Rule 1: Find ways to make your son interested in learning. ?
There is a kind of parents. When their son finishes the homework assigned by the teacher, they will also find out many after-school exercises for his son to continue to brush the questions. There is a great momentum of "as long as he can't brush it, he will brush it to death." Letting his son brush the questions like this will only directly erode his son's interest in learning. It can be said that the interest in learning is the endogenous motivation for the son to concentrate on his studies. What parents have to do is to make their son full of strong interest in learning by using the power of the wild, so that his son's academic performance will become more and more excellent. ?
Second: let the son learn to do his own thing independently. ?
A parent told me that she was distressed to see her son doing so much homework every day, so from one day on, she directly helped her son complete all the homework assigned by the teacher. As a result, when my son developed the habit of never doing homework, his academic performance plummeted, and his son became the object of being left out by the teacher. After learning that his parents helped his son with his lessons, his son's teacher gave up the student directly, and his parents finally paid the corresponding price for their doting. Parents spoil their son blindly, and his son can only become the legendary "giant baby" in the end. In family education, sons should do their own thing, and parents should not do everything because of pity. Try to make your son independent and learn to use his own hands and brains, and he will naturally become more and more excellent.
The third kind: praise the little progress in the son's growth. ?
Some parents always compare their sons with other people's sons. Smart parents will compare their sons' previous performance with their present progress. In the horizontal comparison with other sons, the son's self-esteem is completely lost; In the vertical comparison with his past self, his son's self-confidence is getting more and more sufficient, and all kinds of behavior habits are naturally becoming more and more standardized, so that his son's development in all aspects can enter the realm of "no need to whip himself".
Fourth: When praising your son, affirm his efforts. ?
Some parents often praise their son for being smart, great and powerful, giving him an illusion that he may feel that his IQ is really high. When a son discovers that he is not so "great", so "smart" and so "powerful", his son may give up on himself. Therefore, when a son's performance in a certain aspect makes his parents very satisfied, what parents should do is to affirm his efforts or diligence when his son makes progress, and let his son know that he has achieved certain results because of his special efforts, so that his son will work harder in the next performance. ?
Fifth: Try to make yourself a role model for your son. ?
In family education, parents had better shout themselves out. Many times, parents are the "living teaching materials" for their sons. Parents should set an example of what their son looks like. For example, parents want their son to concentrate on reading, and don't play with his mobile phone crazily and laugh all the time when he is reading, so it is difficult for his son to be interested in books, but he is particularly interested in your mobile phone. If parents are laughing and laughing while reading, then your son may be particularly interested in the books in your hand. You can try if you don't believe me. ?
Sixth: Respect the son's emotional experience in life. ?
Parents should respect their son's emotional experience, no matter whether he is an adolescent son or an ignorant child. Don't yell at his son easily, don't nag him in front of him, and don't beat and scold him. If you are a parent, you should think about this question: If you are a son, what will your mood be if your parents scold, nag and yell at you? Respect your son and his emotional experience, and his son will become more confident and his future life will be smoother and smoother.