I probably learned about this book when Bauer picked up a pen when he was over one year old. At that time, my husband was asked by his children to draw an old Ding Man every day: an old Ding Man owed me two marbles. I said to pay him back in three days, and he said to pay him back in four days. I went to his house for a walk. Three leeks are 330 cents, a piece of tofu is 660 cents, and a bunch of candied haws is 770 cents. Lao Zi is old Ding Man.

Bauer is very happy. He always puts the pen in his father's hand again and again. The father was infected by the children's joy and painted again and again. But the child never paints, she just enjoys the process of others painting.

When I finished listening to this book in the Himalayas, I decisively stopped their happiness, although it seemed cruel at the time.

Today, the child is over four years old. I see her holding a photo to explain her unconstrained style to me every day. I think it might have been right. However, I have forgotten most of the contents of the book, only remembering not to teach children to draw images.

Now that we have reached the second stage, do you want to give Bauer a painting lesson? From last year's consultation to this year, several parents of kindergarten students have signed up for classes. Some say that this training course is well taught and will tell children a lot of knowledge, while others say that it will make children draw beautiful and neat pictures. Some people don't know. Let children take pictures at an early age, which affects their imagination. Some people can't say it well. They make something virtual every day and waste their parents' money. Several parents are arguing endlessly, and I am deeply troubled. I am afraid it is too early or too late.

In this case, I remembered this book again. I bought it this time and studied it directly several times. It dispelled my idea of signing up for a painting class temporarily and let me know what I should do as a parent. Parents really need to learn, and make a judgment or choice by themselves through what they have learned. Even after studying, you are still not a perfect parent, but you are getting closer and closer to beauty.

02

This book is a classic work by torii Zhao Mei, a famous Japanese child education expert and painter, and it is a "picture scroll" of graffiti early education that leads children to grow up in an all-round way.

Why did he write such a book? For the children's mother, of course. Here I extend to parents, because for so many years, everyone is advocating that fathers should also join the ranks of educating their children. Torii Zhao Mei mentioned that the late Mr. Mei Genwu once said, "Japanese education today has fallen into a very crazy state." This old gentleman, who once served as the president of Japan Education Society and was once a leader in the field of postwar education in Japan, criticized the educational situation in Japan in his last book, On Education. However, in this educational crisis, what surprised him most was the attitude of parents, who did not reflect, but played a role in fueling the fire and let the children fall into this crazy state.

In fact, this madness is the same in China now. Children start early education before they go to kindergarten, and start various training classes when they go to kindergarten. Parents just move forward (or actually don't move forward) because they think it is good for their children and progress. This is the reason why we should study as parents, and it is also the original intention of torii Zhao Mei to let parents know what is right and what we should stick to.

Last Spring Festival, I took my children to a friend's house to play. Her child is seven months older than mine. By then, they should be four and a half years old. They have been able to doodle skillfully with a doodle book, and they are not neatly out of the box. My second treasure didn't dare to do it, and hesitated for a long time, because the painting was not good and he lost his temper. I advised her that my sister has been studying for a long time, so you can practice slowly. When I read this book recently, I found that children don't have to doodle so well so early, but I believe I also hoped that children could doodle neatly at that time. When I don't have a correct concept, the child is my pawn, but I am doing everything for her.

03.

This book is spread out in three parts:

One: I gave an introductory lecture on painting by my mother (parents).

Here, he stressed that children's paintings are different from those of adults. As parents, we must remember that pointing at children's paintings or directly interfering with them is an obstacle to children. Children's painting is not for "seeing", but for "listening", which is a manifestation of children.

The most representative behaviors are: teaching children to draw images, drawing images for children to see, guiding children to use colors, and letting children draw all colors. This behavior will affect the five basic abilities that painting brings to children: hands-on ability, eye movement coordination ability, language ability, emotion and enthusiasm, and social ability.

Do you hate children getting dirty? I don't know what other people's answers are. Most mothers may be like me: annoying. Torii Zhao Mei said: The real essence of art is based on destroying and tarnishing the existing image. All the mother thinks about is washing clothes and cleaning, not the child's preferences and wishes.

Two: Children grow up by drawing such pictures: He talked about the relationship between children's physical characteristics from one to nine years old and painting, so that you can better understand what kind of pictures children can draw at this stage and what kind of help you should give them.

Three: Questions and answers about painting

04.

After reading this book, I am still very moved. The author has repeatedly emphasized the difference between children's painting and adult painting, and tried not to send children to painting classes before the age of nine. The author also said that children should never be taught to draw pictures, which will fix their thinking and affect their imagination.

My second treasure began to paint crazily when she was four years old. I provided her with a brush, white paper and listening comprehension, which enriched her children's life experience. I played crazy with my friends every day and sat on the ground to draw when I came back. That day, she said, Mom, I want to draw a plane. She said to herself, "If you can't sit on a plane, draw a plane." The reason is that because of some special circumstances, I wanted to visit her home by plane, but the age problem failed, which made her lose a chance to fly. She still wanted to fly, so she drew a plane with all her heart, and then began to tell me why she wanted to draw a plane, and said that the two wings of the plane were called "chicken wings." My teeth almost laughed when I heard the term put here.

When she started painting characters a while ago, our family was her main target. I found that the hair of the characters in her paintings was all cocked up. I asked her mother how her hair flew into the sky, and she said it wouldn't fall off, hahahaha, that's it. Recently, I found that except my father's hair, my sister's, mine and hers can hang down. This is her progress as well as mine. After reading this book, I refrained from preaching, so that she could adapt to the development of age and draw.

05

Torii Zhao Mei said: Children aged four to eight paint according to their own feelings and understanding, which is "emotional realistic painting". At the age of nine, children began to draw according to what they saw with their own eyes, and children's painting began to become the trend of adult painting. This trend is called "visual realism". (This was first put forward by French Liu Kai)

This also gives parents a general idea of what stage your child is in and how you should treat your child's paintings. This is what parents should learn. Only when parents understand the basic characteristics of these children's growth will they not expect too much from their children or demand too much from themselves.

Louis aragon, an important French poet and novelist in the 20th century, said: The so-called education is to discuss the future together.

Yes, when such a little life comes into this world through her mother's body, she will be unconsciously responsible for the future of TA, but how? Every parent is confused and conformist from the beginning. Only by constantly learning and resisting the pressure of conformity can we choose a good future for our children.

To tell the truth, this future is unknown, and it depends on the child's final conclusion: thank you, mom. Or, mom, I hate you.