The education of cherishing toys can start from the following aspects:
1, let children know the characteristics of some toy materials:
For example, some toys are made of paper, plastic and so on. At this time, parents can tell their children that the paper is very thin, it will rot when it meets water, and it will wrinkle after rubbing. Don't rub or pinch it when playing with windmills and rabbit lights. Plastic products break easily, so don't bite or throw them on the ground, or they will break.
2. Tell children not to grab toys:
Grab toys, which is what we often see. At this time, adults can make some simple rules, such as asking everyone to play with toys. When you ask someone for a building block, you should say, "Thank you. May I have a building block?" You can't play it until you get permission. After you have finished playing, don't throw it around, and don't put it anywhere.
3. Let children feel that toys are hard to come by:
Parents buy toys for their children if they don't want them. For example, if a child wants to buy a remote-controlled toy car, you can tell him that it is expensive and ask him for it. When a child gets the new toy he expects through his own efforts, he will cherish it even more.
4, let children know how to cherish through homemade toys:
Parents and children make their own toys together, such as making vases with large beverage bottles; Make cars and so on with tofu boxes. Because these toys are made by children through their own efforts, they often know how to cherish them.
Try to figure out the child's psychology
Don't think that children don't understand psychology. In fact, children are good at trying to figure out the psychology of adults, not only trying to figure out, but also using psychological tactics to deal with adults. For example, adults eat breakfast in a hurry in the morning, hoping that children can eat faster and urge them to "hurry up, hurry up", so that they can go to work quickly after sending their children to kindergarten. However, the child ate slowly and didn't have a bite. In fact, there is a "career" in the child's stomach. In the evening, adults can do something when they want to settle their children. But the child just ignores it, refuses to wash his face, refuses to take a bath and so on. This makes adults very angry. This is actually because children are not satisfied with the arrangement of adults, or they have not reached the price expected by children. Therefore, the way children treat adults is slow and indifferent. There is no need to be angry, and there is no need to push or force the child. Tell them what time it is and how much time you have to play. Or tell your children when and what you should do. Let the children think about what will happen after this time. Describe the consequences in as much detail as possible. Children will feel that they have failed in this way.
Cultivate children's language ability in the family. First, create a good environment and conditions for children's verbal communication.
Whether children dare to speak boldly has a lot to do with the family environment. Therefore, parents should create an environment that can make children want to speak, dare to speak, like to speak, have the opportunity to speak and get positive response. First, let the children have something to say. Parents' attitudes and emotions should be suitable for children's development. Parents should consciously create a harmonious and beautiful family life environment and create a new type of democratic relationship, so that children are willing to communicate with their parents. Children are naturally curious and curious. Parents should never lock up their children because they are bored and noisy, but should guide them to think and explore issues that children are interested in. Parents should take time out to play with their children and increase language communication with them. If children are always left to play alone, where does language communication start? Secondly, parents can make and design materials and games to induce children to talk, so that children can have something to say. For example, in the game Little Recorder, two people sit or stand face to face. One person plays the tape recorder, the other person presses it, then says a word to record, and then presses it to play. A tape recorder must imitate and repeat, and then change roles. This is a good game that can cultivate both listening and speaking, and also increase the affection between parents and children. Why not? In addition, it is necessary to enrich children's life experience as much as possible, so that children can speak more abundantly. Parents can consciously take their children in and out of some social occasions and let them participate in social activities. For example, let children buy things when shopping; When seeing a doctor, let the child tell the doctor about his illness; Communicate with peers and hold a "birthday party"; Do what children want to do, and so on.
Second, guide children to actively listen and speak in literary appreciation activities.
Children like to have their parents tell him stories, but most parents finish them. In this regard, we might as well change. First of all, it will be better to ask questions after telling the story, especially questions that children are interested in and can increase their knowledge. Parents should ask questions openly, the range of questions can be large or small, and the angle of questions can be changed. For example, before telling the story of "Three Little Pigs", parents can ask their children, "Guess whose story you are telling from the name of the story, and what will happen to them." This is much better than asking children "what's the name of the story", because the former is more helpful to cultivate children's imagination. For another example, when guiding children to look at pictures, parents usually ask their children, "Who is in the picture?" If the question is changed to: "What do you see in the picture?" This is better. Although the two have the same meaning, the scope of the latter question is expanded. Children must carefully observe the pictures and understand them before they can answer, and the answers will not be single or identical. Secondly, we should vigorously advocate two-way questioning, that is, parents ask questions and children answer them; Children ask questions and parents answer them. This can not only improve children's interest, stimulate their thinking, but also make them change from passive to active. We all know that it is more difficult to ask questions than to answer them. If children are sometimes asked to ask questions after the story is finished, parents can better understand their children's understanding of the story and the education is more targeted. Furthermore, children's desire to perform can be cultivated in the family. After dinner, the family might as well hold a performance and take turns telling stories or reading children's songs. This can not only develop children's language.
Ability, but also cultivate children's courage and desire to express. Finally, we should pay attention to creativity in language training. For example, let children adapt, continue and create some children's songs or stories, freely choose pictures and arrange pictures for creative narration, and let children cut out their favorite patterns from waste books and paste them on white paper to make small books, write stories and tell them themselves. In short, as long as you pay attention, you will leave more opportunities for your children. What we have to do is: parents who can let their children talk don't talk, and parents who should let their children listen attentively don't interfere; In the case of disagreement with children, parents should not arbitrarily force their children to obey, but should persuade them calmly.
Third, timely debate in the family.
We can use the time before and after meals to have a small debate with our children. For example, "What's in the sky?" "Who is better, the lion or the bear?" Debating on some topics without specific answers can not only develop children's language ability, but also cultivate children's thinking ability, especially suitable for obedient and timid children. Parents encourage their children to actively participate in activities and express their views boldly, which is also very important to cultivate their language expression ability.
Early education should lay the foundation for children's lifelong development. With the rapid development of society and the progress of the times, people's cognition and attitude towards education are constantly updated and developed. The word "early education" is no longer strange in modern families, and the concept of "not letting children lose at the starting line" circulates in the hearts of parents. "Early education" actually refers to educational activities carried out by preschool children aged 0-3. Children at this stage are in infancy, which is a critical period for the development of life intelligence. Some people think that children aged 2-3 are the best age to learn spoken English. Grasping early education can improve the learning effect, which is also the result of the interaction between heredity and environment. Therefore, it is very important to seize the opportunity of education and learning in early education.
Parents pay special attention to their children's preschool education and hope to develop their intelligence and potential in the initial stage of education. However, many parents blindly follow the trend and simply don't understand the concept and significance of "early education".
In fact, early education refers to the preschool education that children receive. But as we all know, children aged 0-3 belong to the category of early education. It is generally recognized that the education of children aged 0-3 is called enlightenment education or children's education. Zhou Hanmin, an expert in baby-friendly early education, said that this period is the most critical period for children's nervous system development and various potential development, and it is indeed a good opportunity for education. The core of early education is to provide an educational and nutritious environment to "activate" children's brain development and personality growth, thus laying a solid foundation for their future development.
In recent years, the state has also given recognition and support to the implementation of early education, encouraging children's intellectual development and education at this stage, thus greatly promoting parents' awareness of early education. From the country to the family, we can fully realize the importance of early education to children.
Parents should also follow their children's interests in the course selection of early education. In infancy, children's interests are difficult to grasp, but after a period of time, children slowly begin to look for their favorite images or sounds, and parents can find their interests from these details. We can't expect a 23-year-old baby to study hard, but as long as the child is interested, he can concentrate on an activity for a long time. As long as parents discover their children's interests, they can create many situations and teach their children to learn literacy and reading. When interviewing the parents of children who participated in early education, Ms. Zhang said that children were "fans" when they were very young. They heard the phone ring and followed. After the observation, they signed up their children for music lessons. The children not only listened carefully, but also accepted the course content happily.
Zhou Hanmin, president of Baby-Friendly Early Education, suggested that parents should first choose brands when choosing early education institutions. The brand behind it represents the quality of education and years of experience, and education must rely on the accumulation of time and good ideas to continuously improve; At the same time, it also depends on the educational philosophy of this institution and course. Nowadays, parents' ideas are diversified, the curriculum system at home and abroad is in institutions, and the classification is also detailed; In addition, ask parents who are already in class to see their comments and word of mouth.
Decipher the eight little things that the baby fears most. Fear event 1 Mommy's gone. Did she leave me? She never came back?
When Mommy went out to work for the first time, Zhuangzhuang was having fun with her grandmother, so Mommy quietly went out. He didn't cry at all. When he thought of looking for mommy, he found that she suddenly disappeared. She cried for a long time, and finally she was tired of crying and fell asleep in her grandmother's arms. From then on, Zhuang Zhuang stared at Mommy every day. As soon as I was ready to go out, my strong little hands clung to Mommy's clothes like iron hooks and refused to let go.
Courage strategy:
Before the baby's separation anxiety begins to form, he should be trained to adapt to his mother's short separation and taught to say goodbye to her every time she leaves. Every time you go out, you should clearly tell your baby where mommy is going and tell him when to come back in a way that your baby can understand, such as the next meal. Whether he understands it or not, he must persist in doing it. Play a separate game with your baby, give him a favorite toy when you say goodbye to him, give him some commitments that he is interested in, and so on. , can bring him some pleasant emotional experience, can effectively reduce or even eliminate the fear of separation from mommy.
Fear event 2 will call the appliance.
Will that long nose that eats dust eat me, too?
Whenever Mommy uses the vacuum cleaner, Tintin will cry and shout. Once, he even saw it eat a small piece of paper! Nothing is more terrible than this. You didn't see its long nose sniffing around on the ground and its stomach was growling with hunger. Maybe mommy won't look, but it will eat by itself.
Courage strategy:
Besides the vacuum cleaner, the baby may be afraid of other household appliances that make noise. Whether the baby understands it or not, simply explain to him the function of the vacuum cleaner and the reason for its "strange call", and tell the baby that this thing will not hurt him. Patiently showing the baby how to switch on and off these appliances and letting him control this thing through a small switch can help him understand that these appliances can't hurt him.
Fear event 3 foliage plants
Will the multi-eyed flowers on the balcony catch me?
Some tropical foliage plants have bright colors or lines, and their large leaves sometimes make babies feel fearless. Lulu is like this. She didn't dare to look, let alone touch the flowerpot called "flower" by mommy on the balcony. Even if her parents are holding leaves in their hands, she will cry out in fear and keep hiding: "Mommy, look, many eyes!" " ..... to prevent children from being afraid.
Courage strategy:
Don't force your baby to get close to the foliage plants he is afraid of, which will aggravate his fear. Parents can often touch the foliage plants in front of their babies and praise their beautiful colors. And tell the baby by action that it won't harm people. Wait until the baby dares to look at the plants, then hold him and look at them, and slowly transition to touching them with your hands. Through these, the baby can get an experience about this plant and gradually establish the concept that it will not "eat people".
Fear Event 4: Will that tearing thing tear me to pieces and eat me?
Doudou looked at the sky torn by lightning outside the window and was shocked to hear the deafening thunder. Doudou cried and hid in mommy's arms. She covered her ears with her little hand and buried her little face in mommy's chest. She didn't dare to look or listen, but she couldn't help turning her head quietly to look out of the window. "It tore the sky ... and it was angry!" She said these two words over and over again, waiting for the screaming thing that tore the sky to disappear.
Courage strategy:
Unusual thunder or other loud noises can make your baby feel scared and puzzled. At this time, no matter what the baby doesn't understand, parents should explain to her the source of these sounds and tell her that these things won't hurt him. In order to help your baby get used to these noises, you can play noise games with him at home, such as buying a toy that can make a lot of noise, such as a small gong, or simply beating kitchen utensils, such as metal pots and pans, at home to make your baby get used to this noise, and explain to your baby that thunder is only a sound, and it only appears when it rains, so it is not terrible.
Fear event 5 strangers
Someone who doesn't know me wants to hug me and kiss me. He must want to take me away from my mother.
Dangdang is lively and naughty at home, which often makes the whole family laugh. This little guy, who is very active at home, wilts when he goes out. Grandma wanted to hug him, so he quickly hid his head in Mommy's arms and tugged at Mommy's clothes tightly for fear of being taken away. Uncle wanted to touch his little head, and he cried with a wow. When a guest comes home, he must catch his mother and satisfy his uncle to look stronger. He was so scared that he kept crying, and he wouldn't stop until he cried people away.
Courage strategy:
Fear of life is a stage that most babies will go through. Generally, at the age of 2, this phenomenon will be alleviated until it finally disappears. When treating a timid baby, we must respect his choice. If he doesn't want to be hugged by strangers, don't force him. Parents can hold their baby in their arms and chat with strangers at a certain distance, so that he can gradually adapt to those strange faces and accept strangers bit by bit. Usually you can take your baby out to play, and greet your neighbors and friends every time you go out, so that he can have more opportunities to contact strangers and help him gradually eliminate his fear of strangers.
Fear event 6 stinks and is sucked down. Will I be pulled down by the screaming vortex?
MengMeng is used to sitting in a basin and taking a bath in his own small bathtub. When Mommy first taught her to sit in the toilet, she saw that her bad smell was washed down by the whirlpool in the toilet, and she cried. That night, when she took a bath in the bathtub for the first time, another similar fear experience made her scream again when she was hung by her mother's neck.
Courage strategy:
Sewers are one of the reasons why many babies can't understand and fear. Therefore, some babies are used to sitting at home, and when they arrive at kindergarten, they may have inexplicable fear of the small toilet or toilet pit in kindergarten, and even refuse to go to kindergarten again. When the baby is afraid of this, parents should not force the baby to continue to sit in the basin and take a bath. Give him a week or two to ease this fear. At the same time, when there is no water in the bathtub, you can let the baby play in the bathtub, let him get familiar with the bathtub, and gradually eliminate the fear of the bathtub. The baby in kindergarten can discuss with the teacher and let him bring his own bedpan for a transition. Every time you bathe your baby in the bathtub, remember to wrap him in a bath towel and hold him in your arms before releasing water, which can also reduce his fear.
Fear Event 7: The kitten bristled, hunched over and looked at me unhappily. It tried to bite me hard.
Hanghang was curious when he saw the little Persian cat in his neighbor's aunt's house, and always wanted to touch this furry little animal. On this day, Hangzhou finally seized the opportunity of close contact with the little Persian cat. As soon as his little hand stretched out, the kitten bristled and hunched over, looking unhappy. Hangzhou immediately burst into tears. From then on, whenever he saw a furry little animal, he was afraid to get into his mother's arms.
Courage strategy:
Baby, this phenomenon of being alert to external things is a normal psychological phenomenon and a manifestation of psychological growth. If the baby is too afraid of small animals, you can buy him some books and CDs about small animals and let him know more about these small animals, which can help him eliminate his fear. Usually, you can give him more opportunities to get in touch with these small animals, try to feed them, watch them play, touch them while ensuring safety, and so on. As the baby grows up, he will gradually accept small animals, and his fear of small animals will disappear.
Fear Event 8: Do you think that darkroom is a monster's big mouth? Those invisible teeth will definitely chew me up.
Tong Tong is afraid of the dark and turns on the light every night. As soon as it was dark, he dared not go out and insisted on turning on all the lights. No matter where he is, the lights in every room should be turned on, so that he can play with peace of mind, otherwise he will keep crying: "Mommy, that black monster is going to eat me. Turn on the light! "
Courage strategy:
Because I can't see anything, with the increase of baby's life experience and rich imagination, many babies will have many strange imaginations in the dark environment for no reason, and they will be terrified. Therefore, parents should not tell horror stories to their babies, and don't use "If you don't sleep, the wolf will eat you!" Before going to bed. "If you don't sleep, the police uncle will arrest you!" Let the baby sleep. If the baby is afraid of the dark, you can give him a nightlight before he goes to bed. Usually, you can play dark games, or blindfolded to catch people.
The mother's tone affects the child's life. Core Tip: Experts say that successful tutoring is closely related to parents' oral expression. In particular, the tone of parents talking to their children will have a far-reaching impact on their emotional intelligence, IQ, temperament and self-cultivation.
The tone of trust
Children especially want to gain the trust of adults, especially parents, so they should show full trust when talking to children. For example, if a child wants to learn to play badminton, you say in a trusting tone, "Star, as long as you study hard and study hard, you will definitely learn to play." This invisibly gives the child a kind of self-confidence and makes him understand that only persistence can achieve success. If you use an ironic tone: "Do you still want to play ball after three minutes of enthusiasm?" It will hurt the child's self-esteem and make him feel insecure about his ability.
Respectful tone
From the age of two or three, children's self-awareness begins to sprout, and this self-awareness will become stronger with age. Children have their own opinions, which shows that children know their own strength and ability. When he puts forward his own different views and demands, don't think that he doesn't listen to you, opposes you and rudely opposes him. If you let your child learn English, but he wants to play with friends, you can't lose your temper: "The older you are, the more disobedient you are. Don't study hard and see what you can do when you grow up. " Doing so will only make children more disgusted with learning. You should use a respectful tone: "Then you can play for a while, but after that, you must learn English." Children are willing to accept it.
The tone of discussion
Every child has self-esteem. If you want your child to do something, you can let him know that he is equal to you and you respect him. For example, if you want your children to pick up toys that have fallen on the ground, you can say, "Stars and toys are littered. What a bad habit. Will you organize toys with your mother? " Never use a commanding tone: "What's the matter with you? Toys are thrown everywhere. Hurry up and clean them up! " "Otherwise, children will be disgusted with your criticism, and even if they do what you ask, they will be unhappy.
An appreciative tone
Every child has advantages and a desire to show. Finding and appreciating a child's advantages will make him more willing to show it. The child drew a picture, perhaps not very well, but the enthusiasm and seriousness of the child's painting is the greatest advantage. When a child shows you a picture, you can't simply say, "It's just so-so, practice hard." This will make children lose enthusiasm and confidence in painting. His works should be affirmed in an appreciative tone: "I didn't expect my baby to draw so well." If you continue to work hard, you will definitely draw better. " Children's desire for expression is satisfied, and with a happy emotional experience, they will be more interested in painting.
An encouraging tone
Children can't be blameless. When a child does something wrong, don't criticize blindly, but help him learn from his mistakes, accumulate experience and encourage him to succeed again. For example, when a child helped his mother to fill a meal for the first time, her mother fell to the ground and smashed it. You can't blame him: "It's stupid to even hold a bowl unsteadily." This will hurt children's confidence and courage to try new things. You should use an encouraging tone: "The star accidentally broke the bowl, it doesn't matter. Try to iron it with your fingers before serving. " This not only teaches practical methods, but also gives children the confidence to try again.
Parenting strategies for children with different blood types;
Type A children are mostly timid, often hiding behind their mothers and carefully observing the surrounding dynamics; He doesn't like being in complicated interpersonal relationships and likes to do what he wants alone. A-type children lack self-confidence, and will lose self-confidence if they are slightly frustrated and hit; I like being emotional. He is sensitive to the evaluation of strangers, so he will please others and be afraid of being annoying.
◎ The key point of education is to help them build their self-confidence, and the most effective method is "praise". The principle of punishment is never to hurt his feelings.
Type o children:
Type O children have strong self-confidence. When doing things, only work hard towards your own goals, and it is not easy to be disturbed by external things; When this character goes to extremes, it will appear very headstrong, stubborn and stubborn, refusing to admit mistakes.
◎ The focus of education-appropriate praise and praise, and praise first, then blame. Don't praise him with improper "rewards", so as not to form the habit of being too careful and asking for remuneration. In addition, simple preaching will not play a good educational role in treating wayward and stubborn O-type children, and parents can focus on cultivating his modest learning attitude.
Type b children:
They are also sensitive to changes in the surrounding environment and to reactions. They like to focus on other people's faces. He is an optimist, always carefree, but impulsive and easy to do whatever he wants; The biggest weakness is lack of patience, stability and persistence.
◎ The focus of education-when praising, first tell him the reasons for encouraging him, and then reward him; Don't praise blindly. You might as well give him a hug when praising him, or put your cheek on his face. These intimate actions are the easiest to stabilize the mood of type B children.
Type AB children:
The advantages of AB type children are that they are decisive in everything, quick in action and extremely considerate; Impulsive, when encountering insurmountable difficulties and obstacles, the mood will immediately appear very unstable, irritable and even lose his temper.
◎ Education emphasis-proper praise and gentle attitude will stabilize his mood, and encouraging language will make AB children obediently accept their parents' opinions and revive their self-confidence.