Do children need extra-curricular remedial classes? Such as Olympics, English, composition, etc. Are these contradictory to a happy childhood?

My concept of parenting is not so pure, and I always consider practical factors.

There is no realistic constraint of studying abroad in China. I totally agree that children should not be forced to attend extracurricular remedial classes, develop their abilities in an all-round way, pay attention to the cultivation of psychological character, grow up naturally and happily, and enjoy a happy childhood. To put it bluntly, the main purpose of attending remedial classes is for the senior high school entrance examination, and most of the knowledge learned in middle school is useless. It is actually a waste to spend so much effort to study, especially in this era when knowledge can be easily found on the Internet.

Unfortunately, reality does not allow us to do so. At present, the requirements of school learning are very high, such as primary school English. The course schedule is entirely prepared for students who take part in English extracurricular remedial classes. If you don't report to class, unless you study very consciously, many children may only get good grades or even fail to meet the standards. Besides, study is very important. Nowadays, many children attend remedial classes and pay attention to the development of early education. If your children don't make some reserves and enjoy a luxurious and happy childhood, if they fall behind in comparison, they may fall into a vicious circle of poor study-poor concentration in class-poor homework-poor exams-pressure from parents, teachers and classmates-aversion to learning.

If you don't do early education and learn some basic knowledge properly before going to school, you may not be able to adapt in the first year or two, which requires parents to spend a lot of effort and may not be able to change. If parents are not strong enough, it is better to start learning children as soon as possible, and don't let childhood be too extravagant. However, it is best for children to learn by playing games, and it is best to play until middle school. If remedial classes are more fun, going to school is also good. Refer to Yin Jianli's early education methods.

Of course, children with a good foundation should also pay attention to the cultivation of habits after school. Too much relaxation can easily lead to bad habits.

Although the primary school grades are not too tangled, if you don't lay a good foundation of English language, cultivate mathematical thinking, properly reserve historical geography and biology, and stimulate interest, then junior high school may be very tired, learn badly, and easily fall into a vicious circle.

Because school study is a top priority for students for more than ten years, if children fall behind, study hard, are criticized by teachers, ridiculed by classmates, have no confidence and interest, and still study, it may be difficult to be happy. This is a very helpless thing, but it is also a reality that must be accepted.

A friend's child goes to junior high school. Because primary school has been learning English and composition classes, it will be much easier in junior high school, with good grades, great confidence and good interest. This will make you learn more happily. What he is thinking now is that maybe he should have signed up for the remedial class of Olympic Mathematics.

Therefore, when we talk about happiness, we should not be divorced from reality, but take a comprehensive and long-term view.

Second, the key is how to go to the remedial class happily.

Of course, I also attach great importance to the happiness of children now. If children are forced to attend remedial classes and study hard, it will ruin their interest in learning, so stop here.

Therefore, it is not a simple question of "whether to attend remedial classes", but how to make children attend remedial classes happily, at least without pain. If the children in the remedial class also feel happy and like to play, it is definitely not a problem.

1, give appropriate assistance to children

The children who signed up for class didn't give their studies to the teacher. Parents also need to help their children tide over the difficulties, gain a sense of accomplishment and cultivate interest.

2. First of all, pay attention to interest cultivation.

In addition, don't rush to take too many classes at first. It is best to cultivate children's interest, habits, confidence and motivation in learning. If children have these conditions, there will naturally not be too many problems in properly participating in interest classes. If children don't like studying and homework, school courses are difficult to learn, and it will increase the burden to make up lessons reluctantly. In addition, don't sign up too many remedial classes for your children, or leave time for them to play. If the schedule is too full, there may be problems and children will feel bored.

In the remedial class, you can choose a class that is suitable for or slightly lower than the child's ability level. For example, children in the third grade can learn the Olympic Mathematics at the second grade level, and English can also start from the remedial class at the lower level, so that children can learn as easily as possible and cultivate interest more easily. Don't be overjoyed, sign up for an advanced interest class at once, and always let children overcome difficulties and get tired of learning.

Or it is also possible to find some undergraduate tutors, which are cheaper and can be arranged according to the characteristics of children to avoid the problem of being unable to keep up.

3. If you don't attend remedial classes, the requirements for parents and children will be higher.

Of course, you don't have to go to a remedial class. This requires parents to have more educational wisdom, or children to have a higher awareness of understanding. A friend of mine's children don't attend remedial classes, and their parents are also very good at guiding them, and their understanding and habits are also good. Generally, their children are among the best in junior high school. However, if you don't know much about how to tutor children, you should go to the remedial class appropriately.

A parenting celebrity said: A child who has formed independent personality, optimistic temperament, positive thinking and good habits (note: habits of non-intellectual factors) since childhood, do you still have to worry about his study? You'd better not believe this concept. School learning is professional knowledge, which has special laws and needs special efforts. Some children who don't study well are actually good people and have quality. If your child has a good understanding, that's fine. For children with average understanding, it is better to work hard.