In fact, parents have always played the role of judges in children's minds, and babies will measure the right or wrong of a thing according to our appreciation and criticism. Therefore, although appreciation should be promoted, criticism is also necessary. Many parents said that it is difficult to grasp the scale of criticism and praise, and how to appreciate and criticize has always been a difficult problem in their hearts. For the solution to this problem, let's go to professional early education institutions to find out how professional teachers use the ruling rules in their hands.
1. Don't criticize the baby's ability, just criticize the wrong way.
Helen takes her son Bao Xiao to Gymboree's class. The teacher taught the baby to stick the disposable plate on white paper and draw it like the sun. However, Bao Xiao can't do it well. He always sticks white paper on the side without glue, but his hands are sticky with glue. All the other children have finished, but Bao Xiao hasn't even taken the first step. Helen looked anxiously and said, "Why are you so stupid? It won't work. " Bao Xiao also acted very sad, putting the materials aside and unwilling to do it. Teacher Ross immediately ran to stop Helen, held Bao Xiao's hand to feel the difference between glue and no glue, told Bao Xiao that this step was wrong, which led to the failure of things and would lag behind other children, and encouraged Bao Xiao to try again. After his success, Ross praised Bao Xiao.
Rose told Helen, don't question the baby's ability, you just need to help him find out the wrong place, let the baby know that it is wrong and correct it. In this way, if you encounter similar difficulties again, the baby will have the confidence to avoid this mistake. Criticism is feasible, but it is necessary to criticize a baby's behavior, not the whole person's ability and intention, so as to help the baby face the problem directly.
2. Praise and criticism are more useful.
Susan's daughter Sisi has a bad habit. She likes to throw away all used things or toys. Susan said it several times to no avail. On this day, they went to Gymboree, Sisi threw her Gymboree doll on the ground and ran away. Susan was very angry and loudly ordered Sisi to pick up Jinbao and return it to the teacher. Sisi refused, so Susan's voice became louder and louder, but Sisi stood aside more stubbornly. Teacher Winnie next to her hugged Sisi and said, "Sisi, you take good care of Jinbao. Gymboree must be very happy. " Seeing Sisi's reaction, Winnie made another request: "But why did Sisi and Jinbao leave him on the ground after they finished fighting, so that Jinbao caught cold and didn't want to play with Sisi in the future?" Sisi should put Jinbao in the toy box to rest. " At this point, Sisi no longer showed resistance, but obediently picked up the Jinbao doll and put it back in the toy box.
Susan suddenly realized that criticizing babies is also skillful. Yelling at your baby can only reduce your baby's acceptance of criticism and make him feel scared or rebellious. Praise and criticism are more useful for babies.
After reading the critical education of two professional teachers, can you master some tips to criticize your baby? In fact, if criticism and praise can develop at the same time, the baby's psychology will be more balanced. This requires us to constantly practice and improve, according to the baby's personality and environment, with different tone, attitude and way to treat the baby's various behaviors. Only in this way can the baby really understand the right and wrong of things.