Since I signed up in May, I have been thinking about how to ease the anxiety of the dolls entering the park, and I have been exploring what I should do before entering the park to make the way for the dolls to enter the park smoother. The practice of picking up all kinds of debris can be summarized as follows:
First, use substitution method to make enough psychological hints.
The so-called "substitution method" is to let the baby perceive the role of students in advance, get a preliminary understanding of what kindergarten life is like, and reduce his strangeness.
I've tried three better ways-
1, through the picture book. Now parents attach great importance to their children's reading, and there are many picture books in kindergarten series. As usual, accompany your children to read picture books about kindergartens and watch them several times. The baby will have some knowledge of kindergarten life through the content of the picture book. However, I suggest that the story of picture books should be further consolidated with children's own experiences after they participate in early education activities in kindergartens.
2. Participate in early education activities organized by kindergartens. At present, kindergartens here in Shanghai have hard targets for setting up early education classes, and we have to say that the education system in Shanghai is still very humanized. This is the most intuitive way for the baby to get in touch with the future school life, which can eliminate the strangeness to the campus to the greatest extent. Parents must actively participate with their children, get a preliminary understanding of the life and learning mode of kindergartens, and also provide materials for the follow-up story intervention.
3. Intervene through stories. It is natural that babies like stories. My family pesters me to tell him stories before going to bed every night. He likes to listen to them repeatedly. Telling a story doesn't have to be in a book. You can tell him some things in daily life as stories. Before the little guy wants to enter the park, I like to tell him the story of his early childhood education class in kindergarten. First, I am not unfamiliar, and I have a strong sense of substitution. The second is to consolidate his impression of kindergarten life, and the effect is better. It is very important for him to adapt to the later life by telling his baby more happy things in kindergarten and improving his good feelings and yearning for kindergarten.
? Second, warm up properly and participate in collective life in advance.
There are many early education classes and nursing classes on the market now. To tell the truth, I still don't like early childhood classes and kindergarten classes in the market if it is not limited by objective conditions. I am a pragmatist, but I think it is necessary to take interest classes. On the one hand, I really learned something, which is good for the baby's future sentiment cultivation. On the other hand, it also intuitively connects with the collective life.
So when the baby was three years old, I signed up for a painting class to let him know that adults can't accompany him in class, and there must be basic rules in class. The important thing is that he likes it, which is a warm-up for collective life.
Nursing classes and early education classes can be attended if you like, but it is best not to take too long to avoid premature fatigue of your baby.
Third, we should have a sense of ceremony, but not too ritualized.
? Going to kindergarten is the first step for the baby to start his learning career, which is an important thing for the baby and his family. There should be ceremonies to strengthen the sense of responsibility, but not too ritualized.
1, do the full growth ceremony. Babies often long for a new life. Before entering the park, let the baby participate in the preparations for entering the park, such as taking him to buy a small schoolbag, simple stationery and daily necessities, and explaining it to him to satisfy the baby's sense of responsibility. Usually, we can also mention the upcoming changes in his identity in the speech. For example, in our family, when a baby does a good thing and asks for encouragement, we often say that the student has done a good job in teasing someone. He is very happy and proud of his student status.
? 2. Weaken the separation ceremony. On the day when the baby officially started school, I went to work as usual. Without seeing him off, I asked my grandmother, who had been taking care of him during the day, to see him off. First, because the baby sticks to me at home, if I take a special leave to send him to school, it is a bit too ritualized and may cause him to cry. On the other hand, I also want to tell him that going to school is a very common thing and cultivate his normal mentality.
At the moment, the doll is excitedly describing the day's events, and I finally got rid of my anxiety. This is a good first step, and I hope every step in the future will be satisfactory.