Parents of Xueba: Good genes are not inherited, and it is tears to say too much.
"The couple was admitted to the key middle school 985 all the way, and his father was the worst one in the second place. Growing up, we never let our parents worry. I didn't expect our children to be the opposite of us. Originally, I thought it was enough to learn casually in primary school, and there was not much pressure for children to be in the top five of the class. Middle schools can also study hard, and study can be done by themselves. Parents just need to show up at the parent-teacher meeting and get the teacher's praise. But now they are completely hit in the face by reality, and their son's study is countdown without daily tutoring. Only after tutoring can he get a medium grade. Teachers criticize every day, and they take turns to compensate smiling faces. Tutoring homework made us almost guillotine, making chickens fly and dogs jump every night and sighing. The child really doesn't know who he looks like. God sent us to torture us! Both IQ and EQ are innate and have nothing to do with heredity! "This is what netizens said on the Internet.
This is not a case. If you enter the keyword "Xueba's parents are scum children", a lot of related posts will pop up on the Internet immediately. In the "accusation" of Xueba's parents, most of the models are the same: both parents are high flyers, who have won prizes in various academic competitions since childhood. I think this gene is also a "top match". As a result, the children came, either at the bottom of the grade or "looking for parents" for three days, which made the parents of Xueba "seriously injured". "It's tears to talk too much." Parents "cry without tears" on the Internet.
Children fight back: don't label your children as "school scum" too early.
Why do Xueba's parents raise "scum" children? Is it really a genetic problem? Teacher Yan of Xilong Primary School in Changsha told the story of a pair of twin children's counterattack.
Lili and Shuangshuang are twin sisters in grade five of Xilong Primary School. Their parents, one is a master student in Tsinghua University, and the other is a journalism graduate of Wuhan University-the real "schoolmaster" parents. But their children don't like studying very much, and both of them are at the bottom of the class.
Teacher Yan said that she also communicated with their parents for this reason, and their parents also looked very anxious and lamented that their children did not inherit their own genes. Later, after several times of telephone communication without any improvement, Teacher Yan decided to make a home visit.
"When I arrived at their home, I found that the two children were basically in charge of a rural nanny. Their parents are workaholics, and there are only a handful of time to get in close contact with their two children in a week. " Teacher Yan said that after the home visit, she had a face-to-face conversation with her children's parents, hoping that they would not miss the most important stage of their children's growth education and spend more time with their children, and said that they would "supervise" them remotely. Three months later, both children's grades have made obvious progress, and parents suddenly realized that their poor academic performance is not genetic, but a lack of attention and companionship.
Teacher Yan said that another teacher told her about a similar incident. A pair of schoolmasters met a son, and some subjects were particularly serious, especially mathematics. At first, parents were also sighing and annoyed.
Later, they listened to the advice of a psychologist, and began to interact with children frequently in math games, gradually making children interested in math. Later, they selected some very interesting math popular science books for their son. Unexpectedly, the children really read it, and they were no longer so disgusted with math classes, and their grades rose steadily. As a result, the parents of this pair of "schoolmasters" realized that the original child was "unable" in learning, which was a problem with the way of education.
Teacher Yan said that objectively speaking, the development speed of each child is different. Some children, especially individual boys, have relatively slow mental development, but this does not mean that such children have no future. Therefore, she believes that parents should not rush to make a judgment of "learning dregs" for children in the lower grades of primary school.
Expert: Raise children slowly and wait for the flowers to bloom.
However, some experts said that some of these parents' spit seems to be an illusion, that is, the children are still young and can't draw conclusions. Therefore, although children have various bad performances, they are excusable. And the child's grades are not good for the time being, which does not mean that it will be bad in the future; Children can't keep up with other students in reading comprehension and acceptance for the time being, and they can't cover up other advantages. More importantly, children should find reasons for their shortcomings from their parents. In view of children's present situation, parents' scientific guidance and acceptance are the key points. "Spend more time with your children, help them develop good study habits and cultivate their sense of responsibility for their own learning. I believe that children will make progress slowly, and children will continue to make progress because of their parents' understanding and tolerance, benefiting for life. This is much more reliable than simply complaining about their poor academic performance. "
Text: Today's Women's Daily/Wang Feng reporter Zhang Qingqing
Bian Xiao: Qing.
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