Parents with children at home must know that naughty children always make a scene at home, even arguing and fighting with their children over toys. They didn't listen to anything, and they were distressed to hit him, so they had to coax him along with him. But parents should be careful, your overindulgence will make children develop bad habits! Ten misunderstandings of early education that are easily overlooked, mom and dad should keep in mind!

The easily overlooked misunderstanding of early education 1: fear of competition among children.

Situation: As usual, my mother went to the kindergarten to pick up the children after work, but when she got there, she found that he was competing with the children for a small robot. Both of them held the robot tightly and kicked it around. Mother began to have a headache again, so she ran to coax Tong Tong and said, "Don't rob Tong Tong. Mom will go back and buy one just like you. " It took a long time for Tong Tong to let go and go home with her mother, but her mother began to worry about whether the children would be violent if they were competitive.

In fact, mothers don't have to have such a headache, and the struggle between children may not be as terrible as imagined. Knowing competition is an instinct for children to grow up, and it is a manifestation of children bravely fighting for what they want. On the contrary, if children are too timid to compete, what can they do when they grow up?

At this time, we need the correct guidance of parents to encourage children to fight for it, but we should also tell him that everything that belongs to them and they like can be fought for, but never beat or bully them.

Misunderstanding 2 of early education that is easily overlooked: worrying too much about children's behavior.

Situation: Today is the weekend. Five-year-old Mingming is going to play with the children in her neighbor's house. But as soon as I heard that the child was going out, my mother became nervous. She is always worried about whether the child will fall, choke when drinking drinks, and be cheated by bad people. After thinking for a long time, her mother still thinks that Yao should stay at home and not allow him to go out.

Since childhood, parents always take care of their children everywhere, fearing that their children will be hurt a little. In this way, their children are more vulnerable, do not know how to take care of themselves, and always look depressed when encountering difficulties, which will inevitably affect their growth. If you don't even let the children drink water and climb the low stool, will they be afraid when they grow up and encounter greater difficulties?

Of course, parents should keep an eye on their children to avoid serious accidents, but they should also let him do something within his power. For example, if a child wants to move a stool to get cookies on the table, mother should not stop him immediately, just watch carefully. Even if he accidentally falls, encourage him to stand up by himself, and then carefully check whether the child has fallen.

Misunderstanding of early education that is easy to be ignored: self-righteous "lies"

Situation: When I came home from work, my father finally had time to play with Ann, but then my colleague just called, and my father took the phone impatiently and said that he had hung up before he got home. At this time, An An wondered, "Why did Dad lie?"

Sometimes, adults will lie unintentionally. Even if the lies of adults are sometimes well-intentioned, children are taught that "lying is a bad boy" from an early age. When they see their parents lying, they will be confused, or think that their parents are lying to them, so what will they do?

Even if parents tell some white lies to others in order to coax or accompany their children, they should be careful not to let their children find out and set a wrong example for them, so that parents will lose credibility in front of their children and it is difficult to guarantee that their children will follow suit. Even if the child is found to be lying, it should be remedied in time. For example, a mother can tell her child, "Dad just lied, and the baby can't learn, so criticize him."

Misunderstanding 4 of early education that is easily overlooked: overemphasizing the concept of "winning"

Scene: Tintin is going to take part in a dance competition. Mom and dad are happier than Ding Ding. They practice dancing with her every day and often encourage Tintin to say, "Come on, baby, baby will win!" " "

In fact, parents overemphasize the concept of "winning", and it is easy for children to form the concept of "winning no matter what they do", so if a child wins the first place successfully, he will feel more complacent and start to look down on other children. However, if you lose, children may start to be afraid because of disappointment or fear of being scolded by their parents. Your children attach too much importance to success, and your psychological quality is easy to become fragile, which is not conducive to your healthy growth.

In the process of children's growth, it is necessary for parents to give their children appropriate encouragement, but don't instill the concept of "winning" in their children too early. They should seriously guide their children to treat the game correctly, especially when they don't get the first place or have poor exam results. Encourage him and tell him, "actually, the baby learned a lot, but he made a little mistake in the end." As long as the baby continues to refuel, it will definitely achieve good results next time. " Let him gradually understand that the process of learning is more important than the result.

Misunderstanding 5 of early education that is easy to be ignored: I am afraid that children will make demands on you.

Scene: 4-year-old Cong Cong always likes to ask his parents to buy him a car and a water gun. If you don't buy him, you won't eat or bathe, crying. Mom and dad have no choice but to listen to him. But you can't always depend on your children. Is there a way to kill two birds with one stone?

In fact, children after the age of 4 have gradually developed their own small ideas, so when he makes a request, we might as well listen to their ideas. It is possible that he likes cars very much and wants to buy them for collection. Parents who like collecting should not dampen their children's enthusiasm because of negligence. You can teach him how to collect the car slowly. For example, a baby can save money to buy his favorite car or help him set a small goal. For example, if the baby gets 90 points in the next exam, he will be rewarded with a car so that the child will cherish it when his wishes are met. & lt

Misunderstanding of early education that is easily overlooked 6: Doing housework requires paying.

Situation: Just after dinner, at the age of 6, she quietly took the initiative to help her clean the table and floor at home. Mom was so happy that she gave her pocket money and said, "If you do this every day after you are quiet, mom will give you 10 yuan extra pocket money every week." ……

Encourage children to do things with material rewards from an early age, such as spending 5 yuan pocket money every time they wash dishes. Although these methods can motivate children to take the initiative to do housework in a short time, it is easy for children to form the concept of paying for everything. Will they even get paid for cleaning the classroom on duty in the future? This is not conducive to children from an early age to establish the moral quality of helping others and loving labor.

In fact, there are other ways to make children happy to do housework. For example, mothers can let their children do housework with themselves, or set some small competitions for their children. For example, coax the baby to say, "Let's have a competition. Who will clean the table first?" Use some small competitions to stimulate children's interest in doing housework and so on.

Misunderstanding of early education that is easily overlooked 7: Meet the child's wishes immediately.

Situation: Miaomiao has been spoiled since he was a child. He has everything he wants. He saw his classmates carrying new schoolbags and pestered his mother to buy them as soon as he got home. In order to make Miaomiao happy, her mother immediately bought her a beautiful schoolbag, which was envied by her classmates. Miaomiao said proudly, "I went home and told my mother that my mother bought it for me right away. My mother is the best! "

Parents spoil their children from childhood and give them whatever they want, hoping to give them 100% satisfaction. But do you know that this will make children lose their desires and pursuits from an early age, and they will not understand that what they want can only be obtained through hard work. After a long time, they may be lazy, even if they like it again, they will not fight for it when they grow up.

Misunderstanding 8 of early education that is easily overlooked: "initiative" helps him distinguish right from wrong.

Scene: Meng Meng's primary school classmates come to her home to copy her homework. Hearing this, Meng Meng's mother immediately educated Meng Meng and said, "Meng Meng can't do this to the bad students who copy their homework!" Seeing that children in the neighborhood always don't like cleanliness, mother immediately said to Meng Meng, "Children who don't pay attention to hygiene are bad children. It is wrong of him to do so. Don't learn from him! " ……

Mom and dad always feel that taking the initiative to help children distinguish between right and wrong can make him take fewer detours and not learn badly like other children. Think about it carefully, parents are so active in helping their children distinguish right from wrong, telling them that this is right and that is wrong, and not letting them think. In fact, they have unconsciously imposed their own thinking on their children, which will only bind their own thinking.

In fact, there is no need for parents to tell their children right or wrong in such a hurry. They should give their children some time to think. For example, my mother can watch whether Meng Meng will lend her homework to her classmates, and then slowly teach her that "copying homework is a bad student, and Meng Meng will not do it like her classmates!" Exercise the child's thinking of judging right and wrong, so that he will not make mistakes easily when he grows up.

Misunderstanding of early education that is easily overlooked 9: Disclosing children's personal privacy at will.

Situation: Seven-year-old Mamam has started school, but she still wets the bed carelessly when she sleeps at night, and her mother doesn't know what to do. When I saw my neighbor's aunt, I began to chat with her and asked her if she had any good ideas. Maman just came home from school, heard her mother talking to her aunt, and silently lowered her head, feeling that her mother was laughing at her and didn't like her.

Many parents like to discuss their children's bad habits with their relatives and neighbors. This kind of exposure will also make children lose their goodwill and trust in their parents, and they will feel that their parents don't like themselves and will not be so close to their parents in the future.

In fact, everyone, even a child, has his privacy, and even parents can't interfere at will. Therefore, child psychologists point out that if a child involves his personal affairs or privacy in some way, adults should respect it and never expose it to outsiders.

The misunderstanding that early education is easy to be ignored 10: the compromise at the dinner table

Situation: Five-year-old Jingjing is always picky about food. If she doesn't eat fish and vegetables, she will eat hamburgers and chips, and then she will go to a fast food restaurant, otherwise she won't eat. Mother had no choice but to follow him, but Jingjing became more and more picky, and now she won't eat hamburgers.

Parents treat their children as little emperors and princesses, and they are obedient to them. Over time, children will feel that they can eat whatever they want as long as they don't eat, and they will like cheating more and more, and the farce at the dinner table will intensify.

Children are still young and only like to eat delicious food, but parents should not compromise easily. Vegetables, fruits and fish are rich in vitamins and protein. Children need a healthy diet to grow up healthily. If they don't want to eat, they can try to change their practices, make the food more delicious and cut the fruit into different shapes to attract children. If the child must not eat or force him, you can make an appointment with him, "If the baby is not picky about food these days, mom will take you to eat hamburgers on weekends" and so on.

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