1 Current country
With the rise of reinforced concrete cities, a' migrant worker' profession has emerged among the urban workers. In rural areas, there are more children called' left-behind children'.
Since the occupation of "migrant workers" began twenty years ago, migrant workers who participated in urban construction have entered the second generation or even the third generation.
Corresponding to the influx of farmers into cities, it is the decline of rural areas.
Those Tushan roads that were once written by scholars in textbooks and full of local flavor and childhood memories are not what they used to be.
With the departure of the rural population, the land here has dried up, and the fields have become barren. There are no more door-to-door walks between neighbors at dinner, and there are no children who run to the dam to watch the stars at night. Even the once lively cock crow, dog bark and cicada sound lonely and desolate now.
At first glance, the remaining few people, except the rickety old man, are underage children. Occasionally, several motorcycles appeared in the street, and they were also young people who came back from work and were ready to leave.
It should have been full of green, a place where birds are singing and flowers are fragrant, but it has faded to the point where people can't remember its original appearance.
2 the rupture of education
If there is nostalgia for the countryside and some literary feelings, then the survival and education status of rural children is an unavoidable topic, which makes people have to worry.
In the city, as soon as the child is born, parents begin to ask where the early education institutions are better.
If conditions are better, they will send their children to the international early education center to receive the most advanced education with children from all over the world. When they are about four or five years old, they can speak a standard and fluent foreign language.
Ordinary working families also inquired about suitable early education institutions early to train and exercise children's brain development, optic nerve development and muscle development.
Before entering primary school, parents should make a comprehensive investigation of the famous schools in the city early, then make a comprehensive analysis of their children's personality and family situation, then choose three suitable schools, do a good job in the entrance strategy, and then train their children in the entrance examination in a targeted manner;
Parents in cities have been studying and practicing comprehensive quality education. They have begun to pay attention to the influence of family background on their children, to the effective companionship of parents and to cultivate their ability to communicate effectively with their children. They are thinking about how to use the convenient resources of the city to give children a broader vision and room for growth.
With the popularity of psychology in China, more and more parents turn their attention from their children's intelligence and knowledge to their children's mental health.
At the same time, left-behind children began to live independently early.
Not only do they have no parents to accompany them, they have to learn to take care of themselves since childhood, and some even have to take care of the patients and the elderly at home.
When we are discussing how to make effective use of delayed gratification, they may be standing on a small stool and cooking for the whole family.
If the children of poor families take charge of their families early, their experiences may make them grow into a determined and resilient person, but they are separated from their parents too early and take care of their families too early. At the age when they should be cared for and cared for, many of them show personality characteristics such as closed heart, indifferent emotion and withdrawn behavior, and have personality defects and psychological obstacles to varying degrees.
I've been thinking, where is the future of these children?
In addition to mental health, their educational situation is also worrying.
When urban children are worried about which language institution to go to, there are no listening training materials in rural children's English textbooks; Memorizing words and grammar is the main way for them to learn English. Even if rural areas are connected to the internet, the network cost is not low, and computer products may still be a luxury for them.
Even if you can afford it, paying for online courses is not a small expense.
What's more, in the eyes of parents, the internet has never been a learning tool, but the best way to learn badly, so they basically have no chance to receive formal and standardized language training.
When it is difficult for urban children to choose which training institution to attend, rural children may not even use teaching AIDS. Limited textbooks, limited teachers and limited class time limit their study to classrooms and textbooks.
At the age of eleven or twelve, urban children have traveled to more than a dozen countries and regions in the world, experienced the education, culture and urban customs there, and have a clear goal for their future; At most, rural children just go out of small villages and have been to cities where their parents work. Their goal is to become a member of this bustling city, which will never really accept them one day.
I've been thinking, where is the future of these children?
What will be the future of a generation that grew up in such different educational concepts, educational backgrounds and growing environments?
What parents can do is create a small environment.
In our generation, rural children can pass hard and fair exams and sit and drink coffee with urban children in 18;
In our next generation, the educational gap between them is getting bigger and bigger. After 18 years of hard work, these rural children may not even have the opportunity to drink coffee with urban children of the same age.
Education has a big environment. With the rapid development of society, the boundaries of learning are not limited to classrooms or textbooks. Acquiring knowledge has become more diverse and convenient.
Although the difference between urban and rural resources is still very large, this difference can still be gradually narrowed through efforts.
The biggest difference, which cannot be narrowed by efforts, is the educational concept and education given by parents.
Although fathers in many cities don't know how to educate and accompany their children, the greatest advantage of children is to have a mother who knows more and more about education. While educating their children, they also shoulder the responsibility of educating their fathers and play an important role in promoting their participation in children's education.
Therefore, in addition to the advantages of hard educational resources, children in cities have the greatest advantage of having a mother who is willing to learn, accompany, keep learning and grow.
Therefore, today, I don't want to talk about social problems: in the process of social development, there are bound to be such and such problems that our small individual strength can't compete.
For left-behind children in rural areas, it is still a drop in the bucket to rely on social attention and relief agencies to solve problems, which can be concerned but cannot be solved.
So the most fundamental way can only be to save yourself.
Social assistance agencies, please pay more attention to children's mothers and give them more training in educational concepts and methods;
Let more mothers understand the importance of education, understand the importance of participating in children's education, and strive to create opportunities to stay with their children or take them with them.
Through mothers, we let children have access to better educational resources, learn to use modern educational channels, broaden their horizons and feel the wider world outside.
When urban children practice oral English face to face with foreign teachers, rural children can customize online courses and speak English with foreign teachers through the internet;
When urban children travel around the world, rural children can also feel the outside world through the internet and through their eyes, and hear video speeches from various countries;
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Their future, even if there are still differences in resources and vision with urban children, can be minimized through efforts.
After they 18 years, they may not only have coffee with children in the city, but also create the world with them.
Only when there is a companion's childhood and a loving child can there be a healthy and sound personality and a predictable future.
So, rural mothers, for the sake of their children, start learning and educating!
Therefore, rural mothers, for the sake of their children, use all tools and spend every possible way with their children.
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Reality is not only an economic problem, but also a conceptual problem.
Because I have worked in a labor-intensive factory, I know the mentality of some migrant workers:
Those who really have difficulties and have to go out to work to earn money to earn tuition;
Some are building houses at home to make money. Now the countryside is no longer better than whose fields are planted and whose pigs are raised, but whose houses are built higher and bigger. In the eyes of many people, buildings are more important than children;
Also, because there is no farm at home, there may be no way out unless you come out, so you must come out.
Therefore, there are various reasons for being active and passive.
But there is one thing. Most parents really don't pay much attention to their children's education. If they can pay more attention, even if they have no choice but to leave home, they can have appropriate ways to educate and accompany their children instead of staying completely, and some even see their children once a year.
Therefore, attitude is the foundation of everything.
Ps2:cls Children's Loneliness Scale (from the Internet, compiled by Yuan Yu)