My understanding of solitude is first of all a word "quiet". When I am alone, my two favorite things are reading and thinking. When reading, I feel the dialogue between myself and my mind, and reading gives my mind a poetic dwelling. I found that Buffett, a world-famous investor, also has this habit. It is said that he spends 80% of his working time reading and thinking. In other words, Buffett takes "thinking" as his responsibility. I heard a story. A mother asked her American friend, "What is the secret of raising a child so promising?" An American friend said, "There are no secrets. She doesn't teach anything, but often takes them to the library and lets them read by themselves. " Her statement inspired me deeply. I think it is very important to cultivate children's habit of being alone, so that they can read books, draw pictures and daydream there quietly, and even sit and watch excellent educational TV and movie programs. As parents, sometimes we really can't "do" anything, such as teaching and speaking in person. I can't do some homework for our children by myself. But what we can do is to cultivate good habits and create a good environment. Zhou said, "People often regard communication as a kind of ability, but ignore that solitude is also a kind of ability, and it is more important than communication in a sense.
My understanding of solitude is followed by the word "heart". The Bible psalm says, "You should guard your heart above all else, because all the fruits of your life come from your heart". The ancients said, "Keep your mouth shut and be single-minded". My understanding of "keeping my mouth shut in a group" is that when I am with people, I should talk as little as possible, speak late, speak clearly and speak softly. My understanding of "keeping one's mind alone" is that one should endure loneliness, drive away evil thoughts and maintain kindness, which is what the ancients said. Zhu's explanation of "a gentleman is cautious about independence" in college is: "Being alone is a place that people don't know but only know. People who want to practice know that their goodness is to get rid of their evil, so they should use their own strength and not deceive themselves. It should be said that the original intention of "cautious independence" is to reflect on yourself in solitude, and not to act recklessly because no one sees it. A person can treat a flower with the purest heart, the truest love and the purest love. Loneliness is like the beauty of a flower.
My understanding of solitude is also a word "slow". I am a person who likes to be alone. When I am alone, I will feel a slow enjoyment, a slow calmness and a slow elegance. This feeling makes me feel as if I have crossed into the artistic conception of Mu Xin's Once Slow-once the sun turned slow/the horses and horses were slow/I only loved one person in my life. It is said that Socrates once made an appointment to climb a mountain. The man came panting all the way. Socrates, who came late, asked, "Did you see anything on the side of the road?" "I don't know, I just want to move on." This man is very depressed. So Socrates patted the dust on his body and said, "It's a pity that I have enjoyed the scenery along the way." Indeed, there are many similar scenes in life: there are clear goals, but the process is often ignored. Slow down and let your soul keep up with you; Don't worry, you'll get everything you want.
People need to be alone and integrate internally. Being alone will bring people double benefits: first, he can keep company with himself; Second, he doesn't need to be with others. A person who learns to be alone must be unique because he knows "quietness", "mind" and "slowness".
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