When my son was about 2 years old, I took him to wanda plaza to play. He always looked at the children around him warily, grabbed my skirt, and dared not make a sound or play with other children. I feel very sorry, after all, I hope my children can be confident and make public.

When my son was three years old. Once I took him to New Oriental for an early education class. There is a demonstration session in the handicraft class, and every child has to go on stage to show his plasticine works. One by one, the children went to the ground. When it was my son's turn, he was embarrassed and said nothing. I was so embarrassed sitting at the back of the classroom that I couldn't help urging him to go forward. He burst into tears.

I thought, son, a boy can't go on like this. So every time I go to a party with friends, I always take my son with me. When several dads play with their children, my son is still the least talkative child. Sometimes I watch him feel sad. I really think I did something wrong. Should I force him?

Then my wife began to feel sorry for her son. She felt that the child's lack of confidence was not forced out. After discussing with my wife, I decided to give my son a genetic test. When the test results came out, I found my son's self-confidence was really low.

I see, I can't keep pushing my son forward. Self-confidence requires parents to work together with him. Yesterday, my son dressed himself. My wife and I praised him and rewarded him for eating KFC. I am very happy to see his smile after being praised.

In the final analysis, whether children are confident and cheerful comes partly from nature and partly from the cultivation of parents.

Children's future may be doomed, and we don't know how to develop it, but from now on, giving children the best education and guidance will help their future.

Confident children have more opportunities than unconfident children, because they dare to fight for opportunities, so they are more likely to succeed.

I watched my cousin's two children grow up, and now they are seven years old. I will find that they are a little different from other children. No matter what happens, they will stick to their mother. Don't dare to talk when you meet something you like, and learn to look at your parents' faces. When a group of children are playing, they always hide in the corner and play with their own things.

Why are children not confident?

Many parents often cry when their children grow up. Regardless of them, they always think that they will die slowly if they cry enough, but such children will feel insecure when they grow up. Parents are the people who can directly give their children a sense of security in the early life, so they should give their children more feelings.

I believe that many parents will always say something whimsical when their children learn to speak slowly. For example, the child said, "Can I wander around the world like Spider-Man?" Many parents are impatient and tell their children directly, "That's fake. Why are you so stupid? You are always thinking about something. Have fun and leave me alone. " Often rejecting children in this way will lead to their lack of self-confidence and fear of asking questions to their parents, which will lead to their gradually losing interest in things around them in the future.

How can we cultivate a confident child?

Try to hug your child as much as possible before he is one year old. The child is very insecure in the freshman stage. When I grow up, I will learn to walk and like to walk around holding my parents' hands. Don't bother children too much, because this is the fastest time for children to learn and grow up in their lives, which can cultivate their curiosity. Do curious children feel insecure?

Give more encouragement to children. Don't think that denying the child's statement and denying the child all the time will lead to low self-esteem of the child. When I grow up, I will often deny myself and dare not express my inner thoughts. For example, a family can hold some reading activities, and everyone can read a book together and then tell what the content of the book here is. Regardless of whether the answer given by the child is right or wrong, children should be encouraged to express their ideas and can be given some small rewards appropriately.

Finally, children's self-confidence can not be separated from their parents' company, and they should be given different ways of love at each stage.

Children's self-confidence is exercised bit by bit in the process of growing up, not born. Edison said, "Self-confidence is the first secret of success." It can be seen that self-confidence is a valuable quality and spiritual core in a person's growth process.

My first understanding of self-confidence when I was a child came from a fight with a senior boy in primary school. Of course, I'm not looking for trouble, but to protect my brother. My younger brother, who was bullied by a group of gangsters, was afraid to go to school. At that time, I knew that I might not be able to beat him, but my anger and desire for protection made me go forward blindly, and finally the boy gave in. Later, the classmates in my brother's class said that he had a hard-working sister, and it was at that time that I realized how happy I was to believe that I could do it.

In each child's growing experience, the process of cultivating and building self-confidence is different, but most of them achieve the same goal through different routes. So, how to cultivate children's confidence?

For the understanding of self-confidence, the popular point is actually the affirmation of self-ability, that is, believing that you have the ability to do one thing. Self-confidence can stimulate the strength of our life, and it is a positive and effective consciousness feature and psychological state.

Confident children will face difficulties more bravely and strive to achieve their goals and wishes, which is a very rare internal quality.

A treasure mother said to me in a private letter: "I pay great attention to cultivating children's self-confidence, and I never have to hurt his language when educating him;" When I encounter problems, I also give priority to encouragement. However, children are always insecure and nervous about themselves when they answer questions or meet opportunities to show themselves in class, which makes me very upset. How can we overcome these problems? "

Through the story of this precious mother, we can see how important self-confidence is to a child's growth. Parents expect their children to be strong, brave and confident.

1, trust and respect children

Being respected and trusted is a happy thing, especially for children. Parents believe that their children can and respect their ideas, which is a fertile ground for cultivating their self-confidence. Children are curious and willing to do everything by themselves, but sometimes they don't do well. Whenever children encounter difficulties and feel depressed, parents should encourage them and often say, "Don't be afraid, son, mom and dad believe you can do it!" " "

2. Appropriate expectations

Every parent has good expectations for their children. Parents' expectations are too high, and their goals are set too high, which exceeds the limit that children can reach, and it is easy for children to feel frustrated and lose confidence; But you can't set your goals too low. Children are easy to accomplish, and it is easy to become rash and proud.

Therefore, parents' appropriate expectations for their children can better stimulate their growth.

3. Follow your hobby

Every child is born with different temperament characteristics, and their hobbies and trends are not controlled by their parents. Parents can only discover their children's characteristics and guide their interests, but can't change their will by force. Only in this way can they improve and enhance their self-confidence.

Step 4 lead by example

The power of example is infinite. A confident, harmonious and modest family will provide a good environment for children to grow up. Confident parents will be better at expressing themselves, be more brave in challenging and facing difficulties, and keep things quiet. Children will learn and absorb more strength and self-confidence under the example of their parents.

"You are still young, understand? Let me teach you and you do as I say. "

"Why don't you even know this? You can't do anything well? "

"Your classmates are much better than you!"

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If parents do this, it will be a serious blow and harm to their children's self-confidence What should parents do to protect their children's confidence?

1. Give specific encouragement to children's progress and growth in time.

2. When encountering problems and difficulties, parents need to actively guide their children to face and solve them themselves.

Don't set too high a goal for your child. Children can achieve their best through hard work.

4. Parents should communicate with their children about their mistakes and failures, and give them heartfelt encouragement and energy.

5. Find a learning model suitable for children, preferably the reality that children like, so that there is a learning model.

6. Give respect and trust to children's thoughts and behaviors, and give children room for independent growth.

Children's self-confidence comes from encouragement. This is related to my own experience. I have been criticized from all sides since I was a child: Can you do it? Look at you so stupid! Everyone is better than you! In the end, I no longer doubted, but felt like a loser and an idiot. It can be said that until the sixth grade of primary school, my grades have been in the bottom three in my class. Until the last month of the 6-year-old exam, the class teacher went home to have a baby, and a substitute teacher came temporarily. Which teacher is very responsible and has rich teaching experience, and the level of the whole class has improved obviously. And my grades jumped directly from more than 60 points to more than 90 points, ranking the top 5 in my class. Graduation exam grade third.

It can be said that he is my real first teacher. It took him a month to change my life. It's not about which grade. But he made me realize that I am not stupid at all, even better than many people. This subversive understanding only happened in more than a month. In the later years, that experience inspired me countless times, and no matter what kind of passbook can knock me down. Because there has always been a saying in my heart: I am not stupid, I am better than many people, and I can do better than others. Looking back on these years, I really did better.

Therefore, to cultivate children's self-confidence, in addition to constant encouragement, there are more ways to teach people to fish.

Thanks to which teacher for teaching for one month. He really enlightened. In a child's dark and silent heart, light a beam of sunshine and always point out the way forward.

Hello, self-confidence is a child's temperament from the inside out, which needs a long time to cultivate. Children's self-confidence comes from their parents' every move, so that children can feel their parents' approval. Self-confidence can help children to overcome difficulties in life.

I met my next-door neighbor in the elevator the other day and scolded my child for his unsatisfactory grades. The child kept his head down and looked at his feet. Neighbors say that you are not as confident, good grades, confident and beautiful as you when they see the child saying nothing. Out of the elevator, I have been thinking about the neighbor's practice, which may be the source of children's self-confidence.

The neighbor who was just in the elevator scolded the child in front of me, which made the child feel hurt and even ashamed. Parents don't give their children enough face.

Sometimes we often hear many people say how stupid you are in the street or in the community. Or when others praise their children, parents try to be polite and then belittle them. Is it really so bad to let children have a heart?

The child doubted himself.

I often hear many parents say that you can't do anything well by looking at others and then at yourself. In fact, this is a great blow to children's self-confidence and they can only see their own shortcomings.

Every child has his own light point, but his parents can't see it. They just say that he is not good at learning and that sports is wrong. Parents think these are useless and never praise their children.

Since childhood, parents don't even let their children touch the broom, thinking that their children can't do it well. If you don't let go, the child really can't do anything, and nothing will come to the meeting. There will be a process. It doesn't matter whether you made a mistake or didn't do it well. As long as you can keep trying to be a child, you will know how to correct it. This is also a learning process.

A child who does well will have a sense of accomplishment and make him feel more valuable and confident.

Children will never live by your rules. They are lively by nature and always make some mistakes. When a child makes a mistake, we can try to give him a smile and a hug first, and then analyze the cause of the mistake with the child at home and solve it together.

Instead of blindly feeling the superiority of parents and scolding children in front of others.

We should give children a chance to make some decisions that they can make. His birthday party, his study plan, his ideas, we should let the children try to arrange their own lives.

We make our children feel like adults and experience the beauty and frustration of life. His room can be cleaned and decorated by himself. He has his social circle.

In early childhood, parents should give their children a sense of security and let them feel the love of their parents and the beauty of life. If you don't compare your children, every child will have his own advantages and disadvantages. You can't compare the advantages of other children with your own shortcomings.

The above-mentioned neighbors only use the shortcomings of their children's poor grades to compare the shortcomings of other children's good grades, so that children will be particularly lost and doubt themselves. This will make children feel that their parents don't love them, which will make them panic.

We can compare our children with ourselves. Yesterday is better than today, and tomorrow is better than today.

Every child's success will not be accidental, these are the cultivation of parents and the efforts of children. We can try to cultivate children's skills of loving learning, reading and life from an early age. Let children develop good habits, and in this process, constantly encourage children to solve problems after encountering setbacks.

Let children better analyze and solve problems next time they encounter problems.

Praise from others will always increase his self-confidence, so children have good skills to make them more confident.

Children's self-confidence is a positive and objective understanding of their own abilities through environmental factors and internal adjustment after experiencing successes and setbacks in their growth.

Family environment and parents' guidance play a vital role.

This is the most important thing parents give their children. Children need to feel accepted and loved, and unconditional love will lay a solid foundation for their self-confidence.

When children behave well, praise them appropriately and objectively. When children encounter setbacks, parents should appease their children and praise their efforts.

Let the children understand that we can't do everything perfectly, and your efforts are the best harvest.

What kind of person do you expect your children to be? You must be strict with yourself and strive to be such a person.

Share with your children to celebrate your achievements and talk about what skills you need to prepare and what efforts you have made to achieve these successes.

Facing setbacks is a lesson that children must take. Let children understand that frustration is a part of our life, and the feeling of loss and depression is normal.

Encourage children to express their feelings and give comfort and encouragement. Teach children the skills of summing up experience from failure and adjusting emotions, and cultivate children's spirit of not giving up.

Confident children are willing to try new things and are not afraid of failure.

Parents should not do everything for their children, but should supervise their children to do things themselves. When children find that they can do things or influence the environment, their self-confidence grows rapidly.

Outdoor activities can broaden children's horizons and explore spirit, and enhance their ability and confidence to cope with new situations.

Sports are not for boys. Through physical exercise, children will realize their own advantages and accept their own shortcomings. This helps children deal with the feeling of failure.

Exercise can also keep children healthy and learn to take care of their bodies.

When parents make rules and stick to them, children will have confidence in what they can do. Learning and obeying the rules will give children a sense of security and self-confidence, and also increase their sense of responsibility.

When they face peer pressure when they grow up, it will help them learn to refuse.

Self-confidence is a valuable quality, confident children. It is an indisputable fact that success is easier.

But in real life, there are also many children who are not confident enough. They are self-abased, sensitive, fragile, unable to bear setbacks and have no firm belief in doing things. So what have we done to make children feel insecure?

The child's self-confidence was virtually destroyed by us. For example, we often compare our children with other people's children. We can't see the advantages of the child, only his problems. We put all kinds of negative labels on our children and often yell at them, which will make them lose their self-confidence.

So what can we do to cultivate confident children? I think at least the following three points need to be done.

Fan Deng, a famous scholar, said that finding the bright spot of children is the direction of children's growth and progress. In fact, every child has advantages, but we seldom see the advantages of children and only pay attention to their problems. If children want to become confident, they should pay more attention to their advantages, and then constantly encourage them to turn their own advantages into his. When his advantages get better and better, there will be fewer and fewer problems.

Because there are more bright places, there will naturally be fewer dark places, and the advantage is the bright place in a person.

Some parents like to attack education, thinking that only by attacking their children can they remember the lessons and grow up better. But in fact, this kind of blow makes children less and less confident, not brave and not believing in themselves.

We should express our love for our children in time. When a child does something that he can't usually do, we should encourage him in time and tell him how much we appreciate him. This appreciation will turn into his confidence.

For children, appreciation is a way for parents to express their love. Children will think that their parents love me, that I deserve to be loved, and that I am very important in their parents' hearts. Children with love will naturally be more emboldened.

Many parents will use negative labels to evaluate their children. When a child can't do something well at a certain time, he will say that the child is really stupid. If a child is careless in an exam, he will say that the child is a careless person.

This puts a negative label on the child, because the child will not evaluate himself, and the evaluation of his parents is the way he evaluates himself. If his parents always say that he is stupid, he will gradually think that he is really stupid and will become more and more stupid to prove that his parents are right.

Moreover, when parents label their children, they are often accompanied by verbal violence, such as shouting at their children, "Why are you so stupid? How can I raise such a loser? You don't study but play "and so on. This is a great psychological harm to children.

A child who grows up under this kind of injury can only feel more inferior, more vulnerable and more sensitive. How can he be confident?

Children's self-confidence is not innate, but we need to cultivate it bit by bit. In other words, our parenting style determines whether children feel inferior or confident.

If the above three points can be achieved, children will become more and more confident.

In the process of children's growth, which psychological quality is the most critical? It's confidence. Self-confidence makes people self-disciplined and beautiful. The first step for a child to succeed is to have confidence in himself.

In the famous psychology, Timon has followed 1500 gifted children. He found that the IQ of these early prodigies didn't change much when they grew up. He compared the intelligence of these children with that of adults and found that the difference between these children lies not in IQ, but in whether they are strong, single-minded and self-affirming. Self-confidence is the cornerstone of children's development, and it is difficult for children without self-confidence to give full play to their potential in future development.

Shakespeare once said, "Self-confidence is the first step to success." Self-confidence brings children not only the driving force of progress, but also a cognitive ability. Children's self-confidence comes from knowing their own advantages, and in the process of children's self-cognition, they are slowly improving their analytical ability of things. Self-confidence is the pillar of life course, and it also marks a good psychological quality. Therefore, if parents want their children to break through the limitations of life, they must fully affirm themselves. With this confidence, they can move forward bravely.

What can parents do in the face of the establishment and enhancement of children's self-confidence?

1. Encourage children more.

Many times, children can't actively realize their own advantages. After all, "the authorities are obsessed with bystanders." At this time, parents need to stand up, encourage their children, guide them to find their own bright spots, affirm their Excellence, but pay attention to educating them not to be complacent.

2. Let children know that they can.

Learning to do is also one of the ways to make children confident. When the child enjoys the joy of success, he is full of confidence, he feels his own strength, and it has been proved that he can do it. In this way, children can easily enhance their self-confidence and have the courage to accept the next challenge.

3. Cultivate children's social skills

Communicating with others is an inevitable thing in a child's life. Most parents only know that communicating with others can make their children good at expressing and willing to listen. In fact, children's social skills can also restore self-confidence. A child can feel different from other children in the process of interacting with others, and when he finds that he can do things that other children can't, he will be glad that he has this ability and become more confident inadvertently.

Full of confidence, but not arrogant and conceited, can we go faster and further on the thorny road of life. I believe that children can reap full happiness!

Self-confidence is the first step to success. For example, the college entrance examination candidates now need their own self-confidence most.

When the Zongzi Festival meets the college entrance examination, it should be the best blessing for the candidates.

When it comes to the college entrance examination, it's hard to remember. I got up early and danced with a book. In order to save time, I have to take a short rest on my desk at noon and even go to the toilet to complete several topics. Ten years of sleepless nights, chasing all the way for these two days. For every candidate, time is fair, and the reward after hard work is fair, but some children will feel unfair when their college entrance examination results come out, and that kind of unfairness is given by themselves.

There are "dark horses" almost every year, and there are hot spots of suicide every year because of failing in the college entrance examination. Although there are many reasons such as high pressure, difficult test questions, hot weather and anxiety, there is another thing that profoundly affects the majority of candidates-self-confidence.

Self-confidence, a word in psychology, is a natural state of mind that describes people's social adaptability. People try to grasp the uneasy psychological process in this strange world with their limited experience.

Broadly speaking, self-confidence is a positive attitude in self-evaluation. In a narrow sense, self-confidence is closely related to positivity. Positive without self-confidence is weak, incomplete, imbecile and inefficient. Self-confidence is self-affirmation and belief from the heart.

There is a famous saying in Canada: self-confidence is half the battle. Be confident enough to accept challenges. Even if you are not brilliant enough at ordinary times, you may become a dark horse. I don't want to believe in myself. I always feel that I can't face the big exam, I'm not confident and calm. Children who learn to set an example on weekdays may also become losers. I am an example. Excellent results in the senior high school entrance examination, entered a key high school. I have been working hard for three years. One drawback is that I am arrogant. I was never confident enough. I was scared when I saw the questions in the first college entrance examination. My answers always feel wrong. There is no doubt that I failed the list. With the encouragement of my family, I struggled through the third year of high school before entering the university.

The competition in the future will only be more cruel. It is our parents' responsibility to help children build up their self-confidence and pave the way for their development. Congenital self-confidence has been formed, and the acquired education cannot be absent. Only by combining genetic factors with acquired education can we find the most suitable method for children, so how to combine it? Genetic testing gives the most scientific and direct answer.

No child can judge the future at birth. Genetic factors and acquired education have never been irrelevant. They are like the relationship between the ball and the racket, which complement each other and are interrelated. It just means that the degree of innate self-confidence determines whether the foundation is solid, and the cultivation of the day after tomorrow makes genetic factors play a greater role.

Bao Dad and Ma Bao both know. In fact, the biggest enemy along the way is yourself. After defeating yourself again and again, it will bloom all the way. I hope our babies are all sunny and confident little suns!

How can we cultivate a child with strong self-esteem and self-confidence? Parents should do this:

1, identify with the sex of the child.

2. Appreciate children as much as possible.

3. Don't compare children with others.

4. Don't teach children in public.

5. Don't be cynical, dig holes and insult children.

6, do not perfunctory children.

7. Let children experience success.

8. Set goals reasonably, and don't let children always feel that they can't reach their goals.

9, more affirmation of children, moderate praise, careful use of criticism.

10. When the child encounters difficulties, help him analyze them, which will definitely be positive and point out the shortcomings.

1 1, let go of the child without overprotection.

If parents can achieve this score of 1 1, your child must be a self-respecting and confident child.