Modern parents attach great importance to their children's intellectual development, but in the process of their children's growth, there is also an extremely important content-that is, cultivating children to have good living habits from an early age. Western educational scholars have pointed out that "good habits are more correct than laws" and "habits are the greatest guide in one's life." Then, how should modern parents cultivate their children's behavior habits in the process of raising their children? Civilized language habits —— Starting with polite expressions. Gorky said: "Language is the clothes of all things and thoughts". As modern parents, in the process of raising children, we should pay attention to educating children to learn polite language from the stage of learning English. For example, address adults correctly and say "thank you, please, I'm sorry" and other polite expressions. On the other hand, although children don't swear, they have a bad attitude and an impatient or even harsh tone. This is also a bad habit. Imagine that it is not harmonious for a person with civilized language to behave rudely, or to behave appropriately, but to speak badly. Therefore, parents should let their children learn to speak kindly, behave gracefully, be lively and generous, and form a good habit of being sincere and generous. Collective consciousness-the behavior habit of living in harmony with others. People are social. After the child is one year old, there is more and more demand for partners. But for every child, how to get along with his partner is still an urgent subject for them to learn. Parents can consciously guide their children to associate with their partners in early education. During the period of 0-3 years old, you should always take your children out of the house and get in touch with the outside world so that your children don't recognize strangers; After children enter kindergarten, they should be guided to get along well with their partners around them, have a sense of collective honor, and encourage them to help others or do things for the collective-although sometimes the "help" children do may be ridiculous in the eyes of adults, don't dampen their enthusiasm. Generally speaking, children aged 4-6 have a sense of belonging to things. For example, this toy is mine, this potted flower is my mother's, and the doll is from kindergarten. Parents should take advantage of the situation, support their children to lend their toys and books to their children, educate their children to play with toys in kindergartens in turn, and even set an example and actively participate in various activities in kindergartens ... Only in this way can children have a sense of collectivity and learn to consider other people's feelings in difficult times, instead of just taking themselves as the center. Work habits-let children start by dressing themselves. At present, only-child families account for the vast majority. Modern parents often overprotect their children's upbringing, or do so anywhere in their children's lives. In this way, children may lose the opportunity to do things by themselves, and then lose the consciousness of doing things by themselves. Labor habits are also behavioral habits that should be cultivated in early childhood. The curiosity of ordinary children makes him like to do it himself. We all know that children will scramble to eat for themselves from 1-2 years old, but often the food is spilled all over the table, but it just can't be put in their mouths. Similarly, children should dress themselves, wear shoes, help fold clothes and collect toys. However, due to their young age and limited working ability, some parents think it is tantamount to helping. Some parents like to take their place and keep everything clean and tidy. As the saying goes, parents are capable and children are naive. Children lose the opportunity to learn and participate, and it is taken for granted that these should be done by parents. Gradually become dependent. Now some primary school students and even middle school students don't do any self-help work, thinking that "my task is to learn" and then don't cherish the fruits of labor; There are also some children whose self-care ability is extremely poor. Without their parents, they can't eat and wear well, which is the result of not forming good habits in the early days. Hygienic habits-an important part of physical and mental health. Modern families cultivate children's healthy habits in two aspects, one is healthy eating habits, and the other is good work and rest habits. Five-year-old Lily is a chubby little girl. She has a good appetite, but her favorite food is foreign fast food besides snacks. Mom and dad said that children go to McDonald's almost every day. Not long ago, I experienced Lily's low hemoglobin in kindergarten, which is anemia caused by malnutrition! In modern families, children are very educated and often buy whatever they like, which is not good for their growth and development. It is necessary to pay attention to let children develop good eating hygiene habits from childhood, eat on time, do not overeat, eat less snacks, and do not have a partial eclipse. In particular, we should pay attention to cultivating children's healthy eating concept from an early age, so that children can develop good habits of eating well and balancing nutrition from an early age. Good eating habits will accompany children for life. The disorder of work and rest time is a misunderstanding of modern people's life, which will inevitably be influenced by children. Today's children have been exposed to TV and computers since infancy, and there are more opportunities to indulge in TV and computers in early childhood. Some children have been exposed to computers since they were 3 years old; Some children are full of energy, even on weekends and holidays, they stay up late with their parents' life rhythm. This practice not only makes children unable to get enough rest physically and mentally, but also makes them reach school age and unable to adapt to the school schedule. Study habits-let children benefit for a lifetime. Shen Guanghui, the principal of Bajiao North Road Primary School in Shijingshan District, Beijing, told us that the first and second grades of primary school are the formative stage, and children should gradually develop the habits of resting, getting up and studying on time to meet the tense learning needs in the future. But in fact, the formation of this study habit also began from the child's childhood. Parents should not only attach importance to their children's early education, but also stimulate their children's interest in learning and reading, which is very beneficial to cultivate their good study habits. American education experts believe that if children's learning ability is not fully developed in pre-school stage, then children are likely to have low learning ability and can't keep up with the progress of school learning in the future. So at the age of 0 to 2, should parents pay attention to cultivating their children's abilities? The first stage: zero to six weeks. Children at this stage need physical contact, love and warmth. If the mother can breastfeed at this time, she should smile, talk, sing and make eye contact with her children, which will increase the intimate relationship between parents and children. The second stage: six weeks to five months, contact with the environment. Continue to give love and care to babies and hug them often. If the baby shows unhappiness, the caregiver should respond. At the same time, the baby can lie on the ground, so that he can practice raising his head and strengthen his visual ability. Hanging a spinning windmill on the left side of the baby's head about 12 inches from the front is composed of spheres of several colors or animals of different colors, which helps the baby to concentrate and learn to track things with his eyes, which is very important for the baby to develop his reading ability in the future; The third stage: from five months to two years old, develop intelligence. Bring more children into contact with the world and exchange experiences with them; Help children socialize, contact other children's parents, let children play together, and encourage other children to talk to adults. These trainings will definitely lay a good foundation for children's future study. Some parents believe that the cultivation of children's reading habits should at least start with their literacy. In fact, there is no need to be so dogmatic-modern parents pay attention to slowly cultivating their children's learning awareness and habits in their early childhood, and their mothers bring "reading" books-their mothers hold him to read books together and tell stories in the books at the same time, so that children can enjoy reading while listening. According to experts, this activity can start as early as before the child is one year old. In addition, with the growth of children, we can set a fixed time every day (of course, the time is from short to long, taking into account the child's physiological characteristics), so that parents and children can read and talk about books together, and we can also consciously guide children to "let's find the answer in the book" and "let's see what they say in the book" when asking questions, thus arousing children's strong interest in books and making reading an indispensable part of their lives. In short, it will have an impact on children's life to cultivate the habit of reading in early childhood and let them develop the good habit of loving reading and learning through bit by bit training. Children's good behavior habits are consciously cultivated by adults. Once the habits are formed, they are not easy to change. Therefore, parents should fully realize that good behavior habits are an important part of children's education, so that children can start small and grow into an independent, confident, responsible, willing to learn and good at getting along with others.