It is a good thing for parents to help their children develop good behavior habits, but it can't be done overnight. So do parents know how to regulate their children's behavior? Let me share with you the ways to regulate children's behavior.

Methods Standardize children's behavior 1 Set basic rules.

Parents can set several basic rules according to their children's age, understanding ability or specific situation, so that children can know what you want Ta to do. Don't hit people casually, respect others. At the beginning, don't make too many rules for children at once, so as not to make them feel overwhelmed or anxious about it.

It may need to be repeated many times before children can understand and remember these rules, but parents must be patient and always emphasize these rules. Parents can also draw a picture or make a form with their children, and write down and post the family rules you made together. When children understand these rules, parents can continue to make new rules with their children.

Mutual respect and cooperative implementation

When the child speaks, parents' careful listening, polite response and timely answer will make the child feel respected and let Ta learn to respect others slowly. Similarly, parents should abide by the rules made with their children.

On the one hand, it can set a good example for children. You must treat your children the way you want them to treat others. On the other hand, cooperation and mutual supervision can help children remember and obey the rules better.

Be consistent throughout.

In the long run, sticking to certain rules will make things easier. When parents clearly tell their children that a certain rule must be observed at all times, children will feel more secure and behave better. If parents constantly change the rules, or only emphasize them on specific occasions, children will be confused about the rules.

For example, when a child cries loudly, you may be temporarily soft-hearted and want to give up the rules and make temporary concessions, but this will make the child feel that yelling can get what he wants. So when you agree to the rule that you can't eat sugar, even if Ta cries, don't give in.

Face up to children's depression

When a child is disciplined for doing something wrong, he may show a depressed expression, and parents may feel distressed about it, but parents should understand that they can't shield all the harm that negative emotions bring to their children.

More importantly, parents should help their children learn to face up to and deal with negative emotions, so as to help them better face the difficulties in their future study and life.

Red circle time, swinging in turns, collecting toys and other links or rules of the game in mygym ring class can help children build up a sense of rules. In the red circle, some children can't sit still and run around. At this time, the teacher will persuade parents to bring their children back again and again. If children can't always participate in the red circle, teachers won't force them, but let them make their own choices, and then give them time to understand the meaning of this rule, which will subtly influence children to behave well.

Every child has his own personality. Parents should give full consideration to their children's personality characteristics when making rules for their children. With children's learning and psychological maturity, they will gradually change their behavior. At the same time, parents should also adjust their methods appropriately.

The method of regulating children's behavior 2 1, if not available, start.

The children were playing with sand, during which one of them grabbed the toy bulldozer of his friend, but failed, biting the other's little hand. And the bulldozer took care of it.

Qualified practice: parents must severely criticize the biting child and let him know that biting is wrong. Now it has caused harm to the child and needs to apologize in person; Let him understand that if the child is unwilling to lend him toys to play with, he must learn to bear this disappointment. In addition to criticism and reasoning, certain rewards and punishments are essential, and the opposite treatment of rewards and punishments appears in front of him: caring for and comforting the bitten child. Then let the children know that it is not only impossible to achieve the purpose of infringing on others, but also to get no benefits, and then consciously abandon the infringement.

2. shoplifting

The child shows you a pair of pocket crystal shoes and tells you that they were picked up from the floor of the child's house.

Qualified practice: take the child to return the goods immediately, and let him personally apologize: "I'm sorry, I took your things home to play, and now I will return them to you." Please forgive me. " Let children learn to admit their mistakes bravely by the process of "completely returning to Zhao" 3, 4-year-old children do not have the concept of "real right" and their own understanding, thinking that what they like and want is their own. In this regard, mom and dad must not hold the mood of "never again". Remember an old saying: don't do it because of small kindness, don't do it because of small evil.

I can't walk when I see toys.

In the supermarket, you refused to buy Barbie dolls, but your daughter hugged her tightly. No matter how you explained it, she sat on the ground.

Qualified practice: Show your emotions to your children: Don't buy toys today, because you just bought a Barbie doll not long ago. If children don't listen to their parents, make trouble without reason, leave them to choose other things, or pretend to be separated and let them sit on the ground and cry. It is unwise to give in, otherwise the child's stubbornness will be unscrupulous. After the child calms down, let him understand by reasoning or telling stories. Reasonable children are popular, and the result of splashing water and crying is nothing and annoying.

4. Should I sleep or not?

It's time to go to bed at night 10, but the children are spreading dolls and plush toys on the bed.

Qualified practice: point to the cartoon wall clock on the wall, suggesting that the child should go to bed, inform him to rest on time, and ensure that he is not late for kindergarten the next day. No child will go to bed automatically, and they will never have enough fun. If parents promise their children to stay up late again and again, it will be difficult to develop regular schedules and outstanding living habits. Therefore, no matter what reason the child is looking for, mom and dad must find ways to refuse.

5, the goddess scattered flowers

Before going to bed, the 6-year-old child took off his clothes and threw them on the table, stool, and even had a sleeve hanging on the ground.

Qualified practice: Say to the child, "Put on your pajamas and fold your clothes." Didn't the teacher ask you to fold your clothes neatly before taking a nap in kindergarten? The teacher also informed mom that you did a very good job and sometimes helped the children. Mom knows that you are a very orderly child.

Come on, mom, look at your watch. You are sure to finish it in three minutes. Let's start at once. "When you say these words, you don't have to be loud, but you must be soft and firm. Children love to listen to good words, and the mother's emphasis on their good behavior is only a positive encouragement to him. In repeated urging, children can gradually learn to take care of themselves and know how to take responsibility.

6. I want to have enough fun at once.

At the end of the game, the 9-year-old child sat motionless in front of the computer.

Qualified practice: mark your forgiveness to your child: "OK, I'll give you five minutes to finish this game. If it's not finished, I won't allow you to play tomorrow. " Computer games are simple and addictive, especially for children. Therefore, parents must stipulate the time for their children to play games, such as once a day for about half an hour, and strictly urge their children to abide by it. After observing the binding force of the outside world, it gradually learned to restrain itself and control itself. In addition, in the first 5~ 10 minutes of the regular time, parents can remind them once, so that children can be psychologically prepared to leave the computer supply on time.

7. Cover up the facts with lies

The 8-year-old child played "Wushu" and broke the vase. When mom asked, he said it was the cat at home.

Qualified practice: Encourage children to tell the truth: "Tell mom, what's going on?" It's not terrible to drop the vase, it's terrible not to admit it. Mothers like children who are honest, brave and responsible for their actions. "In order to dispel the child's scruples and encourage him to tell the truth,' hug' him and praise him for the first time. Children over 6.7 know that lying is wrong, but they do it to avoid rewards and punishments. If you trust him, or don't pursue him even if you don't believe him, it is tantamount to encouraging this bad habit and causing him to get deeper and deeper in the quagmire of lies.