However, there is such a successful case: six children of rural doctors in Zhejiang: five doctors, 1 master. Their father Cai made a great contribution to the success of their children, so he was called "Doctor Dad" by Lu Yu, and his family was rated as "the most beautiful family in China".
Every child is born with a blank sheet of paper. Parental education is very important for children's growth. In order to educate children well, Cai Xiaoxiao took pains and worked hard all his life. Fortunately, all six children have learned something, so what is his "secret recipe for parenting"?
Cai's concept of parenting is actually very simple, with only 24 short words: early education, determination from childhood, cultivating self-study, learning to be a man first, happy education, love and communication. Everyone understands the truth. The key depends on whether parents can do it and how long they can persist.
Regarding "early education", Cai Xiaoxiao did this late. For example, when the eldest son was a baby, he touched his son's chin and said "1", and then clicked twice to say "2". In this way, an 8-month-old son can recognize numbers from 1 to 5 1, and he can recognize numbers within 10.
He moved many times for his children to go to school early. Why did you move? Because at that time, children were required to go to school at the age of 8, and children under the age of 8 could not go to school in cities, but in remote areas, it was not so strict, and children could go to school in the morning.
Facts have proved that Cai Xiaoxiao's approach is correct: the eldest son 15 years old went to college, the second son 14 years old was admitted to the juvenile class of China University of Science and Technology, and the youngest daughter got a doctorate from Harvard University at the age of 22. Early education is simple to say, but few parents can persist for a long time.
With regard to "determination from childhood", ambition here refers not only to "ambition", but also to unshakable "ambition". Cai Xiaoxiao often mentions a folk song taught by her grandmother: Thirty-three days later, there are immortals in the white clouds. Immortals are made by mortals, but their hearts are not strong.
Cai Xiaoyao also instilled this unshakable "ambition" into his six children. Under the influence of his father, his six children have a clear "ambition" since childhood, and they are very "ambitious", which is why they are all outstanding.
Regarding "cultivating self-study", Cai Xiaoxiao said in the evening: I don't teach them lesson by lesson, but tell them what is important, what should be learned first and what is secondary. I can learn it later. Moreover, his family has a good learning atmosphere: parents set an example, and a family of eight people huddle in a flat house of 16 every night to study together.
As for "learn to be a man first", no matter what one does, it is difficult to convince the public. Therefore, Cai Xiaoxiao often teaches his children to be a person with lofty aspirations, high morality, firm will and self-improvement, and always set an example.
Regarding "happy education", it is very boring and anti-human to blindly "study hard". Human nature, everyone likes to be lazy, relax and enjoy. then what Cai Xiaoxiao's approach is: let the children "have fun in hardships" through rewards, tourism, music and cultural and sports activities.
Regarding "love and communication", it is not easy to do this. As parents, it is often easier to "sell old" to suppress children. Cai Xiaoxiao, on the other hand, never "orders" children, keeps communication with them on the principle of "love" and guides them to make correct decisions.
Cai, the eldest son, graduated from Cornell University. At the age of 36, he became the youngest tenured professor at the University of Pennsylvania. The second son, Cai Tianwu, received a doctorate from the University of Rochester at the age of 25 and later became the vice president of Goldman Sachs.
The third son, Cai Tiansi, received his Ph.D. from St. John's University in the United States at the age of 24, and now runs a company in China. The fourth son, Cai Tianrun, was admitted to West China University of Medical Sciences at the age of 65,438+06, and later went to Arkansas State University to study PhD. Now he runs a private hospital in Shanghai.
The fifth son, Cai Tianjun, has the lowest education among Cai's children: China holds a master's degree in science and technology, and now works in China Construction Bank. The youngest daughter, Cai Tianxi, received a doctorate from Harvard University at the age of 22, became the youngest professor at Harvard University at the age of 28, and is now a tenured professor at Harvard University.
Cai is undoubtedly successful in educating children, but he is still criticized by many people. Some people say: I have worked hard all my life for the United States, but the most important patriotic education is missing. Some said: Even if 10 doctors were born, it would be useless, and none of them contributed to the motherland.
Someone once said: Science knows no borders, but scientists have nationality. Personally, whether you are a bully or a scum; Regardless of success or failure, as descendants of the Chinese people, we must first be patriotic. Because there is a country, there is a home; If you have a home, you and me!