Love and free reading (1)
This weekend, the kindergarten gave us a good learning opportunity, that is, to listen to the lecture given by Teacher Sun Ruixue. For the first time, I participated in the scene where so many parents studied together. I was quite shocked at the time. Parents really do a lot for their children.
I often hear my parents mention some educational ideas of Sun Ruixue, but I still don't quite understand many of them. So I am deeply touched by this research. How can I put it? Really benefited a lot!
I think as a teacher, I have a great responsibility, not only to care about children, but also to give them more love. I have to go into their inner world to understand them. Teacher Sun talks more about giving children freedom. I am ashamed of this so-called freedom! I am always afraid that children are in danger, which limits some of their freedom. For example, playing with water, climbing high objects and many other places. I think parents feel the same way! In fact, we just didn't let our children experience the joy of life. I will make corresponding adjustments in this respect in the future.
I also hope that parents can have a newer understanding like me. I think these children will grow up healthily and happily under our care!
Love and Free Reading (2)
To tell the truth, I had never heard the name Sun Ruixue before reading this book, and I forgot why I bought this book. I guess I bought it on a whim when I was planning to have a baby. Before I opened it, it had been moved from this bookshelf to that bookshelf several times, and even the spine of the book faded a little.
According to this book, babies have mental embryos. In an environment full of love and freedom, before the age of 6, babies will develop an independent and perfect moral system and creativity through their own experiences. I didn't think of this before, but after thinking about it, I think it should be like this. People are such amazing animals. Since the birth of such a small baby, his small body has been growing according to a mysterious and accurate biological clock. Of course, he will also have a natural mental embryo to guide him to think about perfect goals and form goals and willpower. It's just that it's much harder to know and respect the baby's spiritual needs than to respect his physical needs. In this fleeting six years, mothers will have so many opportunities to stay away from their babies. How can we ensure that babies can develop their personality and intelligence without interference in the traditional educational environment? So, I am a little depressed again.
After searching the Internet, I found that there are many Montessori teaching AIDS, but there seem to be only two in kindergarten. One is run by Mr. Sun from Minhang, and the other is a private Montessori kindergarten in Qingpu. Looking at their website, it feels more like an aristocratic school than a real Montessori kindergarten. Hey, how can I let my baby grow up freely?
Love and Free Reading (3)
I have read most of Sun Ruixue's speech on children's education since it was received on October 3rd, 65438/KLOC-0. Compare your educational behavior from time to time. Sometimes this comparison makes me sad, and it is the pain of guilt. I know some educational phenomena and essence too late. How many educational opportunities have been missed and how many regrets have been caused!
Like I saw last night? Fugue? A section. ? Fugue? Thinking is different from action. This is the manifestation of psychological barrier: I want to do one thing in my heart, but I am afraid to do it, so I turn to another thing, or just fantasize and think.
How many such children are there! Yesterday afternoon, I took Xinyue to play outside? Fishing? Game (suck the plastic fish with iron in the water with a fishing rod with a magnet). There is a boy sitting there fishing with a small fishing net. His mother saw it, and quickly came over and said, son, this fish is used for fishing, not catching it by hand. As he spoke, he grabbed the fishing net from the boy and stuffed a fishing rod into the boy's hand: look, that's it, fishing with a fishing rod. The child was expressionless and his eyes were blurred from beginning to end. His choice was deprived by his mother's kindness. He just wanted to try it with a fishing net, but it stopped him, and his mother didn't know it.
After fishing, we went to play on the swing. A little girl of about 5 years old swings very low. Her mother was obviously not satisfied with this and dictated it? Essentials? :? Baby, you stretch your legs forward and then retract them; Stretch forward again, then shrink back; Further forward, further back? The attitude is blunt and a little careless. The little girl didn't respond, just gave us a look. I felt the embarrassment in her eyes. It must hurt my self-esteem to be taught by my mother to swing in front of my little sister. After some guidance, she swung higher than before. After a few more swings, she jumped down and left. She is not interested at all. The mother spoke to her daughter in a stern tone of sports coach, unlike a mother, who was outspoken and heartless, completely ignored her daughter's feelings and even sneered at her daughter's uncoordinated movements. And her father, just playing the treadmill, seems to have nothing to do with him.
Speaking of dad, I played hard outside and met several dads. They don't care about their children at all. I mean, they don't educate them. Although I take my children out, I don't communicate with them or play with them. They just sit at a distance and watch them play, or simply look away. It seems that babysitting is only for mothers, and they don't need to participate. Maybe they think it is enough for a father to earn money to support his family. I suspect this is the idea of many fathers. I really sympathize with those who bring their children into this world, but don't want to spend time and energy with them. They don't realize that fathers play an irreplaceable role in children's growth. Although life is much better now, how many people really value education?
There are many children in school, and family education is obviously lacking. They don't understand many things, have no rules and don't know how to control them. I'm afraid their family backgrounds are similar.
Love and free reading (4)
Not only love, but also learn to love.
This is not just a book for parents.
This should be a book suitable for all adults. By revealing the secrets of children's growth, we can really understand children and ourselves. After reading this book, you will realize for the first time what problems you encountered in the process of growing up and how these problems have influenced your life with hidden and powerful power, although they may have sunk deep into your memory or even been forgotten by you. In fact, they have been unconsciously determining your life direction.
As far as children's education is concerned, it completely subverts the concept of parenting of most people in China. It is as powerful as a 90-ton giant blue whale swimming in front of its parents, so that any responsible parent can't ignore its existence.
As a mother, I read many parenting books, such as Suzuki, Harvard Girl and so on, long before my son was born. In all fairness, these books have their own outstanding features. However, I was deeply touched when I read this book. If other parenting books are a trunk or a leaf of the tree of education, then this book is the whole root of the tree, which explores the happiness in the highest field of human mind.
As the title says, this book is devoted to explaining two most important factors in children's growth; Love and Freedom, which explains what love and freedom are with incisive theories and a large number of examples, and corrects some misunderstandings of adults about love and freedom. The importance of love and freedom to China people has been promoted to an unprecedented height, with discipline, independence, wisdom and morality; These qualities we expect depend on what kind of love and freedom we give our children.
Adults may think love is simple, as long as it comes from the heart. But this is a subjective misunderstanding. American psychologist Fromm said that love, like other arts, needs to be learned and grasped. If you don't understand the growth law and spiritual construction process of children, you can't give them the love they need.
China has a saying, beating is kissing, scolding is love. It is believed that beating and cursing is also the embodiment of parents' love to some extent. However, the author tells us that this is not the case. A child who is often reprimanded or beaten has a very different mental development from a normal child. Stress and fear make them too sensitive to external things and overemphasize their feelings about something, thus affecting their internal mental development. At first glance, some of these children seem to react quickly, and even adults often praise them for their cleverness. However, the fact is that their seemingly sensitive reactions have not been thought by themselves, and their rapid reactions are just simple conditioned responses formed under the constant stimulation of adults, just like biologists say that dogs eat as soon as they blow their whistle.
This seemingly clever child has no creativity at all. What they use to learn is observation and improvisation. In front of powerful adults, children can only be weak, and only in this way can they improve their living conditions. This disadvantage is often exposed only when they grow up. At that time, adults may say: What a clever boy, he just doesn't study hard. However, it is not the children's fault. Their thinking has been disturbed and disrupted by human beings, and their attention and willpower have long been unable to concentrate on learning or anything that needs continuous efforts.
Another misunderstanding of love is excessive concern, which is completely opposite to beating and cursing, but it leads to the same goal. Excessive care limits the freedom of children. Under this kind of care, parents are always afraid that their children will dirty themselves or be in danger. Parents forbid their children to eat, dress, roll and take anything fragile, and their mouths will never stop talking. After being deprived of the experience of growing up, such children will eventually become ignorant, go their own way, and do not know how to protect themselves; Either become lazy and timid, and have no independent personality. At this time, adults began to blame children again, but they didn't know that this was the evil result they planted.
Please remember this passage in the book: children must gain physical independence through independent living, conscious independence through free choice and ideological independence through undisturbed work.
Love and Free Reading (5)
There are children at home, often because I don't know how to get along with them, how to treat some of them? Improper behavior? I don't know how to guide, and I feel embarrassed.
After reading Sun Ruixue's book Love and Freedom, I realized that only by fully understanding the law of children's growth can we get along with children more scientifically and better.
There are several ideas in this book that are fresh in people's minds:
Many parents say that they should teach their children, as if their whole intellectual development depends on adults. The growth of children must rely on their own feelings to form their own rationality. When educating children, we must minimize the active intervention of educators. Too much intervention in educating children may be slavery. Every stage of a child's life is not blank. He has his own independent way of thinking.
The book advocates Montessori's educational thoughts and methods, respects the natural development law of life, believes in the development of children at every stage of life growth, and interacts with children with love and freedom.
Sun Ruixue warned parents: You need to stop and see if you love your children based on your thoughts, fears, anxieties and habits.
Let children learn to be alone.
Children are free to choose what attracts them in the environment. In our past experience, we think that children should be watched all the time, and they can't have their own space because it is dangerous. But in fact, when a child reaches a certain age, solitude is only a process of self-creation, so solitude is the most important specific time in his life.
Let children learn to explore for themselves.
In our growing experience, there are always teachers who tell us the process and the ready-made answers. This process is the process of being instilled. We have no joy in discovery, no joy in exploration, and no sense of accomplishment in getting answers. Give back the power and surprise of discovery to children. Let them find that their shoes are on backwards, and find a way to open the packaging bag, because they will find out!
Let children learn to share, not complain.
Whether we are miserable or happy, we all have a desire to share with others. Sharing with others is not venting, not complaining. You need to practice sharing when you grow up, so that you won't vent. We can achieve psychological and spiritual connection through sharing rather than integration, so that the relationship between people will be comfortable and happy.
Love and Free Reading (6)
This is the first book that makes me so close to my children. Let me see the inner world of children. From every case in the book, I can really feel the living conditions of those children. I can see the concentration and seriousness of children growing up in an environment of love and freedom. Can you tell that adults are serious? Love? The pain and helplessness of children suppressed in the name of ""are all children's psychology I have never seen before, but they are real.
A very important point in the book is that if we really love children, we should be their spiritual supporters and service providers. There is no destruction, and there is no need to let the children's own thoughts, words and actions be released. These behaviors have nothing to do with right or wrong, but are the innate performance of children. We just need to protect these pure talents, not interfere with children's nature. From the moment of birth, every child has become an independent whole, with its own soul, thoughts and actions, and its own way of life. We love them, we love them now, not what we think? For the good of the children? Impose on them. A child has his own growth, and he is a part of nature. I hope that children's talents will not be lost in our compulsory course. Every child's nature is innate, and the so-called moral theory of adults has nothing to do with the child itself, but adults often use their own experience to interfere with the child's nature, and no one wants the child to be himself. Adults probably don't think that children are also independent people, with perception, creativity and their own thoughts.
However, to give children love and freedom is easier said than done. After all, we are all children who grew up in Chinese families. Most of us are limited by traditional education and culture. Those deep-rooted educational methods make it impossible for us to really love our children most of the time. Most of us think that disciplining children is love, forcing children to learn all kinds of knowledge is love, and even beating and scolding are all manifestations of love. No one cares about children's inner needs and thoughts. I was one of them before I came into contact with this book. I treat my brothers and sisters in a coercive way. I always thought that their children knew nothing but that the church had become better. I feel guilty for the harm I caused them when I read this book. Now I need to apologize deeply to my brothers and sisters. I want to compensate them with my full love and warmth at this moment!
There are also many parents who ask their children to study better and study more in the name of love. Be good to their children? Or satisfy the vanity of adults? Say in front of outsiders: look, this is my child. He knows so much knowledge. How great he is! Is it really great? If a child's grades are poor, or worse than other children in some way, some parents start chanting: What makes you think that child is so good? I've had an opponent since I was a child, and I'll never be able to match him, right? That kid? . In fact, children don't have to do everything better than others, they can be less great! There is nothing wrong with the child, he is himself.
Give children enough freedom, let them know the laws of everything to the maximum extent, and children have the opportunity to understand it in depth. This is the freedom to fully develop their potential! Of course, there is no absolute freedom in the world, and freedom is based on certain rules. However, in Montessori's educational philosophy, discipline must be based on freedom. Because you are your own master, when you are your own master, when you automatically follow a certain standard of living, then you have the ability of self-control, which is called discipline.
But in real life, the discipline that most people understand is to listen to parents or teachers and sit there quietly. In fact, children are very willing to obey the rules. They often spontaneously agree on some rules in the game and abide by them well, but these rules must be coordinated with children's internal development, established by children themselves in life and in games with their peers, and have no conflict with children's internal needs. The best attitude towards children is to let them develop in accordance with the natural state, give them enough space and understanding, and let them find laws in freedom. They will naturally bring rules into their own lives and live in peace with life in nature. At this time, the rules are probably not a constraint on children, but an equal foundation established by everyone.
I once saw a story in Weibo. In a kindergarten, a teacher is playing a ball-throwing game with a child. The teacher threw a ball to the child and the child missed it. At this time, the teacher said: stupid! I can't even catch the ball! ? Then the child threw the ball to the teacher, and the teacher missed it. So the teacher said:? Stupid, can't even throw the ball! ? This story has always been in my heart, and I feel distressed for a long time after reading it, and I feel distressed about the child in the story. I don't know how to save those children who are suppressed by adults in various ways. What's wrong with children in this environment? Love, freedom, rules, equality, children have nothing there, how to be an equal and normal person when they grow up? I sincerely hope that every child can grow up happily.
If we really want to learn to love, we must first put down our assumptions and expectations. Without your expectation, things will develop according to its development track. Don't just take the child to a safe place before he falls and scold him for not letting him play in dangerous places. Therefore, we need to constantly use life to perceive, to understand children's inner thoughts, to give children the love they really need, and to let children grow up healthily in a loving environment. Love itself is a great tolerance and understanding.
As a worker who has just stepped into the field of preschool education, it is undoubtedly my great luck to meet this book. It not only changed my inherent concept, but also taught me how to love. Loving you like this is not what I want.
Love and Free Reading (7)
In recent days, I read Sun Ruixue's book Love and Freedom, which made me understand that loving children requires giving him full freedom. Of course, such freedom is based on discipline.
One of the most subversive educational ideas in Love and Freedom is Montessori? Mental embryo? Theory, the so-called? Mental embryo? That is to say, at the moment when the fetus is formed in the mother, there is something inside that will guide the child's development at birth, what to grasp and what to touch. This view requires us to believe that children have spiritual existence, and children will develop according to the predetermined spiritual development model.
Based on this view, children's growth does not need the indoctrination of adults, but only needs to create environment and conditions for their growth. If we think carefully about the process of mastering language, it is not difficult to see that the environment plays an important role in children's development. Generally, before the age of three, children can basically master the local language. In this process, children can master the language by themselves in the surrounding language sounds, which shows that children are self-developed. This kind of self-development is based on feeling, develops from feeling and is accompanied by feeling.
I appreciate the idea of this book: the process of human growth is psychological growth, not intellectual growth, and intellectual growth is dependent on psychological growth. ? Does this have anything to do with Chinese mainland? Knowledge comes first? The concept of education seems to be the opposite. Never let the children lose at the starting line! ? Instilling knowledge into children is the present situation of education in China, but I don't know that this educational concept, which is completely contrary to the inherent growth law of children, is devouring children's hearts.
Montessori education and freedom are based on discipline, that is, when children's behavior goes beyond the scope of discipline, we should have a say? No? Yes, but this? No? How to say, in what way to guide and tell children? In the wrong idea, everything has to be compromised for the soul. What is more important than telling children right or wrong is to protect them from trouble and inner harm. Children know the world through feeling and discover the laws of the universe through perception. Maybe we can hurt this young flower with a simple sentence.
Montessori's educational philosophy emphasizes children's self-education, and parents and teachers are only observers and guides, so that children can find discipline and restrain themselves in freedom and willingly abide by the rules. This is the ultimate goal of education. Now Montessori's teaching AIDS are very popular on the Internet. Parents are keen to send their children to math classes and music classes, and Montessori's gold-lettered signboard is hung in teaching institutions of all sizes. After catching up with the trend, I also went to several early education classes. I didn't know much about Montessori at that time, and I certainly don't know much about it now. For me at that time, Montessori education was a dazzling teaching aid. I think the domestic early education institutions have regarded Montessori education as omnipotent, which has somewhat deviated from the principles of love and freedom. Did we ask the children's permission when we took them to the early education class? When they don't want to, do we follow their wishes? I think the answer isno. We should sit down and reflect on the purpose of taking our children to kindergarten, whether to let them find their own identity in freedom or to let them learn more language skills, math skills and painting skills.
I recommend it carefully.