ma Bao, this stage is very boring. But chatting is still necessary. When Dabao is still in his second month, I will treat him as an audience and talk to him about my thoughts.
Language-gesture expression stage (7- 12 months)
Ma Bao must have experienced the stage when you said "Where is the tiger", and the baby recognized it with his little hand. Or he couldn't figure out where the tiger was, so he showed a puzzled expression. Or if you say we are nursing, he will giggle. By this time, Eva already knew what you were talking about, and chatting became more interesting. Ma Bao can often have this conversation with the baby, and add actions to the conversation, and at the same time mobilize the baby's vision and hearing. It is a good way to learn animal sounds and movements.
Simple dialogue stage (1 -2 years old)
If the one-year-old baby has mastered some vocabulary, Ma Bao can have a more complicated question-and-answer "chat" with the baby. From these conversations, the mother can master the child's learning style, thus better helping him learn language and other aspects of learning.
Bauer likes to repeat the last sentence I said, for example, I said, honey, do you want some water? He will think about it and say: drink water. In repetition, he confirmed that this state is called drinking water, and drinking water has something to do with the straw cup. Every time I pick up the straw cup, he will say, drink water. Ma Bao can express her opinion in daily care and say that I think this meal is delicious. You can also ask yourself and answer yourself. For example, if you see a flower, you can ask: Is this flower beautiful? Beautiful, isn't it?
Question and answer stage (2 -4 years old)
Ask yourself more and answer yourself more, and the baby will know how to answer. At the same time, he will find this question and answer very interesting. There are many picture books that can also be used for learning. I have to mention Grandpa Carl's omnipotent "Brown Bear What Do You See", and the sentence pattern in it is a good form of dialogue. Going out for a walk, I pushed Bauer into the yard and asked, Baby, what do you see? He looked around and stepped on the rhythm and said, I see a tree, I see a tree. It would be better to have two babies at home. I have seen these two brothers play this game several times.
Ask and answer to cultivate children's observation ability. To see the world from your own perspective, you can always ask a question. Just like seeing a tree in the yard, you can ask, what kind of tree is this? Tall trees; What color are his leaves, yellow; Why is it yellow? Because it's autumn.
Chat stage (after 4 years old)
All of the above are chats. The reason why the chat stage is taken out separately is because at this stage, we should encourage children to be real "chatters": to make their own voices and express their views. Expressing opinions is a very complicated thinking training, which requires observation, thinking and summary. Chatting with children often in this way is of great benefit to his thinking development and self-confidence cultivation.
In my family, this kind of chat is basically carried out with my husband and Dabao. When Dabao Kindergarten comes back, he will tell us what happened in the kindergarten. Although these things are boring, my father and I will still talk about our own views, basically from the perspective of teachers and parents. Dabao only made a brief comment at first. For example, Zhang Yuhan hit Wang Leyi today, and the teacher criticized Zhang Yuhan. Wang Leyi also called names. Swearing is wrong.
Dad sometimes leads him to think. Does he have to hit someone when he is scolded? What else can I do? Later, Dabao also learned to draw inferences from others, sometimes expressing the views that we are all surprised, such as thinking that the competition doesn't have to be the first. Bao Xiaotong often listens, and after a long time, he will also participate in the discussion.
Matters needing attention in chatting with children
For children who can chat formally, as parents, they should not only take the initiative to chat with their children, but also establish a good family atmosphere to encourage their children to think and express.
The right time and place
Chatting can be done anytime and anywhere, but it is best for everyone to put aside what they are doing and get together. In my family, basically, before eating and going to bed, we talk about different topics. At dinner, people will discuss problems. Before going to bed, children basically express their emotions.
Correct attitude and equal dialogue.
Talking with children, the taboo thing is that parents are doing what they are doing and chatting absently. There is a big gap between children's understanding of language and adults'. The tone and expression in the chat are the elements to help him understand and think correctly. One thing is not suitable for chatting with children.
Leading a War: Creating Simple Speculation
When children can express their views fluently and even think deeper. We can set some topics that are easy to cause "arguments", so that children can exercise their thinking and learn to look at problems from another angle. At the same time, teach children how to control their emotions and think rationally when facing different viewpoints.
Don't be afraid of "new words"
A friend of mine told me that when chatting with children, he would think about what he wanted to say, and then change what he thought children would not understand into what children could understand. This is completely unnecessary unless you are full of academic vocabulary. Children will guess the meaning of words according to the context. If they really don't understand, they will ask you. Don't forget, children need to master more and more detailed vocabulary by chatting with you.