Happy birthday!
How time flies. As soon as your 12 birthday is over, it means that your childhood is over and you are about to enter youth. In the morning, standing in front of the mirror, I said, let's compare our bodies again! A few years ago, I seemed to be a little taller than you. Now, I find that you are a little taller than me. At that moment, I was delighted that my son was going to grow into a man. How can I not be happy?
The past flashed through my mind. You are my father's first child and my first parent. You have no experience. But there is no doubt that I love you.
When I was a child, I really raised it according to the book. After learning that you were pregnant, I bought some books about pregnancy from the bookstore. I refer to them every month and compare the indicators every month. I can still clearly remember buying mp3 for you to do music prenatal education, and singing all the way forward on my way to work in the countryside. I still remember that the most eaten meal at that time was stewed ribs, because the book said that the child would be stronger after birth, and grandma can testify. At that time, the salary was relatively low, and almost all the money was spent on eating, but it was not stingy at all; I can also count the details of your birth. ...
After you were born, the whole family surrounded you. Because of the lack of parenting experience, I saw that there are several books about parenting in your Liang Ge family. I borrowed them as treasures, and now I can still remember nursery rhymes such as "Eat peas, grow meat, don't eat peas, be thin" and "Shake them to the bridge between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and grandma calls me a good baby". When I was a child, my family bought you Dudu Bear Pictorial, Children Pictorial and various picture books. Later, many books could not be put on the shelf.
Later, I learned about the world famous paintings, flash cards, reading treasures of China's classics, and so on. On the network platform. I bought it all. I showed it to you intermittently, read it to you, and flashed it to you. Although the behavior was ridiculous, it was full of love! These treasures are still preserved in the house.
When I was a little older, I once took you out to play and accidentally ran to the Gymboree Early Education Center near us. I just realized, oh, there is such an institution. I remember that the cost of a course package is 9600 yuan. When I came back to discuss with my family, no one supported me and said it was all a deceptive trick. How can it be so expensive? But I persevered and insisted on enrolling you. At that time, I didn't think early education was the best education for you. I don't want to regret it and make your childhood missing. Then I resisted the heavy pressure and insisted on giving you early education.
Here, I know many excellent early education teachers and consultants. If you are confused, you can ask them. Our consultant was seven years old at that time. Here, I also met Linlin's mother. At that time, we exchanged the most and benefited a lot. She is a considerate aunt. Following her, I learned a lot of excellent picture books, or borrowed or bought them for you. Following their family, we traveled to many places in the county. That was your happiest childhood.
When you were in kindergarten, you were lucky enough to enter the second kindergarten, which is close to where I work. Although I didn't have time to see you off, it must be me who will pick you up. I participated in almost all activities in kindergarten with you. I don't want to miss every step of your growth. Although I was working at that time, the focus of my life has always been you.
In the second grade of primary school, it was hard for you to have a sister, because you were separated from your bed and cared less, but you didn't know how to express it. Then once you repeatedly asked me, "Do you love your sister more or you more?" I remember my reply at that time was, "Of course, I love you more, because I have loved you for seven years. Your sister was just born and her sister is just young now. However, as my sister grows up day by day, it also brings a lot of fun to our life, and you have more patience and love to treat your sister.
In the third grade of primary school, you moved to a new school with your mother's work. At first, you were very uncomfortable. You miss your old teachers and classmates, but the school has carried out many rich courses and activities. The big platform of the school, the teacher gives you many opportunities, so that you can continue to grow through the experience. Being a hostess for the first time and going to a nursing home on the Double Ninth Festival were recommended by Teacher Lu. At that time, I thought, can I? Later, I heard that it was not bad, and this is also the beginning of your emergence. You shouted slogans for the first time in the later road team competition, and the opportunity was given to you by teacher Qian Qian; You spoke at the morning meeting for the first time; You hosted the art festival for the first time; The first time you read it was in class; You participated in the robot competition for the first time; This is your first time to participate in a football match, and so on. You are really lucky. Many teachers, aunts and uncles in the school have given you opportunities to show and exercise yourself. We really have to be grateful for this. It is their care, cultivation and care that make you meet a better self and increase your confidence through experience.
In the fifth grade of primary school, we have a dual identity. I am both a teacher and a mother. At that time, I tried to adjust my mentality, accept your shortcomings and deficiencies, and tried to see your growth with a developmental eye. You are not arrogant and unreasonable because of your special status, as always, you are low-key and humble. I was basically not at home because of something before this year, but I got along well with you after this year, and I vaguely felt that my son was like a different person. For example, when I put on new clothes and asked your dad what he looked like, your dad only had one word "beautiful" and the next word was "Miri, Malaysia, Malaysia is very beautiful". When I ask you, you will seriously say, "Well, this dress shows your temperament. It looks elegant and tall from a distance." I was elated and couldn't help laughing and thinking: What? For example, before the start of the winter vacation, I urged you to make progress in your homework, as if to say, "You can't finish your homework, and you don't even have a chance to grab a red envelope." Be tough. You said something you didn't like to hear before. What you did was to walk into your room silently and lock the door with a bang. Now you will turn around and say to me with a smile, "Mom, why do you feel so rude?" Listen to your tone. Before school starts, do you ask me if I'm still running for monitor? I told you I wouldn't run. I only run once a year. I asked, "What do you think? Do you want to participate or not? " You smiled and replied, "Come on, why don't you? I need to exercise myself and find something to do. " I will take you seriously and be happy for your change. When you were in the third grade, your teacher didn't want to go on stage. I still remember once in the sixth grade class, you raised your hand and said "Little Teacher". Under my step-by-step questioning, you seem to think that your speech is not good enough. After sitting in your seat, I saw you secretly wiping your tears, and I didn't have time to talk to you. But soon you adjusted your state. Another question, you raised your hand enthusiastically again, and you answered it well. I asked my classmates to applaud you. At that moment, it was really a change for you On the way to growth, you should reject blx and learn to make your heart stronger.
Looking back now, there is no doubt that love was true love in the process of raising you, but my mother did many wrong things, and sometimes she didn't even know what she had done wrong. At that time, I felt that everything I did was the best way for you to grow up. Now that I think about it, it used to be silly sometimes, and it also brought you a lot of negative effects.
For example, when I was a child, I first took a bite of the cake and then gave it to you. You lost your temper and cried, and you couldn't even coax it. In order to cure your willfulness and not sharing with others, I locked you in a dark room. I don't know where I learned this "vicious method". In short, I did it, and later I learned that this is a "perfect sensitive period" for a child. When I was a child, my grandmother wanted to cut your hair because of the haircut, but I refused, so there was an argument and many other parenting problems. I didn't know why at that time, but I had a kind of confidence. I want to do everything well. No one can stop me and no one can change my mind. I still remember when I was a child in Dushan, you saw a small musical instrument mold and wanted it very much, and you couldn't stop crying. I definitely didn't buy it. The girlfriend of my colleague said it was not any other messy toy, so I bought it if it was not expensive. I don't think we can get used to buying such toys at home. I cleaned you up in the office because I didn't practice my handwriting well in the first grade. I remember that I dropped all my exercise books, and no one could stop me. In the fourth grade, I finished four arithmetic units and got more than 70 points. I crumpled your paper in the office and dropped it on the floor. I hit you, too, but don't you cry. Although I am unhappy to see you sobbing while walking, I still feel that I did the right thing. Later, another thing happened. I have no choice but to trust you. I chose to trust others, wronged you with others, and forced you to admit your mistake. That should be your most wronged time. Later, I learned that you really didn't do anything wrong. At that moment, I realized that I was wrong. I told myself that my mother must trust you and stand with you to overcome the problem in the future. When the epidemic broke out in the fifth grade, there was a great contradiction between us, probably because of problems in class and homework. I also had "cold violence" against you and threatened to "never mind you again". Later, your emotions broke out, and I realized that when you grew up, you had your own thoughts and independent consciousness, both physically and psychologically.
Fortunately, dear son, with my continuous learning, self-growth and perfection, I am slowly changing both in thought and action. The high pressure brought by high expectations in the past led you to dare not try anything, be afraid of failure and not accept failure; In the past, excessive management caused you to lack your own ideas and your personality was not stretched enough ... After I realized the problem, I learned to let go and respect, and I understood that every individual in life is independent and complete. Now, mom, the focus of life is still on you and your sister, but I prefer to lead by example, give you the power of example and convey a concept of life to you in the state of hard work and serious life; Your father and I prefer to stand behind you and watch you silently in the future, so that you can grow up freely. When you need me, I will give you advice, help and support. ...
Dear son, I accidentally remembered so many things. I hope you will be sincere and kind as always, be firm in your heart, keep your enthusiasm for life, keep working hard and keep your mind independent. Mom and dad will always be your strong backing!
Happy birthday, son! Healthy growth!