After eating the fruit, the child tried to run and play barefoot on the grass. Before his little feet stretched out of the mat, he was called back by his grandmother. "Don't lie on the ground, it's dirty, come back quickly, and wear shoes if you want to play."
"Mom, let the child touch nature barefoot and let her play freely. Just watch her not get stuck in her feet and wash her feet when they are dirty."
Mother suddenly realized that it was the same, so she took her children to play on the grass and on the mound. Seeing the children playing wildly and happily, adults' hearts seemed to be released.
In fact, I observed in the park that day, and there were not a few parents who were afraid that their children would be too dirty to play.
Take out a wet tissue and wipe your hands repeatedly for fear of eating bacteria into your mouth; Be sure to put a bib on your child before eating, for fear of getting dirty clothes; The child ran and slammed the soil on the child; Children are not allowed to walk in the mud or sit on the ground casually. ...
I think the main reason why many neat mothers and grandmothers do this is that they have not been disinfected repeatedly. What if their child has cold and diarrhea and is infected by the virus? There was always endless work to be done every day. Children's clothes and shoes are dirty, so they should be washed every day. Too busy and messy!
Recently, I'm telling a series of stories about Peggy Piggy. From the interaction with children in terms of click rate, everyone likes this set of books very much, and I also like the happy atmosphere of the little pig family.
One of the links impressed me deeply, that is, Peggy's favorite activity turned out to be jumping up and down in a muddy puddle! Jump up and down in the mud! ) I am very happy to see the scene of adults and children jumping in the mud pit together, splashing mud all over their bodies and then laughing.
This also reminds me of the previous "Where is Dad Going", and there are also pictures of adults playing with their children in the mud pit.
I believe many parents are not as crazy as taking their children to play. The reason is nothing more than fear that the baby will get dirty, which is both troublesome and afraid of getting sick.
However, in foreign countries, this messy gameplay has become accustomed to it since childhood.
Yes, what I want to say today is that 90% of parents in China don't do it-Messi play!
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Messy means "messy" in English, so "messy play" as its name implies is a kind of gameplay that is not afraid of the baby making everything messy. Babies can use their imaginations freely, with no rules, no guidance, no restrictions and requirements, playing at random, doodling at will, and getting dirty and covered in paints. ...
A quick brain repair, how many parents are afraid to get paint on their children's hands and clothes when their children doodle in early education classes, keep telling them, staring at them, and always help them clean and wash, which not only limits their play, but also destroys their concentration.
In fact, the activity of "chaotic play" naturally encourages and guides children to explore the world through scientific research by stimulating their various senses (including touch, smell, taste, vision and hearing). This seemingly chaotic, free play for the baby, not afraid of dirty, not afraid of chaos, is conducive to promoting children's development and learning in many aspects.
Recently, I read a book "Complete Growth" written by Sun Ruixue, which also mentioned:
Children are the masters of their own bodies. They repeatedly move their limbs to make their bodies free, which is the first freedom of children. At this stage, the activities of limbs are happiness, life, growth and everything.
Children rely on their own bodies to explore the wisdom of the body and the outside world, develop their inner talents and keen feelings for the body, thus developing their psychological field and rising to the soul, which is the beginning of all his future development.
And what does physical confinement mean for children's growth?
It is observed that if a child is bound by his body, his physical withdrawal and nervousness will lead to psychological withdrawal.
The freedom of the body is the beginning of mankind. Free use and control of your body can not only develop your body, but also develop your child's emotions, feelings, psychology, cognition and spirit. Imprisoning a person undoubtedly begins with imprisoning the body.
Only when the body can be freely controlled, children will show fresh vitality, and their limbs will be soft, open and accepted. With dignity in the body, the spine can be straight, the chest can stand up, the body can grow taller, then there is dignity in the mind, and finally there is dignity in the personality.
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I remember many years ago, when Zhao Wei played The Swallow, it was like interviewing them at Happy Camp and asking Zhao Wei why she could play the Swallow so naughty and lovely. Are you like a swallow?
At that time, Zhao Wei said something that impressed me deeply. She said that this is all due to the "tolerance" of her parents since childhood, which gave her a lot of time and space to play freely. Although she is a girl, climbing trees and playing slingshots seem to be exclusive games for "boys" when she was a child.
It is precisely because of this unrestrained childhood play that her mind becomes free and open, as if there is nothing to be afraid of and impossible, so she is more open in performance.
I remember hosting a program on the radio and the teacher gave us training. One of the lessons is acting, imitating the exaggerated movements, expressions and sounds of various animals. I hope that in this way, we can release our true nature and show our true feelings when hosting the program.
To tell the truth, if a person is bound physically for a long time, he will wrap himself up psychologically and will not let go.
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Whether online or in the circle of friends, I am often stunned by the "bold laissez-faire" of foreign mothers:
Ten-month-old baby climbed all over the floor, the nipple fell to the ground, wiped it on the saliva towel and stuffed it directly back into his mouth; Go directly to play with all kinds of slides and swings that haven't been dried after the rain; The small mud pit on the side of the road is trampled casually, and the feeling of overshoes trapped in the mud makes the children shout happily; In the children's bunker in the park, everyone is happy to dig and bury it-then, pat clean clothes, pour sand into shoes and find a piece of land to sit down for a picnic!
Although I know that more exposure to bacteria is conducive to improving the baby's resistance, I still feel a little ... It seems that if you want your baby to play in a messy way, you still have to go through your own psychological barrier first.
Here are some foreign ways to play:
Play 1: doodle
A few months old baby can play, a piece of paper, or a waste paper box, a few cans of paint, the baby's hands or feet dipped in paint, and then play on the paper at will, and the masterpiece will be produced immediately! Children of three or four years old can hold a pen, so they can create with a brush dipped in paint! Don't forget to dry your baby's work and collect it!
Afraid of no inspiration? Driving around in a few painted cars is a unique masterpiece! There is also a painting of the baby directly on the belly, which is quite master-like!
Play 2: Sand, mud and water.
With the perfect combination of sand and water, children can imagine and shape all kinds of things at will, and they can also set up a sand table at home. Seaside parks and beaches also have small sand, which is a paradise for children to develop their potential.
Game 3: colored mud and dough
You can make colorful mud and dough with your baby, then design your own shape and do all-round exercise with your hands and brains. Children can also make their own bread, cakes, cakes and so on. And decorate themselves when they play with noodles, so that they can have a sense of accomplishment when they are finished!
Play 4: Step on water after rain
On rainy days, you can only lie by the window and watch raindrops? Of course not! Every child loves to play with water, and he is very excited at the sight of water. So how can he miss the chance to go out and play games with raindrops on rainy days and enjoy nature to the fullest? Put on your raincoat and boots, feel the rain and enjoy nature. What a wonderful thing for children ~
Juanzi, mom has something to say.
How's it going? Are you ready after reading the above messy free play?
Finally, I repeat: parents must participate less and interfere less!
Just prepare fun materials and venues for children, take care of them silently, especially the baby, and don't let him eat small things by mistake to ensure the safety of children.
I believe many parents have asked this question: How to make children more confident, brave and generous? How to make children more lively, cheerful and talkative, and have stronger social skills?
It is suggested that children be liberated from the bondage of the body and let them start from messy play-unrestrained play!
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