People who can't stand loneliness
Surround the children and the kitchen at home every day. If you are a busy person and can't stand the boring and monotonous life, you may not be able to adjust your mentality and gradually forget the original intention of deciding to be a full-time mother. Mothers who can't stand loneliness will entertain themselves by watching TV, playing mobile phones and online shopping. Maybe even the children need your company, otherwise you will feel that the children will bother you when they cry. If you are such a person, you'd better not be a full-time mother.
In my opinion, the important thing is always the person himself. Whether he can be a full-time mother depends mainly on his personal character cultivation. People with patience, strong concentration and strong learning ability are good players in the workplace and at home. It is useless for a person who is passive and lax at work to take care of the children at home. A person who likes to complain about comparison and make waves in the workplace will also doubt her husband and provoke her mother-in-law at home.
A person with strong enterprising spirit.
Some women naturally like the feeling in the workplace because they can find value there. It's not that they don't like children, but that they don't like spending all their time and energy on them.
I know a friend who had a prosperous career before giving birth to a child. After having a child, no one took care of her, and she was forced to go home to take care of the child. Besides taking care of the children's food and drink, Lazar started a WeChat business at home in order not to be out of touch with the society. Once this work is put into practice, watching children at home becomes a sideline, so the mother greatly reduces the time spent with her children, and the children always play by themselves. For a long time, the child was somewhat withdrawn. Until now, this child is unwilling to deal with other children.
People with insecurity
Some women are inherently insecure. No matter whether their husbands treat her well or not, as long as they stay at home and don't go to work, they have inexplicable fears. They will not be moved by a man's "I support you" and think that full-time commitment is irreversible after all. This kind of life is like a bet, even if you drag your husband's money in your hand, it is not practical. How can such a mother, who has been thinking all day and has a bad attitude, devote herself to raising her children? Any choice has advantages and disadvantages. If you choose, you must let go of others. You should be grateful if you live well. If you have a bad life, you should try to change it.
An impatient person.
A stay-at-home mother once told me about her experience: although I knew I had a bad temper, before giving birth to a child, I said I would never beat or scold the child because experts said it was not good to beat the child. But after becoming a mother, everything changed. At first, I tried to be patient, but I gradually lost patience when I faced the endless eating, drinking, sleeping and crying of my children. When there are some questions of principle or when I want to build my dignity, I will scold or hit my children loudly. Until one day, I found a fact that hurt me. I may not be suitable for being a full-time mother. I have taken my children to early education several times, and I always find that my baby has a bad temper. When the child touched him, she didn't cry, but shouted, and there were some behaviors that I called self-abuse. I realized that this was my problem.