I'm not sad at all, but happy.

It turns out that kindergarten is not as scary as I thought.

No wonder, I've heard a lot recently, and I've seen many incidents of child abuse in kindergartens, from all angles. I talked about all the angles I knew, but all the angles I didn't know were broken, and all kinds of arguments were combined and presented naked.

I think I have covered a wide range, but I can't doubt the facts presented in those articles. In the end, I can only doubt my good feeling about the world.

Until I had to face the problem of children going to school and had to choose kindergarten, I chose kindergarten with all kinds of fears and panic.

Of course, I have been to more early education centers before, but I can't meet the problem of time and space. Finally, I had to go back to kindergarten.

First of all, I want to tell you my conclusion: seeing may not be believing.

In the end, the kindergarten I chose was the first one to be eliminated, because the shape was too simple, the class was single, and the curriculum was single. It's completely out of the choice.

However, my sister-in-law studied in this school when she was a child (now in junior high school), and she is very old. The teacher and the director are still working together, which makes me feel good. Other schools are either too far away or not old enough.

So today I took my children to an interview. My mother-in-law and the director are still quite familiar, and the conversation is very warm, so I just have a look. Son and daughter are playing outside.

I look at my children, and I am also observing the children in kindergarten.

10: 30, just as they are snack time. Although not all the children are drinking milk, in twos and threes, some are wandering around the teacher, some are staring blankly around the table, and very few children are sitting in chairs with milk cups. The way they drink milk is not very skilled, but the children work hard. Then, the nurse's aunt gently shouted at other children, like herding sheep. It's interesting to pick up the East and miss the West. Finally, all the children were taken to the table and finished their snacks.

Children have all kinds of expressions, but no children cry. Stare blankly, chat, walk around, wash your hands and say hello to me.

I was thinking, have these children been disciplined, have these children been threatened, and have these children volunteered?

There are almost no positive conjectures in my mind.

But I have to admit that the whole picture is very harmonious. I doubt it, too. Maybe when I came, it was just when they were quiet.

Then, I'll check with the director. My mother-in-law joked that my daughter-in-law is a college student and can also come here as a teacher, Barabara. I didn't care then either.

I thought about it when I went back. Being a teacher is a good choice. You have the best of both worlds. You can work, and you can take care of your children. And it's just a teacher's qualification certificate, and the exam is over. I simply checked the relevant procedures online, which is not complicated.

Then I coaxed the children at noon and went to the kindergarten to confirm the feasibility of the matter.

As a result, I found that I really thought things too simple. Let me briefly repeat what the director said: It turns out that I am not the first parent to be a kindergarten teacher, and other young and highly educated parents have mentioned it to the director. The director expressed helplessness.

"Parents' enthusiasm is understandable, but kindergarten teachers are really not that simple. First of all, professional requirements include "teacher qualification certificate" and "employment certificate". Nurses should also have primary, intermediate and advanced certificates. Non-professional counterparts should also be related.

At the moment, I doubt what the director said that this private school, which doesn't look good outside, is so formal.

The director is a clever man and tells the truth.

The "child abuse incident" is not new this year. In recent years, this kind of situation has been happening constantly in our industry. The Education Bureau is also very strict, with various inspections once every three days and various teacher qualification certificates for further study. Don't look at my school We didn't advertise. We passed it on by word of mouth.

We also talked a lot in the middle.

I said, such a small kindergarten is so strict, so why did that happen in such a big city as Beijing and Shanghai?

The director said: don't think that the bigger the place, the louder the reputation, which is good. The appearance that the money can be built in a short time is too easy. It still depends on the teachers in each class.

The director gave me an example.

He said that there are fewer and fewer children in the doll class in recent years. Because of child abuse, parents take their children to early education or bring them by themselves. Moreover, kindergarten teachers change frequently, and there are fewer and fewer good teachers. It's basically not easy to recruit students and teachers, but that's the truth. A doll class 16, also equipped with a senior kindergarten teacher, an intermediate kindergarten teacher and a young art kindergarten teacher. The most realistic situation, 16 children, one child 1 100 a month, the salary is not enough.

So now many kindergartens have cancelled doll classes, because "making ends meet" is the most realistic problem.

After all, I just got in touch. According to what I learned before and what I saw today, the gap is really big.

Have I always felt rich and afraid that I won't find a good school?

Yes, everyone went to make money. It is a transition and a springboard for kindergarten teachers to work with less money and be tired.

People are not stupid, but all yearn for a better life. In the end, of course, the demand is in short supply, and various problems are bound to break out.

The director said that child abuse incidents have always occurred, but at that time there were not so many parents concerned. Everyone cares about making money to make a living. Where do they care so much and observe so carefully? Now that life is good, every child is a treasure. A parent who had a fall and was black and blue all over also looked for a teacher in various ways, and the teachers also suffered a lot.

The two extremes lead to the transformation of kindergarten teachers, and the process of alternating old and new is also a variety of problems. Money can't be willful at this time.

I have two feelings about this matter:

First, I should have taken the class certificate in college, but I didn't. Because I don't think I need it. I don't like it. I'm useless. What about today, The Times? It's useless when it's time to use it. Everyone who comes out to hang out should pay back, and all the lazy people who stole things before should pay back.

Second, in the absence of field experience and contact, don't jump to conclusions or criticize the truth of the incident with absolute public opinion. Seeing may not be true, so through on-the-spot investigation, careful observation and careful feeling, right and wrong will naturally appear.

Look at everything, ask more questions and feel more.

Do children need a comfortable environment to play safely or a competitive environment to win at the starting line? It must be good at home, but bad at school?

No one knows children better than parents. Choose what is best for them, no matter what.

The best way to eliminate anxiety and entanglement is to find a solution, implement it, and there will always be a solution in the end.