Children grow up under the care of their parents and family, and a little trouble will affect the hearts of adults. It is said that children nowadays are very happy and have no worries about food and clothing. Despite the pressure of study, the strong support of the family behind can make children have the greatest happiness and freedom.
Modern education advocates respecting children's personality and letting children spend every day as happily as possible. Parents also have the conditions not only to prevent their children from suffering, but also to make up for their regrets of not eating or playing when they were young by satisfying their children.
But have parents ever thought that a child cared for by his parents since childhood has never suffered anything, and when he grows up, the world may make him suffer more. It is not only the misfortune of the family, but also the regret of the child's life.
Happiness and happiness are essential in children's education, but another thing is also indispensable, that is, frustration education, especially for boys at home, suffering is an essential course.
Boys have no sense of responsibility when they grow up, and most of them have never received frustration education when they were young. He doesn't know what responsibility is, and he has no ability to bear the consequences. Can't blame the poor teaching in school. If they were not taught to be responsible when they were young, how could he know how to use his shoulders when he grew up? People who can't bear hardships will only make people around them suffer hardships, and their own sufferings will last for a lifetime.
Life is only a few decades. When you are young, you will suffer more. When you grow up, you can enjoy the rich fruits of your efforts and realize your life ideal. If you only want to fish for three days and dry the net for two days when you are young, you can only live in regret when you are old.
Suffering is not terrible. Labor can make people live with dignity. More importantly, they can find the goal of life. Many people are lamenting that "when they grow up, they become something they don't like", that is, they have never experienced setbacks in the process of growing up, and they give up after a little bumps, so they can only grow with the flow.
Children who are not educated and suffer setbacks are doomed to make their parents suffer and suffer more.
Family education, especially the influence of parents, plays a vital role in cultivating children's sense of responsibility and perseverance. In many cases, families with two children are basically capable. On the contrary, although younger children are favored, they obviously lack a sense of responsibility when they grow up, preferring immediate satisfaction rather than enduring boredom and pain for future goals and ideals.
This is because parents are often strict with their first child. When the second child is born, in order to make up for the strict education of the child, the balance of love will unconsciously tilt to the second child.
For the one-child family, parents sometimes spoil their children unwittingly and are unwilling to let them suffer a little. The result of their frugality is that they spoil their children as ungrateful and selfish people, and they are tied up by a child all their lives. They take care of their children when they are young, fight for them in middle age, and start to take care of their children's next generation when they are old.
Many times, children's ignorance is caused by their parents. There is a lot of pressure to study now. Many parents say to their children, "You just need to study and do nothing else." Then, from washing clothes to packing school bags, everything is arranged by parents. Children don't need to ask and participate in anything at home. Life turns a child who cares about his family and loves life into a learning machine without emotion. If he does well in his studies in the future, he may find a job to make a living. If his academic performance is poor, not to mention his work, but his own life is a problem.
Many parents try to accumulate property for their children, hoping that their children will not suffer what they have suffered. Finally, they raised a neet, complaining that their current achievements were caused by their parents' doting.
Parents should be responsible for children who have become incompetent because of their doting. It was the enjoyment of that year that brought today's hardships. Children who have been spoiled since childhood can't imagine how powerful suffering can make a person. Only through the education of setbacks and sufferings can one gain more practical and useful wisdom.
Therefore, parents should tell their children that life needs to pursue happiness and happiness, but there are also pains and setbacks. No one can succeed casually. There must be unimaginable persistence and patience behind the scenery.
Parents should have the consciousness of making their children suffer, and don't interfere with what they can do. It is not necessarily a bad thing to suffer losses and make mistakes now. Usually let children do more housework and take them to do some public welfare activities. When they grow up, they can try to earn their own pocket money, just to let their children learn in the contact with others and receive realistic education.
Parents should let their children have a spirit of not being afraid of hardship and regard all setbacks as challenges for growth. Labor is glorious, not only can earn money, but more importantly, it can win dignity, realize the value of life and have its own freedom.
The earlier the hardship education, the better. You can make children understand the power of suffering from an early age. When children's spiritual world is full, not only will they not seek the help of adults when they encounter difficulties, but they will do nothing but cry.
Parents should not only take good care of their children when they grow up, but more importantly, let them experience the profound wisdom of planning for the unknown future. What love needs is free air and courage to let go. Children should not only eat well when they are young, but also know how to suffer hardships and suffer losses. If educating children to love becomes doting, it will harm them. As parents, we should not blindly love our children with enthusiasm. People always have to live independently, and one day they will leave their parents and go to their own sky.
Eat well to be healthy, and work hard to be healthier. If you are not afraid of suffering, you can be healthy. Don't be reluctant to let your child suffer. That's the way he will go sooner or later. Many parents understand the truth, but when they meet their children, they forget everything. Even the material conditions that ordinary working families can create for their children are many times happier than in the past. However, under the contrast of the current environment, parents can't wait to pull their children to their side when they complain, so as to create more comfortable living conditions for their children and let them grow up happily in a hotbed.