Letter to twelve-year-old daughter Fan
Dear daughter:
Today is your 12 birthday. What is the ancient name of woman 12? Chai Jin year? When the 12-year-old girl reaches the age of bun, hairpin and powder, my lovely daughter will bid farewell to her innocent childhood from today and gradually grow into a gentle and graceful girl. So, this birthday means a lot to you. Happy birthday to you, mom!
Dear daughter, this is the first time to write to you since you were born. We have always been mother and daughter and best friends, talking about everything, but this is the first time for such serious communication. Here, I would like to share with you all kinds of surprises and feelings that I have been with you for 12 years, list my mother's experiences and gains in life for your reference, and reflect on the regrets and mistakes in the process of raising you, so that we can be perfect together in the future. Love and talk are between the lines. Take this letter as a birthday present on your birthday.
Dear daughter, 12 years ago at noon, 1: 05, my mother gave birth to you successfully. Since then, my mother's life has become full and heavy. The year before you came, my mother was in the most difficult stage of her life. In just two months, she lost two beloved relatives-your four-day-old brother and your grandfather. For the first time in my life, my mother felt the taste of life and death. The sudden blow almost broke me down. At this time, you came unexpectedly. Like a gift from heaven, it comforts me, saves me and makes me brave because of this little life. Although the doctor warned against taking children at that time, I still insisted on keeping you.
I still remember you when you were born, with a round face and petals-like fresh lips, as if you had fallen into the mortal world. You who love to laugh, when you are teased, squint your eyes, cock your crescent mouth and smile sweetly. Looking at your smiling face, my mother's frozen melancholy clouds suddenly collapsed. When breastfeeding you, you always look up at me when I'm not looking. As soon as I meet my eyes and smile shyly, I will start breastfeeding again. It's so cute. My daughter, what's going on in your little head? Do you have a lot to say to your mother?
You have been a lively child since you were a child. As long as you wake up, you will keep waving your hands and feet, singing songs, and your laughter will be crisp and full of appeal. After walking, I have been running around with my feet lit. You are talkative and have many questions. Your little brain seems to have a hundred thousand whys, and your mother who often asks doesn't know how to answer them. You are naughty, active, lively, enthusiastic, individual, lively, super stubborn, extremely curious, and more naughty than boys, which makes you tired, tired and stiff at the end of the day. Others say that mom spends enough energy on you to raise two or three children.
Daughter, do you know? No matter how naughty you are, no matter how hard and tired you are, mom is not afraid. Mom is worried that you will get sick. Every time I catch a cold and have a fever, I always stay up all night in fear. It's often that you get over a cold, but I'm in cure a disease. Once, you had a high fever of 39.8 degrees in the middle of the night, and your mother was frightened. She picked you up and ran to the hospital. She couldn't get a taxi in the middle of the night and ran all the way to the hospital behind your back. Strangely, I usually feel tired carrying a bag of 10 kg of rice, but I don't feel tired running all the way with 30 kg on my back.
Although the process of raising you is very hard, you always have unexpected surprises, and you make your mother feel happy. Every time I am tired from work, I always rub my shoulders and beat my back for my mother. Every time you cry, you are always sensible to wipe away your tears for your mother; No matter what is delicious, you always insist that your mother taste it before eating it; I always tell my mother as soon as I get good grades, which makes me very happy. I often find your elaborate cards on pillows, dressing tables, bathroom mirrors and other unexpected places, which write your best wishes to your mother. I remember once being wronged outside and crying silently. You made a card and secretly posted it on the bathroom mirror. It is painted with beautiful cartoon patterns and lace, which reads? Mom, it's not worth feeling sorry for those irrelevant people and things. They don't appreciate you, I appreciate you, and you will always be the most perfect mother in my heart! I love you! I wish you happiness every day. ? Seeing this, I can't help but burst into tears.
Although you were not born in a rich family, your mother tried her best to give you a healthy life, a good education, meticulous care, full understanding and support, and tried her best to make you have an upright character, an optimistic attitude, a broad horizon and extensive knowledge. Materially, mom can't let you enjoy princess-like luxury, spiritually, mom is confident that she can give you rich wealth.
My mother bought you a lot of books and early education tapes. She held you in her arms and told you stories and talked to you again and again. Others say that you are too young to understand, but your mother knows that you can understand, because you are always very good when telling stories, and look at your mother with your eyes wide open. When I was older, I asked you to sit on the bed and play with toys while listening to tapes. The wonderful stories on the tape always attract you. You often forget your toys. Now your mother clearly remembers how quiet you are. You said it earlier. I can speak a lot in 8 months, and I can already speak coherent vocabulary when I am 1 years old. I have been able to communicate with people very freely since I was two years old.
Although you often complain about letting you wear Mao Mao's sister's old clothes and shoes, your mother is never stingy with your education. In order to cultivate your reading and writing ability, I buy you books every month. You can't put down the bookcase with too many books. Your writing ability has also been recognized by the teacher, and you have won many awards in the composition competition. In order to let you learn English well, since you were 5 years old, your mother has enrolled you in English classes, bought you a learning machine, and took you to Beijing to participate in the oral English contest. In order to treat your amblyopia, I take you to the provincial capital again and again, find the best eye hospital, and spend a lot of money on the number of eye experts, the best instruments and the best glasses. In order to broaden my horizons, my mother will take you out for a walk every year as long as I have the opportunity and time. Now you have traveled all over China and even Hongkong, and you have been to more places than many adults in our small town. Mom usually takes you to parties, banquets and appropriate occasions, so that you can greet guests and make a toast. I hope you can be generous and decent in public.
When you were four and a half years old, your mother decided to let you learn the piano (now it seems that this decision is too hasty), bought you a piano, invited the best teacher, and studied with you for five years, rain or shine. Maybe it's too much pressure. You're tired of playing the piano. In order to play the piano, we had a fierce argument, and the relationship between mother and daughter was once tense. Not only you but also I am very tired. I have asked myself more than once, what is the purpose of letting you learn the piano? Is it to realize my dream or your ideal? Is it to satisfy my vanity or your hobby? Don't you learn piano to make yourself happy? Why do you have to study when you are so unhappy? Finally, after a long talk with you, I decided to give up learning the piano. You choose a hobby you like to learn. You chose painting, and I didn't give you any pressure. No matter how you learn, as long as you are happy. Unexpectedly, you won the third prize in the National Children's Painting and Calligraphy Competition after only studying for half a year.
When you were growing up, I often reflected. If I can do better, you must be better than now; If I could be more patient, your temper would not be so impatient as it is now; If I were strict with you, you wouldn't be so lazy as you are now; If I hadn't forgotten myself, you wouldn't be so careless now; If I'm not so busy at work, I'll spend more time with you ... fortunately, it's not too late, at least before you 18, there are still six years to make up and improve.
Daughter, in the 12 years of raising you, you have been helped by many people. You should be grateful. The first person to thank is Grandpa Ma and Grandma Ma's family. They accepted you when your mother was in the most difficult time, took good care of you and loved you like a grandson. In two and a half years, they gave you love that your grandparents didn't give you, surrounded you with warm care, and left no regrets in your life. You should also thank your midwife, Grandma Xu, who brought you into this world. Without grandma Xu, you can't come to this world safely and smoothly. The other people you should thank are: Mr. Chen from the second kindergarten and Mr. Zhang from Beijie Primary School. They are all rare good teachers and have given you great help in your growth.
Come to think of it, my daughter, you are lucky. Although your life is not perfect, you have met so many excellent people. Your relatives, your teachers, your classmates and friends, and people around you care about you. You have so much, what can you complain about? Let go of the shadows in your heart and face the regrets in your life optimistically. I believe that your future life will be very broad.
After this birthday, daughter, you will have the primary school graduation exam. Six years of primary school life will soon be over. In six years, you have grown up, from a child holding her mother's hand across the street to a Tingting girl as tall as her mother. You are about to enter middle school and start your new life. Here, my mother has some suggestions and expectations for your reference.
I. Temperance, self-denial and self-discipline
After entering middle school, I will broaden my horizons, meet more people and get in touch with more things, including some new and exciting things, full of temptation. How to grasp yourself is the first thing you have to learn. Some things are beneficial to some extent, but indulgence is harmful. For example, surfing the Internet, watching TV and playing games. You need restraint, you can't indulge in it, delay your study and affect your normal life. We must get rid of bad habits such as laziness, idleness and procrastination. Learn self-discipline, introspection, control your words and deeds, and always remind yourself of what to do and what not to do. Although it's a little difficult at first, once you form a habit, you will find that you will benefit a lot.
Second, confidence, optimism and tolerance.
After entering middle school, you will come into contact with many excellent classmates. They may be better than you in some ways. You don't have to feel inferior. Believe in yourself, you have your strengths, you are unique. You can envy others, but you can't be jealous. Jealousy is a sign of weakness. Instead of being jealous, it is better to praise sincerely and catch up. Don't be afraid of difficulties and setbacks. No matter how hard it is, smile. If you fall, get up again. Keep an optimistic attitude. Don't worry, mom will support you and cheer for you at any time. Tolerance of unfairness and misunderstanding. Tolerance is not cowardice, but tolerance. What a transcendent state it is to give a kind smile to an unfriendly person. Is there one in your name? Forgive? Word, word sea explanation? Forgive? Meaning: 1 Forgive, be tolerant. 2. Think about other people's hearts with your own heart. ? Forgive? The core of Confucius' Confucianism is that Confucius said: forgive! Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you? . Mom named you this name because she wants you to have the virtues of tolerance, generosity and understanding.
Third, observe, think and feel.
God gave you keen eyes to observe carefully, a clever brain to think independently, and a sensitive heart to feel with your heart. Things have happened, think more, think more. Don't be impulsive blindly. Mom doesn't want a bookworm who can only learn, and she doesn't want a fool who can only follow blindly. Mom wants you to be a thoughtful person with personality, rational thinking.
Fourth, be honest, trustworthy and responsible.
Be an honest and trustworthy person, sincere, aboveboard, not lying, not cheating, keeping your promise and keeping your word. You are a kind, honest and frank child, don't be deliberate? Smart? I believe that sincerity and kindness will win true friendship and more opportunities. Stupid? One point is actually an advantage. Be responsible for your words and deeds, dare to take responsibility when you do something wrong, don't make excuses, and don't pass the buck. Only in this way can we win real respect.
Five, self-love, reserve, indifference
Girls should know how to care for themselves, be kind to themselves, care for their bodies, cultivate good self-cultivation, enrich their knowledge and make themselves a beautiful, elegant and tasteful person. Reservation is a valuable virtue for girls. You may not fully understand the meaning of reserve. Being reserved is not putting on airs and pretending to be lofty, but a solemn, confident, cautious and unobtrusive work style. In daily life, you should be healthy, dress appropriately, behave gracefully, talk politely and have rich connotations, and be solemn, confident, modest and generous in any occasion. Your nickname is Ningning, from Zhuge Liang's Book of Commandments? Not cold, not awake, not quiet, not far away. ? Mom wants you to lead an honest and clean life, not to be vain, not to take advantage of small things, and not to lose big points for small profits. Calm and peaceful, ambitious.
The above five qualities are what your mother wants you to have. No matter how the society develops, having these good qualities will be of great help to your life. In addition, after you get to middle school, you should also deal with the following relationships.
First, the relationship between learning, scores and college entrance examination
Learning is a kind of ability, and the good learning methods and learning ability cultivated in your student days will be inexhaustible wealth in your life and will benefit a lot in the future. Learning is not only in class and books, but also in life, society and nature. The world is big, and there is no end to learning.
Scores are a test of your classroom study at a certain stage and a means to urge you to study. Learning is not for grades, but for acquiring more knowledge, so that you can go further and fly higher in the future. A high score does not mean good study, let alone strong ability. But under the current education system, scores are still very important. After all, both the senior high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination depend on scores. Although my mother is not a score-only person, I still hope that you can take every exam seriously and seize every opportunity without leaving any regrets for yourself.
The college entrance examination is the most important exam in your student career. You should prepare for the college entrance examination from the first day you enter middle school. The college entrance examination score is the threshold for you to enter the university. A good university naturally has a high threshold and requires you to make more efforts. You may ask, can't you achieve your goals in life without going to college? Sure, but it will take a lot of detours, pay more hardships and waste a lot of time. University is undoubtedly the best and most convenient platform for you to achieve your life goals. Be sure to go to a first-class good university. A good university concentrates superior resources, excellent teachers and talents and has a strong academic atmosphere. Being close to Zhu Zhechi and in a good environment, you will be better and more conducive to your future development.
Second, the relationship between friendship, affection and admiration.
A friend is someone who can share your happiness and troubles with you, help you when you are in trouble, give you confidence when you are lost, and remind you when you make mistakes. It is important to be true and frank in making friends, and to exchange sincerity for sincerity, but before giving sincerity, we must see clearly what kind of person the other person is. When you give your heart to the other person, can the other person have the sincere character and virtue that you pay? The best friend is the one who can lend you a helping hand in an emergency, and the one who supports you selflessly in your life. Making friends depends on the same interests, and like-minded friends can stay together for a long time.
These six years in middle school are a period of growth and development, and a period of budding youth. It is normal to have a crush on the opposite sex, and it is understandable to have a crush on the right opposite sex. But you must take care of yourself. In middle school, the study task is heavy and there is no room for distraction. Besides, you are not mature enough to really understand what love is. It is better to talk about a fair and vigorous love in a wider space after being admitted to college. For a long time, you and your mother were very close friends and could talk about everything. If you have any thoughts and troubles, you can tell your mother. Mom has been through it after all. She can share your worries and show you the way.
Third, the relationship between dreams, goals and efforts
12 years old is an age where you can dream as much as you like. You should dare to dream. You are not afraid to dream too high, but you may not have a dream. When a person has a dream, he will find the goal of life. In order to realize his dream, he will have the motivation to persevere and make unremitting efforts. Give yourself a dream, give yourself a goal in life, break this goal down into countless small goals, and get closer to the goal every day. One month later is a small step, and 1 year later is a big step for 1. Six years later, you will find that you have come so far. Even if the dream is not realized in the end, it is very close to the dream, and the process of fighting for the dream is very beautiful.
You once asked your mother if I prefer clever, quiet and top-notch children, and if you are not good enough to disappoint me. My favorite daughter, the most correct thing my mother did in this life was to give birth to you. You are my eternal pride. You did very well, very well. Mom is not half your age. It is foreseeable that your future achievements will definitely surpass your mother's. Thank you, daughter. It is you who make mom mature and strong, understand the selflessness and tolerance of love, and make her honest and pure, and keep a young heart forever. Whenever I encounter setbacks and failures, it is your innocent smiling face that strengthens my progress. Whenever I am sad, it is your beautiful blessing that melts my sadness. When you are impetuous, as long as you see your black and white eyes, you feel practical and stable. When wandering, I think of you-my lovely daughter will see the direction of life clearly. Sometimes I really don't know whether I am raising you or you are pulling me. Without you, my life would be completely different now.
Daughter, in the past 12 years, my mother hugged you, carried you behind her back and held you together. Now that you have grown up, I am no longer young. Although your legs are strong, your mind is not mature enough. In the next six years, my mother will accompany you, encourage you, guide you, cheer for you when you succeed, and help you when you fall. When you have the ability to fly away from your mother one day, her mother will bless you with tears. Then, my daughter, you will really grow up.
Love your mother.
In 20 12 years
Letter to twelve-year-old daughter Fan
Chang 'e:
Mother's baby Chang 'e, you will be twelve years old tomorrow. Twelve years old, as old as a flower, as beautiful as a flower; Twelve years old is the first step in your life; At the age of twelve, you will face a more dazzling, colorful and confusing world.
Today, my father gave you a globe to express his birthday wishes. There is also a deep meaning that I hope you will take every step down-to-earth and not be stopped by people and things in front of you. The size of the earth is unparalleled. There are more beautiful scenery in the world waiting for you to enjoy. Don't stop running. Only in this way can you appreciate the infinite scenery of life.
Chang 'e, you are a flower in the hands of mom and dad. It is the pearl in the hands of mom and dad; It is the softest place in mom and dad's heart. ? Mom and dad love you more than their eyes? I hope my son will always remember this sentence. Even if the world makes you feel cold one day, remember to cherish and love yourself.
Mom and Dad are the most common men and women in the world. Maybe compared with the parents of many partners around you, we are too ordinary. But my mother has always wanted to convey to you a positive, healthy and happy attitude towards life; To convey to you the truth of being strict with yourself and being lenient with others, my mother has been trying to be your role model in life. Often, mentality is always more important than material things. No matter how busy life is, we should learn to calm down, precipitate ourselves and be a calm and warm carnation.
Chang 'e, you change in daily growing. Mom and dad are not only happy, but also worried that your eyes will be attracted by other things. Chang 'e, remember that your goal in life is high in the mountain. Don't be attracted by the scenery along the way. Only by running without attachments can we reach a better realm of life.
Chang 'e, mother's favorite Chang 'e, finally congratulations on your growth again. May my beloved baby spend every day happily!
Mom loves you forever!
mother
Written on the eve of Chang 'e's birthday
Letter to twelve-year-old daughter Fan Wensan
Dear baby:
When you read this letter, you are already a girl of 12 years old, and you should be in junior high school at this age. This is also a brand-new turning point for you. You have entered a new school, made more friends, and at the same time have some little secrets that you don't want to tell others, haha, but anyway, mom hopes you can be happy and healthy.
During this period, you may encounter some happy and sad things, but my mother hopes you can share them with me. Every time you come back from kindergarten like a child, you always chirp that the children in your school are disobedient and have learned new songs and dances today. Can you be the same as before?
Baby, since the birth of your life, you have been touching your parents' hearts. Everything you say and do is smiling. Time flies from babbling to calling parents, from crawling to running, to learning to dance. In a blink of an eye, you have become a junior high school student. There are really too many regrets. My mother only hopes that you can treat me not only as a mother and daughter, but also as a mother and daughter
With the increase of your knowledge and study pressure, my mother hopes you can overcome all this, face it with a relaxed mood, study, don't be afraid, shrink back, and be sure to show confidence. My mother believes you. Come on.
Finally, my mother only tells you that you still have a long way to go. You will go to high school, college, society and people from all walks of life, but no matter how high you fly, you should know that your parents will always support you and will always be your harbor.
Love your mother forever.