In the ninth month as a father, you will find that the daily life order of you and your wife has developed. Who will take more responsibility for taking care of children? Who is responsible for the family's financial situation? Most parents want equality in work and family life, but this is often not feasible. In the ninth month, you will find that your role has been assigned.

This is an important period. Talking to your wife about parenting requires mutual support and cooperation. Does she think you have contributed to sharing family life and taking care of children equally? Does she understand that you are under pressure to balance work and family responsibilities? Do you prefer the family model in which men work and women take care of children? If you all work, does she still take most of the responsibilities in parenting?

The pattern of parent-child relationship is not quite what we expected. The family and social background of our birth have a subtle influence on what kind of parents we may become. When it comes to the role of parents, the family environment in which you grew up and your expectations for work will have an impact.

The role of the father has undergone some changes, but with the passage of time, the role of the father is not well defined or has been fixed. Father's role in the family is the authority of morality. It is the father's responsibility to teach children to read or receive education. Learning to read usually means reading the Bible. Being a good father means raising moral children. If your children go to church, the Bible is always new, which means that you have fulfilled your responsibilities as a father.

With the transformation of rural life and agricultural society to industrial economic society centered on urban life, father has evolved into a "breadwinner" role. In an industrial society, a good father should be financially successful, able to provide a house, a car and a good material life for his wife and children.

In the mid-1970s, the role of father began to change again. Nowadays, the role of father has included the element of emotional support. Just as women have the dual roles of working women and mothers, fathers also need to adapt to the changes in family roles. In our modern society, 85% of families need both parents to work, which requires fathers to participate more in parenting.

Many men spend more on their children's early life instead of meeting the needs of family life. The men I talked to in the past 10 years often told me their hopes and personal values in parenting life. In recent years, some men have expressed their wish to give up their career development, especially in their children's early life, in order to spend more time with their wives and children. In this ninth month, you should think about how you want to strike a balance between work and life. What is the most important thing for you and your family at this stage?

Dad reference:

Try to teach the baby to make cakes, and he will start to try to eat by himself.

Point to the baby's nose, eyes, ears and so on and tell him what it is.

Talk to your wife about the above article and discuss how your parents' roles unfold.

As a mother, what are you most satisfied with your wife? Ask her what you are most satisfied with as a father.

Look at your image in the mirror. Do you care about yourself? Think about your diet and exercise, and how you find time to take care of yourself in the face of various new tasks in life.

Find a friend and accompany him to exercise once a month.