Before studying PhD, Ding Hao worked as a technician in a TV station in his hometown of Shenyang. Seeing his classmates get married and have children, he was also anxious and actively dated, but several relationships ended in vain. After quitting his job to study for a PhD, his mind slowly changed. "Marriage is to make your life more comfortable, not a task that must be completed." He said, "Now time and income are entirely at your own disposal, and you don't need to accommodate anyone. I like this state very much. "
Zhang Jia (a pseudonym), a 27-year-old white-collar worker, has been in love with her boyfriend for seven years and has given up her marriage plan. "Every time I talk about marriage, I follow a lot of troubles and problems, such as integrating two families, buying a wedding room and having children. The two families are very different. " Zhang Jia said that later she and her boyfriend reached a tacit understanding, only falling in love and not getting married. "Marriage has nothing to do with love, it just puts moral and legal shackles on the relationship between the two sides."
Nowadays, more and more young people of school age choose not to get married and live a life of "one person is full and the whole family is not hungry".
Li Yinhe, a sociologist, said that when a family survey was conducted in the 1980s, only about 2% of the population randomly sampled lived alone. When the household survey was conducted in 2007, the population living alone had risen to 12%.
According to the sample survey data published in the Statistical Yearbook of China by the National Bureau of Statistics, the proportion of one-person households in China has increased year by year since 20 15, from 20 19/3.15% to 20 19/9.
For some young people, not getting married is an active choice. In an article "What makes you not want to get married?" In online voting, the option with the most votes is "having your own lifestyle and enjoying single life". For others, not getting married is passive acceptance. One interviewee said frankly: "Every day, where can I get married?"
On social media, the topic of "young people don't get married" has caused extensive discussion. Netizens have said: "Is it bad to be alone? Why do you want to taste the pain of love? " "Every day, there are new reasons to be afraid of getting married." "Marriage needs reasons, but being single doesn't need reasons." "You will never be stable if you can't find the right one." ...
With the increasing number of single young people, the "single economy" has quietly emerged, and the single life has become more and more comfortable and convenient. Hotels for young people have launched a "one-person" package, and the single apartment market is booming. Mini home appliances and kitchenware continue to sell well, and even "customized travel" and "one person's wedding photos" have appeared.
Why did you choose to be single?
Experts believe that the rise of single culture is not accidental, and there is a profound economic and social background behind it.
-Social transformation has changed family functions, and marriage has become a "multiple choice question".
Li Yinhe believes that the increase of single groups is related to the urbanization and modernization of China society. In the traditional rural society, the family is both a consumption unit and a production unit, and it is a rigid demand to form a family; But in modern society, it is entirely possible for one person to earn money and one person to spend money, so marriage becomes dispensable and becomes an option in life.
"Especially for women, in the past, if women didn't get married, there would be no source of income; But it's different now. Women can support themselves completely, and they don't need to be attached to men. The willingness to get married is much lower than in the past. " Li Yinhe said.
-the level of social education has been greatly improved, and the age of marriage has been postponed continuously.
"Now the master is in his mid-twenties, and the doctor is almost thirty. It will be even later to work for a few more years. " Tan Kejian, a researcher at Shanxi Academy of Social Sciences, said that with the improvement of education level, young people pay more attention to the realization of self-worth and the ranking of marriage in life decreases.
According to the data published by the National Bureau of Statistics, from 1990 to 20 17 years, the average age of first marriage of women of childbearing age in China was delayed by more than four years, from 2 1.4 years to 25.7 years, and there is a trend of continuous increase.
-Social tolerance for single young people is increasing.
Many interviewees pointed out that, compared with the past, when men and women were married and unmarried, the concept of marriage is becoming more and more open, and late marriage, unmarried and cohabitation are becoming more and more common. Marriage is no longer a necessary option in life, and society is more tolerant of different choices.
Ge Yishu, a white-collar worker in Shanghai, calls himself a "mother-infant solo". Although she has been single, she feels very comfortable. "Even if a person goes out to eat, there will be no strange eyes. Some restaurants even give you a doll across the street. " Ge Yi Shu said, "Even parents and relatives seem to be slowly accepting their idea of living alone."
-The cost of marriage is rising, and some young people are under great economic pressure.
Si Xiaodong (a pseudonym), a 39-year-old native of Nancun Town, Zezhou County, Shanxi Province, lamented that the speed of saving money could never keep up with the rising speed of bride price. At present, the local standard is nearly 200 thousand bride price. Buying a house and a car in the city adds up to 600 thousand and 700 thousand, which is a heavy burden for ordinary families