The first type of observation, this kind of child is more cautious and usually gives the impression of timidity and shyness. The second soft type, this kind of child is reasonable, soft and likes to laugh, but he is not good at maintaining his dominant position, which will make people feel helpless. The third kind of passion, this kind of child is good at communication but also impulsive. The fourth type of inquiry, this kind of child is curious, focused and creative, but not good at expressing emotions and doesn't like bondage.
1. "Observational" child: Shyness and introversion are only one aspect of personality.
It is not difficult to see that every kind of child has its inherent strengths and weaknesses in personality. Parents can't deny their children just by seeing their inferiority complex.
Sister Juanjuan always seems to complain that her son Koko is timid, but boys are always as shy as women. However, Juanjuan doesn't know that Xiao Guo is actually a typical "observing child", and her shyness and introversion are only one aspect of her personality. It is very irrational for her to start denying children without seeing the advantages of carefulness and thoughtfulness in her personality.
2. "Observe" the baby from timidity to generosity, and see how Alyssa Chia works in three steps.
Compared with Juanjuan, Alyssa Chia's handling method can be said to be textbook level.
Alyssa Chia's eldest daughter Bang Bang is a very shy little girl. Alyssa Chia knows her daughter's personality very well. She knows that her daughter's performance is inherent in her personality, and she can't change it forcibly, but can only guide it slowly.
She took Bangbang to an early education class, and the teacher asked each family to sing and introduce themselves. Although there is training at home, Bangbang is too busy to talk, although her mother's whispering is still of little effect.
After observing the girl's reaction, Alyssa Chia resolutely chose to give up singing the latest song and sang a song she was very familiar with with with bang. Really, the little girl slowly relaxed and entered the state.
Today, Bao Xiao is five years old. She is still a quiet little fairy, but she can stand in front of the camera and perform gracefully.
3. How can parents have a better guiding role in observing the baby?
1. Don't force children to accept and change the observation that children are conservative slow-heating babies. Contacting strangers in a strange environment can give them a sense of prevention, and parents don't have to force their children to quickly penetrate into the natural environment. Give children time to find their own safe and comfortable circle, and children will slowly relax. In this process, parents should give their children enough companionship and protection, let them confidently find their own comfort zone, and gradually expand this area.
2. When the baby doesn't greet the teacher according to your regulations, will you say that he is disobedient? It is often useless to say these things, and the baby still goes his own way. So blame can't make the baby more and more optimistic, but encouragement and praise can. Under the persistent guidance of parents, the baby will change slowly. When children show positive communication behavior, parents must praise them in time and support them to continue to do so.
For example, if a child can take the initiative to say hello to the teacher, parents will say that the baby is really polite today. Look how happy you are when you say hello to the teacher. Or let the child help a little after he can, and praise him for being helpful. After a long time, children will gradually be willing to help others.
Don't judge your children in front of outsiders. "Our children are timid and dare not speak." "The child is a little introverted. Look how lively and cheerful your children are. " People often hear this conversation when their parents meet. Maybe parents don't think too much when they say it, but children will personalize themselves as soon as they listen. I am a timid child.