First, attach importance to the role of parents as role models and grow up with children.
Tolstoy said: "In a family, only the father can educate himself, and the child's self-education can be produced there. Without this father's pioneering example, all the talk about children's self-education will become empty talk. " Parents honor the elderly, and children can honor you; When you are laid off and choose a job, you are full of self-confidence so that your children can continue to pursue setbacks. The role of example is endless, and the personality strength of parents is the most important educational factor.
Parents are the first teachers of the children. If children want to have good quality, they must be cultivated from an early age. Pay attention to this when children are still in kindergarten. For example, let him take the big fruit to the child and eat the smallest one himself; Take out your favorite toys and play with children. After school, we should educate him to care for and help others, and don't always consider his own interests everywhere. Over time, children will develop good habits.
Great changes have taken place in the growing environment of children in the new century. Children who grow up in the new environment are very different from the previous generation in concept, emotion and behavior, which makes parents have all kinds of confusion when educating their children. The first confusion is that they don't understand the psychological changes of children now. As a result, in the eyes of children, the prestige of parents is getting lower and lower; Under such confused education, children have more and more psychological problems, leaving home is not uncommon, the proportion of illegal crimes has soared, and suicides have occurred one after another.
To solve the above puzzles and problems, firstly, parents should improve their own literacy and update their family education concepts. In short, educators should be educated first, and parents should grow up with their children.
Second, strive to create a "learning family" so that children can enjoy learning.
Now, the whole society is advocating "creating a learning family". The so-called "learning family" means that there is a strong learning atmosphere in the family, and all family members can study consciously, and learning has become an important activity in family life; There are rich learning materials at home, which can be provided for adults and children to learn, and the learning materials can be continuously enriched and updated; There is a fixed study place at home.
We believe that to create a "learning family", we must ensure "three priorities"; Priority should be given to creating a quiet learning environment for children, creating a strong learning atmosphere in the family and increasing investment in education.
First of all, give children a fixed place to study. This place is best to be a study, a living room or a separate bedroom. It is necessary to create necessary learning conditions and create a good learning atmosphere in the learning place.
Second, give children a fixed study time. This is also very important for children to grow into good children who love to learn. In fixed study time, parents should study and communicate with their children.
Third, there must be necessary reading materials and learning materials. This is a learning tool for parents and children. Families should actively create conditions to buy more books, and at the same time, they can also guide their children to buy less toys and more books. You can also buy a computer for your child, so that the child can access information online and broaden his horizons.
Fourth, take the lead in learning, set an example for children, study with children and learn from each other. Only by continuing to study can parents assume the role of "educators" and grow up with their children.
We all know that warm family life and good family learning atmosphere are the steps for children to grow up. In such an environment, children feel comfortable and refreshed, and it is easy to have a pleasant emotional experience and positive learning needs. Children who grow up in this environment often have strong initiative and desire to explore, often can fully understand their self-worth, and their ability to find, explore and solve problems can also be better developed.
Third, respect and trust children and promote their positive development.
We should understand that loving children means respecting and trusting children.
Respect and trust are the first principles of modern education. Respecting and trusting children means caring for their kind and beautiful hearts; It means a noble character of self-restraint and tolerance.
The child's inner world is very rich. To understand children, we can only change our hearts and win trust with trust. It is necessary to protect children's self-esteem and cultivate self-confidence. Through careful observation, heart-to-heart conversation, careful care and patient help, we can understand the troubles and spiritual needs of children's growth. Let children and parents open their hearts face to face and talk to each other. And firmly believe in children's desire for progress and promote their active development.
Fourth, pay attention to the consistency of family education and guide children to grow up harmoniously.
As parents, in order to reach an agreement on the education of children, we must communicate, exchange and support each other. We must never make a scene in front of the children and expose our differences to them. It doesn't matter if there are differences. The key is to face it correctly and reach an agreement to create a good family environment for the healthy growth of children.
Fifth, emphasize the cultivation of non-intellectual factors to stimulate children's potential.
The achievement of people or students mainly depends on two factors: one is the strength of intelligence and learning ability, which is what we call intelligence; The second is whether we have correct motives, strong interests, full emotions, strong perseverance and good personality in practice, which is what we call non-intellectual factors.
We all attach great importance to children's intellectual development, but it is easy to ignore children's non-intellectual factors, especially the cultivation of interest and self-confidence.
When we go home from work to see the children, we should ask the children more: "What did you learn today and what did you find in your study?" Don't always say "How many points did you get in the exam". When children talk about things at school, we must listen patiently. Perhaps what children say is insignificant in the eyes of adults, but in the eyes of children, it is no less than Columbus' discovery of the new continent. Smart parents shape children's creative fun and guide them to listen, thus cultivating children's interest.
From the experiences of many successful people, we can know that geniuses are geniuses, not because of their innate talents, but because their childhood interests and enthusiasm have not been trampled on and they have grown up smoothly.
Children are most afraid of loneliness, boredom and boredom. They have a strong desire to devote themselves to a favorite activity. Every child's favorite activity refers not only to the static things they are interested in or concerned about, but also to the activities that can make the whole body and mind indulge in them.
When children are involved in a favorite activity, they will say, "I like it!" " This sentence shows that they are enthusiastically involved in an activity. When they said this, they were filled with a sense of accomplishment, which showed their joy of "success" and "good work"
Parents should respect their children's wishes, provide them with a world and place to explore freely, and give them enthusiastic encouragement. Because interest and self-confidence are the driving force for progress.