1, "A son is raised in poverty and a daughter is raised in wealth" is an old saying widely circulated among the people.
Another opposite old saying is: advise parents all over the world to discipline their children strictly.
If you spoil your son, you will be angry with you for blood. -Henan Opera "The Champion and the Beggar"
2, never rich and many ladies, since ancient times, there have been few Wei men, which should be "poor to raise sons and rich to raise daughters." Rich people are not greedy for small profits, and their temperament is extraordinary; The tempering of life makes the poor son stronger; In the future, boys will leave the society and bear the responsibilities of society and family, so they should be poor and stimulate their ambitions, otherwise they will be a prodigal son, a dude, how to serve their parents and how to raise their wives and children! A girl with a well-off family will be brought in and out of various occasions at an early age to increase her ability to read the world. When she grows up as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade, she will not be easily confused by all kinds of glitz and vanity. A girl who has never seen the world is likely to be defeated by a sugar-coated cannonball of a dude and be defeated by rhetoric. Rich girls, because they are knowledgeable, opinionated and wise, know exactly what they really pursue.
Having money to adopt a daughter is actually an investment in education, and education has money; Raising men in poverty is a setback education. Men should constantly strive for self-improvement, and boys who have not experienced failures and setbacks will not grow up.
Boys will struggle in the future, knowing that money is hard to come by; When a girl is getting married, she must be trained to distinguish things, and don't be coaxed away by a piece of cake in the future.
3. Raising children in poverty and raising children in wealth is too narrow if it is only regarded as raising children in a visible social environment to make them live a better life. This method promotes the benign selection of both sexes in a step-by-step manner. The principle of mate selection is Excellence and complementarity. Excellence is a characteristic that conforms to people's instinctive will, and complementarity is a quality that you want to have and corresponds to your own quality. The tendency of choosing a spouse is that people are willing to give everything to satisfy their ideals, love each other more than themselves, and would rather have nothing than nothing. Once people reach their ideal goals, they will promote each other on their own basis. When couples fully trust, fully blend and deeply recognize each other, they will know that the other person is themselves outside the body. The external self is not control-it is full freedom, which is a very high realm.
This topic does not mean that only poor families can raise sons and rich families can raise daughters, but that boys should be "poor": after suffering, they can make a difference and take responsibility in the future; Girls should be "rich": life is exquisite and carefree, and a superior life is like a powerful immune needle, so that she can resist the temptation and distinguish between true and false in the future and become an elegant and beautiful woman who knows the inside story. Men should know from an early age that they are responsible for their families, and they should know that they can only be masters after suffering. Not to support the poor, but to make men understand the truth of suffering. Girls face more temptations from this world when they grow up, so they are not easy to lose themselves when they are tempted.