I recommend a good book to you tonight-The Secret of Making Children Become Talents. Do you find this book attractive just by looking at its name? Nowadays, it is increasingly the wish of every parent to train every child into a successful person.

First, the author's brief introduction.

Now let me introduce the author of this book, the silent master. He is from Mianzhu, Sichuan. Graduated from university at the age of 22, contacted Buddhism and traditional culture at the age of 27, and became a monk at the age of 33. In the past twenty years, he has traveled all over the country, preaching the traditional culture of China and holding hundreds of lectures and trainings every year. He is humorous, talented and gifted. He has written several monographs and is deeply loved by the public.

Although the Silent Master is a monk, he has a great influence on parenting education. In today's era, countless parents, teachers and children have a lot of puzzles, needs and desires in education, and these puzzles cannot be completely solved by today's methods. However, Master Silent applied the great wisdom of Buddhism and his unique educational ideas and methods to practical education, and received magical results, helping many parents, teachers and children get out of the confusion of life.

From 20 12, Master Silent will hold summer camp, winter camp and other spiritual experience activities every year. Many people come from all directions with all kinds of confusion and troubles, many of them are parents and children. Some children have achieved unprecedented good results according to the guidance of their masters. Some children who attend winter camps or summer camps have undergone magical changes in just a few days.

Master Silent lamented in the book that education is not only about individuals, but also about the hopes of the whole country and nation. World peace and the hope of mankind lie in the wisdom education of mankind.

1. 100% of children's problems are parents' problems.

Now let's introduce the important contents of this book. In the title of the first chapter, the silent master wrote that children's problems 100% are parents' problems. Parents are originals and children are copies, which is a classic saying he often mentioned in many lectures.

Many of our parents may find it unacceptable when they first hear this sentence. Why are children's problems all parents' problems? In particular, some parents who often complain and criticize their children's poor academic performance and bad habits will not understand or even get angry.

Some people may say that the social pollution is so serious now, how can we put the blame on our parents? Don't schools and teachers need to take some responsibility for their children's education?

The silent master mentioned in the book: social pollution, but can we go to social pollution to get justice? We are not satisfied with the exam-oriented education and teachers in the school. Can we change it?

We can't solve so many social problems and change the present examination-oriented education environment and school system. Now we need to find an immediate and effective method, not an excuse. This is a positive and correct way of thinking. It's a pity that some words sound reasonable and useless, and some choose to escape and miss the influence and education of children.

Although children's growth is influenced by the social and school environment, there is no need to waste time complaining about all kinds of things that are not conducive to children's growth in society because we can't change the social environment.

What we can do is to reflect on ourselves, change ourselves, and then change our children. The silent master said that he had seen many children, and as long as his parents made a little adjustment, the children changed.

As parents, only when we take 100% responsibility for our children can our children change.

Not long ago, I received a child who dropped out of high school. His parents were very anxious. I hope I can help the child go back to school as soon as possible.

Parents believe that as long as their children can go back to school smoothly, their problems can be completely solved. In the process of communicating with parents, I heard that parents have been criticizing their children for being willful, rebellious and unable to bear hardships. ...

The child's state looks very bad. The whole person seems to have lost his spirit and vitality. He refuses to communicate with his parents and often stays in his room all day.

When children encounter such problems, if parents can't reflect on themselves or make some changes, it will be difficult to help them out of this state.

I also met some parents who started studying because of their children's problems, because they kept learning and growing, and helped their children get out of trouble smoothly.

Nowadays, more and more parents find that their children are not interested in learning and passively deal with homework. It is often found that many children are absent-minded in class and the phenomenon of desertion is very serious. What makes children lose the vigor and vitality that adolescent children should have?

Third, 80% of children's problems are no dreams.

The silent master said that 80% of children's problems are no dreams. Dreams are our hearts, our thoughts and our thoughts.

Because of the exam-oriented environment of the whole society, current school education cannot survive without paying attention to children's academic performance. As a result, both schools and parents pay too much attention to children's test scores, thinking that children can become talents with good grades is a belief held by many people, so there are also hollow children without hearts in school classrooms.

As parents, we can't change all the phenomenon of score-centered in society and schools, but what we can do is to ignite children's dreams. Dreams are like the seeds of life. Without dreams, there is no hope in life, so many children are unmotivated, confused, unhappy and feel that their future is bleak. The big reason is that they have no dreams.

Buddhism says that a person can't achieve anything if he doesn't have lofty aspirations. Big wish is a dream in today's words.

Teacher Wu also mentioned to us many times in class that heart and will determine strength.

Each of our children has unlimited potential. Because we lack the seeds of dreams, we lack interest and strength in doing anything.

So, as parents, how to help children build dreams!

First, let children dare to think; Every child is born with a dream. He should have a dream, and no one will teach him or trigger him. If children don't have dreams, we as parents should think: Why don't children have dreams? Who killed his dream?

We should not be afraid of how strange children's dreams are, as long as we dare to think. If a child describes his childhood dreams to us, we may kill his dreams by inadvertently saying "How is this possible".

A child dare not think, does he dare to do it? Can he succeed? If Ma Yun says that e-commerce is too far away and complicated, can he still be Alibaba? So it is important to dare to think!

Xin Ran 'an, the daughter of Teacher Wu Wenjun, had a dream of going to an American farm to bask in the sun since she was a child. 17 years old, she finally had a chance to be admitted to a famous art college in Canada. After graduation, she went to a famous school in new york and finally realized her dream of sunbathing on an American farm!

Second, encourage children to truly express their dreams, that is to say, children's dreams are from the heart, not intentional, just made up and told to others.

I had a dream of going to college when I was a child. After graduating from normal school, I entered a middle school as an English teacher. Two years later, I left my job and went to college to study English for two years. After seven years, the school had the opportunity to let me leave for one year. I went to college for another year, and I was admitted to graduate school that year. Then I left my job for three years and went to the beautiful Suzhou University. After working for ten years, I got married and started my career, and my dream of going to college has been realized.

Because this dream of going to college is from the heart, I want to pursue it and realize it, so I will try my best to realize it anyway.

Third, encourage children to stick to their dreams. Take my own dream for example. If I give up my dream after getting married and having children at work, I can't realize my dream of going to college for graduate study.

Because I have a dream in my heart, no matter how hard it is, I don't feel bitter. I still remember that in the year when I was going to graduate school, a man took his three-year-old son and rented a house near the children's kindergarten. Before eight o'clock every morning, I waited on his son to eat and drink Lazar. After sending him to kindergarten, I got on my bike again and rushed to the study room of the university as quickly as possible to start reviewing for the exam. Then go to the kindergarten to pick up my son around five in the afternoon.

I plan the only eight hours of study time in a day seamlessly. How long do I spend on the road every day, how long do I spend eating, how much time can I set aside for study, and how do I make rational use of these limited time to complete my daily study tasks?

Fortunately, the hard work of that year was not in vain. The moment I received the admission notice, I knew in my heart that I was more bitter and more difficult than others, but because I had the seeds of dreams in my heart, I had the strength to persist.

In my life, I have had many dreams, big and small, all of which have come true. Just as I am now on the road of growing up as a life mentor, I always believe that I will use my life to realize this dream that affects many people's lives.

I am also glad that I have found my talent and mission in this life because I have always adhered to my dreams. As mentioned in the book Silent Master, the three conditions for a real dream are greatness, beauty and selflessness. If one of the conditions is missing, then it can only be a goal, not a dream.

Now I want to share five secrets for children to grow up:

1. Let your life grow; As parents, only by continuous learning and growth can we keep pace with the times and keep up with the pace of this rapidly developing era. Only when our child fails in the exam can we tell him calmly: it doesn't matter, grades are just an experience. Experience the feeling of failing in the exam and choose whether to continue to experience this feeling next time. When a child really experiences this kind of bad feeling, he will make changes without urging his parents.

In this book, the silent master mentioned six elements of everyone's rapid growth: 1. Have a great, beautiful and selfless dream. There are absolutely excellent teachers, 3. Seek wisdom and realm from the inside, not from the outside, and 4. Nice lap. 5. Extraordinary experiences and experiences, 6. Success belongs to the persevering.

Read aloud energetically.

The silent master's energy reading "Let the world be beautiful because of me" is praised by readers as a modern version of Buddhist scriptures, which is a secret spell to help children become talents. Many children have changed because of this. Facts have proved that it will be a miracle for children to read often.

3. Establish a high-energy field of the family

As parents, we should keep our family happy and friendly. Whenever a family is often in a state of quarreling, cold war and beating and cursing, no one can solve it. To solve this problem, we can only rely on parents' own efforts to create a harmonious atmosphere in the family.

In addition, when children grow up and have their own rooms, they can arrange some things in the rooms, such as the map of China in the rooms, which will store the vast motherland in their hearts, and the map of the world in the rooms will make children cherish the world invisibly.

When the home is clean and tidy, put some natural landscapes, calligraphy and painting, portraits of sages and great men, etc. Every time a child returns to a beautiful, comfortable and high-energy family field, it is definitely helpful for his study and success.

4. Pay attention to children's interpersonal relationships.

1. Relationship with parents. If children are not harmonious with their parents at home, they are always against their parents, or blow their beards and stare at them, and they are not grateful to their parents. Such children usually don't study well at school.

2. Relationship with teachers. As parents, if you criticize teachers and schools every day at home, it will directly hurt your children if you continue to criticize them. When you criticize, the relationship between children and teachers will be destroyed. A child once asked the silent master that my math score was not good enough. What should I do? The mage immediately said that you had a bad relationship with the math teacher. The student was surprised and asked, how do you know? It's very simple. If the relationship is good, are there any bad grades?

Therefore, if you have a good relationship with the teacher, your grades will naturally improve.

3. Relationship with textbooks, which bear knowledge and wisdom. Careful observation will reveal that those students who scribble or mess their textbooks usually have a bad relationship with their textbooks, and so do their grades.

3. Relationship with classmates, what is the relationship between children and classmates at school? Parents pay more attention to it and encourage their children and classmates to get along well and understand each other.

The relationship with the school is to love your school instead of complaining about the irrationality of the school all day.

5. Relationship with society and country. We grew up in China, and our parents and ancestors came from China. Parents can't say that the country is bad and the society is bad every day, and complain every day. Parents should not complain about teachers, schools, society and our country.

6. The relationship with everything, that is, with nature. Everything is animistic and has a good relationship with nature, and everything will transmit its wisdom and energy to us.

Five or eight ingenious ways to teach children

1. It is very important for parents to set an example. 2. The best education is the third party. If parents have something to say, try not to tell it to their children. Try to ask someone your child admires or respects to speak, or ask your child's good friend to speak. This is much more effective than what parents say themselves. When talking about children, try to encourage them, give them positive energy, don't attack them, and don't instill negative energy into them.

4. Parents usually develop good living habits, make good friends and establish good circles. Parents must build their own dreams before they can help their children build their dreams. 6. Learn to pray and bless yourself and your children. Put your children in a specific dynamic environment, 8. Lock them up instead of keeping them in captivity.

Master believes that it is not grades and schools that determine children's future, but: learning ability, thinking ability, expression ability, execution ability (four major abilities), internal pattern, mind, vision, wisdom, realm (five major realms), great desire, courage, strength and great love (four major qualities).