For Luo's father, after all, he is doing early education, so he is particularly sensitive to such things. He immediately saw the child's problem, and the child was in a "curse sensitive period." Today, Dad Luo will share how to guide children in the "curse sensitive period".
What is the "curse sensitive period"?
Children's language ability is initially formed, and they will enter the "curse sensitive period" around the age of 3. As we all know, when children can't speak, they can only express their emotions by crying. When they begin to speak, they will discover the power of language just like discovering the "New World", and they can express their feelings through language. So children in this period are very sensitive to violent language. When they are angry,
However, this is a trap, because when children are satisfied with their own expression, if people who are attacked by his language react strongly, then at this time, they will feel great, they will feel that they have done the right thing and attracted the attention of others, and they will use this method more and more in the future. Therefore, whether parents or other children use "violent language" against you, you must be calm and don't let your children feel that what they are doing is right.
As parents, how to guide the children in the "curse sensitive period"?
First of all, parents should understand and analyze the source of children's "violent language". As a beginner, his language is nothing more than imitation, not imitation of parents, nor imitation of TV, nor the influence of other children. Most children learn through some violent cartoons, so Dad Luo suggested: If parents have their own influence, they must improve themselves for their children; If it is the influence of other children, please make sure that other parents also notice this and find the root cause; If it is on TV, reduce children's exposure to programs.
Of course, if you learn from cartoons, parents can role-play with their children, just play the role in that cartoon, and let them say what they want in the game, but then tell them that they can only leave those languages in the game and never say them outside the game.
Secondly, parents should learn to remain calm in the face of their children's "violent language" and let them know the consequences. When a child gives a "curse", he will want to see the other person respond immediately, so that they can enjoy that kind of fun. However, if parents are anxious, respond with anger, or even hit their children, the children may be afraid that you won't dare to say it in front of you, but it doesn't mean that the children have changed and may tell others. Dad Luo suggested that parents should only calm down. When the child says "I'm going to kill you", parents stare at the child to see his reaction, and then slowly say "but if you kill mom and dad, it's gone, and then you lose mom and dad." Children will really think. On the one hand, he will feel that he didn't get the response he wanted, on the other hand, he will feel that the consequences are beyond his ability.
Third, parents should help their children express their emotions correctly. Children can speak "violent language", which is actually mainly an expression of inner emotions. Although they may say that sentence every time, their emotions may be different every time. For example, sometimes they are angry, sometimes they are wronged, and sometimes they hope to get attention from others. However, parents must understand that children should express their demands. If the child is unwilling to express it, then parents can analyze whether something happened just now, which made the child feel this way. Then parents can ask their children, "Did something make you angry just now?" Solve the problem according to the problem, and let the child know that only the correct expression can solve the problem, so that the child will no longer want to use "violent language" to solve the problem. Parents should also learn to apologize to their children if there is something wrong with their behavior.
Parental guidance is really important for children who are just beginning to learn a language. Children themselves have no judgment. They don't know what to learn and what not to learn. So since "violent language" can be completely accepted by children, healthy language can also be accepted by children in turn. The key depends on the guidance of parents and what kind of influence it brings to children. Usually, we should pay more attention to children and understand their thoughts, so as to better guide them.