Every parent has a responsibility from beginning to end, and that is to protect the health and safety of their children. But to protect children's health, it is not that the cleaner you eat, the better, and the more nutritious you are. Protecting children's safety does not mean restricting their freedom of movement. Don't move here or do it there. Parents should treat children's health and safety dialectically.
In terms of health, don't wear too many clothes to keep your child warm, just be appropriate. Occasionally catching cold is conducive to the improvement of your child's resistance and adaptability. Don't eat too carefully, too clean and too nutritious. Eat more miscellaneous grains according to the law of age development, and don't disinfect here and there for fear that your child will get sick. In fact, proper contact with some microorganisms is conducive to the improvement of immunity. In terms of safety, children should be encouraged to fully explore the world, and at the same time, children's unsafe factors should be predictably prevented. When the child wants to touch the trash can, buy him a new clean one and put some clean paper in it for him to turn over; When moving mops, you should also buy smaller and cleaner ones, which should be children's toys; Encourage him to move chairs and bowls by himself, follow him, and be prepared to protect him as soon as possible when there is danger.
No matter how old the child is, what parents should do is: the first step is to remind the child that you may have such a dangerous situation; The second step of prevention is to follow the child closely, pay attention to his practice process, and if there is danger, prevent it from happening.
2, pay attention to cultivate children's methods and habits, improve the relevant adaptability and problem-solving ability.
Parents should not only tell their children what this is, but also tell them why and what to do. Many of our parents only pay attention to letting their children study, learning this and that. In fact, knowledge tells them "what it is". For example, they only know how to read the word and what it stands for. As for why this happens, parents don't pay much attention to it. How to cultivate children's interest in reading, tell them how to read, and let them know the words themselves are often overlooked by parents. The latter is the cultivation of methods and habits, which is more important than knowledge education. As the saying goes, "it is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish."
The cultivation of methods and habits is the core of the whole parenting process, aiming at cultivating children's ability to adapt to the environment and solve problems. To cultivate children's adaptability and problem-solving ability is actually to let children get in touch with various environments as soon as possible, understand and think about various problems, and solve problems with words and hands.
(1) According to the law of children's development, the earlier the education, the better. In other words, parents should attach importance to early education, develop their children's intelligence and cultivate their methods and habits. Many parents lack understanding of the importance of children's family education and think that education begins after primary school, which is a backward concept.
(2) comprehensive training, not one-sided training. Most parents pay attention to knowledge and skills in their children's education (only pay attention to their physical health and intellectual development), and only tell their children "what it is", not "why" and "how to do it", ignoring their needs for methods, psychological needs, good character, morality and behavior habits, which is a one-sided view of quality education.
(3) You can't rely on yourself, you must let your children feel their feelings. Many parents spoil their children too much, protect them too much, do everything instead of everything, and so on. They are all "little emperors" and "little princesses" without labor skills.
3. Analysis of several new parenting methods.
(1) Improve IQ with classical music. There is no doubt that music can enrich a baby's life. But can listening to classical music improve IQ? In fact, this conclusion comes from an American experiment in 1993. In the comparative test of listening and not listening to Mozart sonatas, the scores of the listening group are higher than those of the non-listening group, and they are widely spread. As a result, classical music specially played for babies and even fetuses has also been published. Let mothers believe that those elegant music can improve their children's intelligence.
A study shows that letting children aged 4-6 learn some musical instruments can really improve their memory and attention. This is an important part of children's IQ. When children are old enough, it is best to encourage them to learn a musical instrument.
(2) Sign language is beneficial for children to speak early. Sign language helps babies express their needs earlier. But experts believe that when parents use sign language to their babies, they are also expressing it directly with their mouths. In other words, parents and children actually have two ways to communicate. In this way, sign language only plays a positive auxiliary role in the baby's language expression. What's more, there is no scientific evidence to show that speaking, walking and literacy earlier is of great significance to the baby's longevity. Therefore, sign language should not be regarded as a utilitarian means of parenting, but as a random form of parent-child communication with babies, which should be carried out on the premise of time and energy. This is more conducive to parents and babies to communicate in a relaxed and happy state.
(3) Don't use a walker to help your baby walk. A study has confirmed that every 24 hours a baby uses a walker will delay him from standing alone for 3.3 days. Moreover, the walker has a bigger problem, that is, the child is easy to bump or fall down the stairs when moving. According to the data, during the prevalence of pedestrians, 2.5 Wan Baobao people suffered accidental injuries every year in the United States. Because the walker can easily become a safety hazard for children, it is best not to use it, so that the baby can learn to stand and walk with his feet and legs from the beginning.
(4) Early entry into kindergarten is not conducive to growth. Although some studies have confirmed that children who enter kindergarten earlier will have more behavioral problems than those who stay at home. However, there is no significant difference between the two parenting styles. Especially in recent years, research shows that when children leave home more often, their self-care, self-control, independent problem-solving and social skills have been improved to varying degrees. In fact, each family's environment is different, each child's personality is different, and children's growth is different, so it is difficult to quantify the impact of different environments on children with the same standard. Facts have proved that children who grow up in any environment will be happy as long as they get enough attention and encouragement. Therefore, you don't have to worry too much about whether your child enters kindergarten too early, but which way is more suitable for your family and the best way for your child.
(5) TV affects the baby's attention. There have been many research projects on the relationship between watching TV and attention, but the conclusions are quite different. A study conducted in the United States on infants who watch a lot of TV programs between the ages of 3 and 4 found that these children have attention problems at the age of 7; However, another study concluded that there was no correlation between them. Nevertheless, other negative effects brought by TV still exist. Because the baby can't accurately distinguish between life on TV and real life, watching TV will take up a lot of time for the baby to improve his physical fitness and social skills. There is no need to absolutely prohibit the baby from watching TV. For example, some cartoons are still inspiring to the growth of children. But the best way is to spend more time and energy with children to do some activities outside TV, such as games and telling stories.
4. Eradicate the two most harmful parenting concepts.
One view is that if the baby is not good, he will fight, and if the child doesn't fight, he will lose his weapon. This is a traditional, universal and harmful concept of parenting in China. For many parents, "beating" is the best punishment for disobedience. This kind of "beating and scolding education" is actually because parents do not attach importance to early education and take tough remedial measures after forming bad habits. However, have you noticed that on the one hand, there are more and more cases of child abuse in society, on the other hand, there are many cases of paternalism and other disobedience caused by domestic violence. Numerous facts have proved that the concept of "filial piety" is inappropriate in modern society. More and more educators and psychologists have suggested that praise should be more important than punishment in the process of raising babies.
The world of babies is very simple. As long as the mother gives more praise and early guidance, this good behavior will continue if she is affirmed, thus getting more praise from adults. Some experts mentioned that children who experienced domestic violence as children are more likely to use domestic violence when they grow up. Because they grew up in the shadow of violence, there may be deviations in the process of personality formation and it is easy to get out of control.
Beating and cursing is not a sharp weapon to educate your baby to be naughty, but to let him meet your requirements through "encouragement". Although encouragement may not make your baby reach 100, you will be pleasantly surprised to find his progress in the long run as you "add fuel to the fire".
Another view is that I can't accompany my baby, and I have to compensate him with the best material life. Many parents want to compensate their babies with the best material life, because they give their babies to others and can't accompany them. In fact, this will lead to the deviation of their baby's values. Parents should take their baby out regularly, such as going to supermarkets and parks, so that he can understand life from an early age and learn what to touch and what not to touch. Even if you clean the toilet at home, you can let your baby watch and let him know that this is the way to clean the toilet. You can't always help your baby get everything ready to make up for it, so it's easy for him to develop a dependent personality.