The baby's nickname is' lollipop', which is the nickname given to the baby by grandma, not because she likes to eat lollipops, but because grandma often encourages and praises her' baby, great, great, great, lollipop! "
From prenatal education to early education after the baby is born, as well as early education at this stage, almost all of them learn from different educational concepts and methods in China and the West, and combine with the baby's own situation, slowly explore and practice, teach students in accordance with their aptitude, and then constantly improve.
Education-try to be a "companion" and "guide" parents during the sensitive period of catching children, and allow children to make mistakes (trial and error method)
1, the sensitive period of catching children
Since the baby was born, I began to keep a running diary every day. Of course, I also want to thank my grandparents for their support and help. After my maternity leave, almost all the work was done by them during the day. One is to record her daily diet and defecation, and the other is to record the small changes in her growth process, so that I can know more about her and her growth needs, and help me grasp her sensitive period. Children have many different sensitive periods-space, language, cognition, reading, sports, senses and so on. Every baby, the arrival time and order of different sensitive periods may be different, but as long as we can catch them in that sensitive period and stimulate their development, it will be of great help to their brain and limb development.
Perhaps the language sensitive period of most female babies comes earlier. Starting from 6 months, lollipops are no longer limited to eating, sleeping and pulling, and can begin to interact with us. So I began to' feed' her with story books every day. Accompany her to read English story books in bed every day, and cultivate her English ears from an early age. When I was one and a half years old, my baby saw a car on the road. She pointed and said,' Car, car ...'. When she sees children playing ball in the community, she will say' ball, ball …' from time to time.
At the age of 8 or 9 months, lollipops began to crawl slowly. I deliberately let her crawl for a few more months, but I didn't rush to let her learn to stand, because crawling training is to fully develop the baby's brain vestibule and to better develop her body's coordination and balance. Although I have always disapproved of children learning pulley before the age of 6, because bending their knees too early for a long time is not good for the development of their knees, my baby fell in love with pulley at the age of 4. In order to respect children's interests and choices, pulley is really helpful for the development of limb balance. In addition, Bob began to practice jazz drums at the age of 4, which is also to stimulate and improve the coordinated development of her big muscle movements and limbs, and to help her develop her left and right brains in a balanced way.
Music is also one of the best enlightenments in early childhood. Children's songs should be the earliest enlightenment for children to accept music, which are generally preferred by children. When lollipops were very young, they listened to children's songs and were eager to sing along with them. I will sing with my mother who is tone deaf, and the baby will look at my lips and quickly master the pronunciation of the lyrics, which also stimulates her language development.
At the age of two and a half, lollipop's little hand can already stand on the piano keys with a small house, so she started piano enlightenment at the age of three, and she can play simple music freely on the piano keys at the age of four, which is also the practice of her small muscles and the fine movements of hand-eye coordination, which can help the development of intelligence.
The sensitive period of lollipops is about 2 years old. Every time she went into the house or went out to change her shoes, she put them neatly, and she still does. Of course, we have always encouraged her to learn to organize her own things and learn to set up management. Slowly, she is not limited to her own fixed management. Whenever I come into the room to change my shoes, she will tell me mercilessly: Mom, your shoes are not properly worn! So, now I also learned to tidy up my shoes after changing them.
Baby, thank you, let mom get rid of bad habits! It turns out that children are born to help our parents do better!
2. Try to be a parent of "companion" and "guide" and listen to the needs of children.
Due to the pressure of life at present, it's a pity that I can't be a full-time mother. Although my grandparents always carry lollipops, I usually spend my spare time with her. Because children need their parents' company most when they are young. "Parents" here means "parents", not grandparents. Although we emphasize the independence of children, it does not conflict with' accompanying' children.
Humans are social animals. No matter how young children are, they need to communicate and are eager to be listened to and paid attention to. When lollipop was young, she liked someone to play with her building blocks, even if she just sat quietly beside her and gave her appropriate encouragement and praise. Lollipops like to sing children's songs, so we listen, sing and sometimes dance with her.
What lollipops like best every day is listening to stories, one after another. As she grew older, she began to choose her own story books. Sometimes she will ask me to repeat a story until she can tell me a story with a book in her hand and pretend to be reading. Of course, sometimes, especially after the age of 4, babies prefer to listen to Chinese stories, and it doesn't matter if they don't want to listen to English stories. With the development of the brain, children may no longer be limited to imitation, but want to understand and think for themselves. As parents, we just need quiet guidance. I will put some books in the baby's usual activity area and bedside, so that the baby can get them at hand when he wants to read them. I will secretly change those books regularly according to her different growth stages. Babies will unconsciously see and hear story books suitable for their age. Of course, sometimes when she is rummaging through old toys, she can unconsciously find story books or picture books she read as a child, and she will read them carefully with great interest, and sometimes even let me read them several times. It doesn't really matter. When children read their previous books, what they see, hear and think is different from before, and may be higher. If children are not interested in books at this stage, they can look at previous books again.
In fact, while accompanying and guiding my children, I seem to have returned to my childhood and feel that I have grown up with my children again.
Baby, it's good to have you, thank you!
3 Allow children to make mistakes (trial and error method)
The sensitive period of lollipops to numbers comes late. In the kindergarten class, I still didn't seem to find her hobbies or sensitivity to numbers, but her logical thinking was still weak. I'm going to be young, which makes me a little vaguely worried. So I took her to the audition class of logical thinking training. Before the audition, the teacher played some games with her to test her logical thinking ability. In fact, those little games are very simple, and some are at home. We played a similar game with her. There are several games, because she didn't fully understand what the teacher dictated, and she didn't do well enough. Several times I found out that she was wrong from the beginning, so I couldn't help but remind her. At this time, the teacher gave me a wink, and I held back and let her' wrong' to the end. Afterwards, the teacher told me that in fact, many games have no standard answer to right or wrong. Different children can make many different answers, and each child has his own ideas. As long as she can tell the reason for doing so, it means that she is "thinking" and "thinking". I suddenly realized that the digital sensitive period of lollipops had already arrived, but it was just covered up by our traditional ideas. In the usual competition, our parents care too much about the final result. Sometimes, when she starts to play something different from our ideas, we start to try to correct it and try to get the results we want according to adults' ideas. Over time, it will stifle children's imagination and ability to think independently and deal with problems, and children will become more dependent on their parents and lack confidence in themselves. In fact, it doesn't matter if you take a step back and think about it, even if it is' wrong'. At least the child knows that this method will not work and will continue to think of other methods. This is to cultivate their' independence'. Only when children know what is wrong will they know how to do it right.
There is no shortcut in life, but you have to keep trying, keep making mistakes, sum up from your mistakes and find the right way to move on.
Personality-learn to wait and cultivate children's self-confidence.
1, learn to wait
As parents, we sometimes have to learn to wait, just like the' sensitive period' mentioned earlier. Sometimes, driven by vanity, parents may accidentally start to compare their children with those of other families, which may happen more often between grandparents. In fact, every child is unique, very smart and excellent. The key lies in how our parents should explore, further guide and cultivate.
I remember lollipop went to Hainan with her grandparents for several months when she was 2 years old. There is a swimming pool in the community there. Grandma really wants her to swim in the water like other children, because she firmly believes that swimming can help her grow taller. But babies are afraid of water. Even if she stood by the swimming pool and her feet were wet, she would be afraid and even cry. No matter how grandma teaches her and even demonstrates swimming by herself, the baby is afraid of water and refuses to swim in the water. Fortunately, the clever grandmother didn't force her, but took her to the swimming pool every day, let her sit by the swimming pool and watch other children play in the swimming pool. At that time, according to grandma's memory, a little boy bravely jumped into the swimming pool every day. Finally, one day after 1 month, the baby jumped into the swimming pool (of course, the children's swimming pool, the water is very shallow) like his little brother. His clothes were all wet and water splashed on his face. The baby giggled and shouted, "Me too." . Lollipops are not afraid of water! Grandma was so surprised that she immediately went upstairs with a swimsuit and a swimming board. Since then, lollipops have fallen in love with swimming. This summer, the baby and you can swim breaststroke with your head buried in the water. Thanks to grandma's patience, she didn't force her to swim in the water, otherwise she would be afraid of swimming in the future.
Step 2 cultivate self-confidence
The world is created by children's confidence. Therefore, the cultivation and establishment of children's self-confidence has a great influence on their life-long growth. Some children may be born outgoing and lively, not afraid of life, and some children are shy. But they all have a strong heart, as long as they are given appropriate guidance and enough encouragement at the right time.
Lollipops were shy when they were young, and they didn't want to communicate with children they didn't know. We were anxious at first, but we also knew that forcing her or accusing her would only be counterproductive. So every time we take our baby to the central garden of the community and encourage her to play with other children. I will learn the voice and tone of children greeting strange children and guide her to greet each other in the same way. Slowly, the baby's shyness has improved. In fact, we find that lollipops have better language skills and can express themselves clearly with simple words and sentences. So we usually pay special attention to the further development of her language ability.
Later, lollipops began to have the opportunity to tell stories and speak on behalf of children. Kindergarten children broadcast news in Shanghai. Especially in the recent "Speak Shanghai News" activity held by kindergarten, the teacher arranged 4-5 children on duty every day to broadcast Shanghai news, and children who can't speak Shanghai dialect can also use Mandarin. My husband and I are both new Shanghainese and can't speak Shanghainese at all. We originally planned to let Bao Bei broadcast the news in Mandarin. But the baby insisted on speaking Shanghainese, so I asked my colleagues in Shanghai to help me record the prepared press release in Shanghainese and imitate it sentence by sentence with lollipops at home. Then we played children and teachers, sat on the sofa, and the audience listened to her broadcast Shanghai news. Although at first, she would look at the pictures in the press release and forget the news words. Through repeated practice, she can finally finish the whole news of Shanghai slowly, but when it comes to the penultimate sentence, she often forgets how to pronounce it. In order not to increase the pressure on her to go on stage, we told her that it doesn't matter if she doesn't remember the words when she broadcasts the news, and we will talk about it later. Although she specially practiced the penultimate sentence, on the day of news broadcast, Lollipop forgot this news word that she would never remember, but she didn't stop, but went on without hesitation until the end. Let me once again be shocked by the wit on the baby stage.
In fact, life is like a stage, and the directors and actors are ourselves. The child is not as weak as we thought. As long as you are fully prepared and have a certain degree of foresight about the activities or stages you will participate in, you will have more courage and confidence to face the eyes of more strangers and your future, and you will have excellent performance on your own life stage.
Living habits-try to be a "lead by example" parent. Good children are boastful.
1, strive to "lead by example" and give children a childhood without TV.
Children are sometimes like a mirror of their parents. Children learn about the world through their parents and participate in social activities by imitating their parents' behavior at the beginning.
My husband and I are both working parents, and the work intensity and pressure are relatively high. In our lonely world, we are used to watching TV while eating. The intense work during the day has made us almost powerless to communicate in language, and we will definitely stay up late at weekends. But since the baby was born, my living habits and schedule have changed a lot. I go to bed early and get up early (I sleep with my baby almost every day and get up at 6 am). Maybe someone else's weekend has just begun, and my day has passed more than half. This also makes my life more regular, and I have more time to read books and interact with my baby. And in order not to let the baby have the habit of eating snacks, the whole family does not eat snacks, try to eat healthy food and develop good eating habits.
I have always advocated giving children a childhood without TV as much as possible. In addition to the radiation of TV and IPad, the more important reason is that watching TV and IPad passively attracts children's attention, which has a great influence on children's future attention. When Lollipop was over 4 years old, Bao Bei used to watch cartoons at parents' time for special reasons. When I went home to practice with her, her head was blank, she couldn't concentrate on reading the piano score, and she was still immersed in the cartoon just now.
Moreover, the dazzling pictures on TV will stifle children's imagination, and the high-frequency flashing pictures are not conducive to the development of eye vision. Therefore, before she went to kindergarten at the age of two and a half, our family did not turn on TV, watch TV or watch iPad, and set an example. I also thank my grandparents for their great support and cooperation.
Of course, children need to socialize, and telling the content of cartoons on TV is also an important topic of communication between children. Therefore, after the age of 3, we began to watch cartoons with our baby properly, choose suitable cartoons with her, and limit the time of watching TV every time. Since the age of five, we usually don't watch TV, but we set Saturday night as' movie night'. I will accompany her to watch selected animated films, even if they are all in English, it will not affect her understanding of the story at all.
2. A good boy is "bragging".
Children usually enter the first rebellious period when they are two and a half years old. At this time, children will express their dissatisfaction or resistance through language (crying) or behavior (throwing things and losing their temper). At this time, parents should never oppose their children or reprimand them. The best way to treat children is to distract them. If the child is over 4 years old and has a certain understanding and behavioral constraints, we must first understand the reasons why she is dissatisfied or uncooperative, so as to enlighten the right medicine.
In fact, children are like a mirror to us. How you treat her, she will learn to treat you in the same way. Imitation is human nature. As parents, we are children. They came to this world with the earliest contact and the longest contact time. Perhaps, sometimes you will feel anxious after taking care of your child for a long time, and you may lose your temper with your child because of a little dissatisfaction. At this time, I suggest you quickly change your current position to a family member, calm yourself down (this is also a way to relax yourself), and then come back and continue to take care of your children to avoid passing on your negative energy to them.
In particular,' good' children are praised, not constantly accused and criticized. However, when praising a child, we must be specific and give her a "special praise" for a certain behavior or event, instead of saying something like "very good, not bad, great" in general.
When lollipops can be stacked one by one for the first time, we will cheer for her. "Baby, this is great. It can make its own wood. Come on, let's count together and pile up a few pieces. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7! It's amazing, it's seven stories high! Can you put it on another layer? Do you want to try again! "
When the lollipop greets a strange child for the first time and politely greets the elder of the other child, we will also praise her like this,' Baby, I made great progress today, and I took the initiative to greet the child and his grandmother! "
Over time, lollipops also learned to find the advantages of others from life and praise them.
When I get home and put my shoes in order, the lollipop will come over and say to me,' Mom, you did a good job today and put your shoes in order. This is commendable! "
When I drove her to class at the weekend, she sat in her seat and boasted:
Mom, driving skills have improved, and it's getting better and better! '
Really, thank you for your compliment. Mom is so happy! I am a little proud to answer.
Mom, don't be proud. Keep trying! The lollipop said calmly.
Hehe, the lollipop gave me back what I usually said to her!
Praise your children and be good at discovering their advantages, and you will find that life is so beautiful at the same time!
The choice of extracurricular interest classes-respect children's wishes and choices and look to the future.
In the education of my generation, I grew up under the ideological education of "doing one thing, loving one thing", which affected my life's growth. I have always envied those who have developed their favorite hobbies into their own careers. Because I have lived, studied and worked in Europe for seven years, and I know something about western education, I think their educational methods are really suitable for children's growth and character cultivation. However, if it is copied to China, it doesn't seem to be applicable, because the "resource competition" in China doesn't allow our children to have time for "slow education" and they can't lose at the starting line. The second kind of Guangdong theory makes many parents flock to private/bilingual kindergartens, or they are very fond of various cram schools and interest classes in society.
Of course, I am not against children going to private bilingual kindergartens or interest classes here. In fact, when Lollipop was two and a half years old, I started looking for interest classes to make plans for her study and hobbies at the age of 3-9. However, everything should be based on children's interests and hobbies. What our parents should actually do is to provide their children with a platform of interests to choose from and create an opportunity for them to discover themselves.
The following are some of my experiences in choosing interest classes:
1/ first determine what abilities and interests the child should be suitable for at this stage.
2/ Try to find a learning institution of a big chain brand, and make an appointment for an audition class first to see the performance and interest of the children.
3/ Don't sign up impulsively. No matter how the teacher of the interest class introduced it, the child also showed such love at that time. Be sure to leave the atmosphere of the interest class first. Afterwards, ask the child what he/she is doing in the interest class and whether he/she likes it and why. Then calm down for 2 days and pay attention to whether the child mentioned the interest class. If so, it means that the child really likes it, or the teacher in the interest class is effective. If not, you can tentatively ask about the last interest class and see the child's reaction.
4/ After deciding to cultivate children's interest, it is recommended to participate in several audition classes of different institutions and try to choose your favorite class with your children.
5/ Try to choose an institution close to home to save time. Secondly, consider that grandparents can help if they don't have time to accompany the class, otherwise the absence of class will only delay the progress and interest of the children.
6/ Once you start an interest class, parents should not think that everything will be fine if you hand over your children to the interest class, and then you will be a master. Be sure to review and preview with your child after class every time. Any study or interest cultivation is a persistent process, which requires parents who can' persist'!
As children grow up, they will learn more and more skills, but what they learn is never the skills themselves, but a completely different way of looking at the world, which can be imperceptibly turned into an instinct through learning and continuous consolidation.
Children's learning is natural. From his efforts to put the spoon in his mouth accurately, from his sweating to coordinate his legs to kick out the first ball, from his inarticulate expression of his views for the first time, curiosity prompted him to imitate, and learning was an instinct. An open environment, sufficient resources and benign guidance can naturally capture and stimulate children's desire for learning.
Communicate with children and listen to their needs. There are many methods of education, and the one that suits your children is good. We should find our children and help them grow up on the premise of following science. In fact, this process is also to help our parents grow up again and do better!
Finally, I would like to thank the kindergarten teacher for giving me this opportunity to recall the development of lollipops, sort out my parenting experience in the process of accompanying her to grow up again, find out the shortcomings, rearrange my parenting ideas, adjust my later planning and set sail again.
Thanks to my baby lollipop, I can hold hands with you and grow up with you!