According to the survey, 80% of college students think they have a slight fear of society, and the scene of social fear can be refined to the point that they are afraid to express their likes and dislikes when cooking in the canteen, the restaurant is afraid to rush the order, the interview students are fidgeting, and they are not actively involved in class activities. According to the survey, 80% of college students think they are slightly afraid of society.

The survey shows that 80% of college students think they have a slight social phobia. Recently, the results of a questionnaire survey for college students across the country showed that 80.22% of the college students surveyed said they had a slight "social phobia"; 6.90% of the college students surveyed expressed serious "social fear"; 0.64% of the college students surveyed said that they had a serious "social phobia" and were medically diagnosed as social phobia. 12.24% of the college students surveyed said that they were not afraid of society at all, and called themselves "social cattle themselves". The survey found that college students are more likely to have "social fear" when they talk, communicate with strangers and ask for help in crowded places. Are you socially fearful? What is "social fear"?

Social phobia is a subtype of phobia. Phobia was originally called panic neurosis, a kind of neurosis. Mainly manifested as excessive and unreasonable fear of some external objective things or situations. The patient knows that this fear is overreacted or unreasonable, but it still appears repeatedly and is difficult to control. Panic attacks are often accompanied by obvious anxiety and autonomic nervous system symptoms. Patients try to avoid objective things or situations that lead to fear, or endure with fear, thus affecting normal activities. Common phobia subtypes are agoraphobia, social phobia and special phobia.

clinical picture

Social phobia, also known as social anxiety disorder (SAD), usually occurs between the ages of 65,438+07 and 30, and the incidence of male and female is almost the same. Sudden attacks of diseases often have no obvious reasons. The main symptom is fear of being scrutinized by people in small groups. Once you find that others pay attention to you, you will be unnatural, afraid to look up, afraid to look at people, even ashamed, afraid to speak in public, afraid to sit in front of the conference table, so you will avoid socializing, and in extreme cases, it will lead to social isolation. The common objects of fear are the opposite sex, strict boss, parents of fiance (wife), or acquaintances. It may be accompanied by symptoms such as low self-evaluation, fear of criticism, blushing, shaking hands, nausea or urgency, and the symptoms may develop to the degree of panic attack. Clinical manifestations can be isolated, limited to eating in public, speaking in public or meeting the opposite sex, and can also be extended to almost all situations outside the family. Some patients may often be accompanied by prominent agoraphobia and depression; Some patients may relieve anxiety through substance abuse, which eventually leads to substance dependence, especially alcohol dependence.

According to the survey, 80% of college students think they are slightly afraid of society. 2 Put on a mask, take off your glasses and sunglasses, and turn the earphone sound to the maximum acceptable volume. This is northerners' favorite outdoor equipment. A classmate greeted the North, and she thought she was "deaf and blind". Faced with such comments from people around me, I don't care about going to the North at all, because it's not a bad thing for her "social fear". In the face of social communication, her "orientation theory" has its own system. "You can't see clearly without glasses, and you don't have to say hello if you can't see clearly."

Like going north, Chen Yiqi, a senior at a university in Wuhan, doesn't like greeting people. "If I see an unfamiliar person passing by, I will take a detour." Obviously, the destination is a straight road, and he always chooses a detour because he doesn't know how to say hello. "Pretend he didn't see it."

When cooking in the canteen, I dare not tell my aunt that I want more Chili, for fear that my aunt will find it too much trouble; Choose to sit in the most inconspicuous place when classmates get together. If someone hints at himself, he will buckle his toes in embarrassment. Before you speak, you need to do a good job in psychological construction. If you predict silence, you won't say a word. When you meet someone you know on the road, you always try to look away or even make a detour ... Have you experienced such "social fear" every day?

Searching for "social fear" as the key word in Weibo, there are hundreds of related topics, and the total reading of the topic has exceeded 100 million times, and the number of people participating in the topic discussion is estimated to be hundreds of thousands. So how many college students consider themselves "social phobia"? What are the reasons for their "social fear"? How should they be "socially fearful" without affecting their lives? In order to better understand the ideological status of college students, recently, China Youth Daily and Zhongqing School Media conducted a questionnaire survey for college students all over the country, and * * * collected 4,854 valid questionnaires from 255 colleges and universities. The survey results show that 80.22% of the college students surveyed said they had a slight "social fear"; 6.90% of the college students surveyed expressed serious "social fear"; 0.64% of the college students surveyed said that they had a serious "social phobia" and were medically diagnosed as social phobia. In addition, 12.24% of the college students surveyed said that they were not "socially afraid" at all and called themselves "social cattle themselves".

Diary of College Students' "Social Fear"

After four years in college, Chen Yiqi felt that there were many scenes of "social fear". He can't forget the scene of his freshman going to the student union for an interview. He used "I'm going to pee my pants" to describe his nervousness. After formally joining the student union, compared with writing and planning, communicating with a teacher or classmate who has just met makes him feel at a loss and unable to start. The most uncomfortable occasion for him is the classmate's dinner. "I was on pins and needles, and I couldn't wait to get into the cracks when I called ..."

In front of many strangers, Li Ziyuan, a junior this year, often chooses silence. He is more willing to take part in class activities than a large number of large-scale school-level activities. Not long ago, his friend organized a garden activity at school and invited him to participate. Originally thought it was to "hold a scene", but when he finished eating and was ready to go to the appointment on time, he saw a crowd at a distance, which was very lively. "Social fear", he sneaked back and made an excuse to temporarily refuse his friend's invitation.

Under what circumstances are college students more likely to be "socially fearful"? According to the media survey of Zhongqing School, 53.66% of the college students interviewed said that they spoke in crowded places. 52. 1 1% means in social occasions; 45.94% said that when communicating with strangers; 43. 17% indicates that it is time to ask others for help; 4 1. 15% means when you first arrive in a new environment; Another 33.29% of college students said that they would be willing to pretend not to see someone they met on the road.

These daily scenes often plague "social terrorists". Liu Yangyang, a photography enthusiast, is a graduate student in a university in Fujian. For him, "'social fear' is one of the reasons for learning photography." When doing interviews and research with teachers and classmates, he always plays the photographer who doesn't have to talk behind the camera. When going out for research, he and his classmates looked for passers-by in the park. When he saw a man sitting on a bench playing with his mobile phone, his inner play began: "Everyone is absorbed in playing with his mobile phone. Is it too disturbing for me to ask questions? " What if he refuses me? Will he turn away? "

I dare not urge the clerk to eat, I dare not interact with the teacher in class, I am afraid to get along with my new roommate, and I don't know how to talk to new friends ... This situation often occurs in Zhou Yu's life. Every time she breaks the embarrassing scene of social fear, she has to do psychological construction for a long time. Sometimes, after the psychological construction is completed, the next "social fear moment" comes one after another. As a graduate student this year, she thinks that her "social phobia" is probably influenced by her family. "At family gatherings, my parents and I are introverted, don't like to talk much, and rarely express our feelings at home. So I don't know much about how to speak in public. "

What is "social fear"? Why do you feel "social fear"?

Chi Yukai, an associate professor at the School of Psychology of South China Normal University, said that social phobia is a psychological disorder and belongs to a subcategory of anxiety disorder. It is manifested in making patients feel pain and the level is abnormal, which makes patients unable to work and live normally. There is a difference between the "social phobia" that some young people often say at present and the real social phobia. "Some young people say that they are' social fear', which is actually the psychological effect of sitting in the right place. They think this concept is similar to their own, just like a popular sentence on the Internet,' Have you seen my ID card?' "

For Liu Yangyang, there is no obstacle to communicate with acquaintances, but before talking to strangers, Liu Yangyang always thinks, "If I were more handsome, would others accept me more easily?" "If I feel a little fat, will others feel uncomfortable talking to others?" Worry about whether you can integrate into others, worry about whether you will be excluded, and lack of confidence in your personal ability and image always emerge when you want to communicate with others.

And Liu Yangyang's feeling is somewhat similar. Tracing back to their own growth experience, this year's senior three students think that their emotions have a lot to do with their childhood experiences. When I was a child, I went to the north because I was fat and was laughed at by my classmates. Whenever there is silence in the social process, the appearance of being laughed at when she speaks on the stage and the appearance of being criticized by the teacher will reappear in her mind. "I told myself in my mind that the other party didn't have such an idea, but I still unconsciously substituted it in my mind." In addition, paying too much attention to other people's evaluation and lacking sense of security may also lead to their "social fear" in going north.

Why do college students have "social fear"? According to a survey conducted by China media, 69.86% college students are "socially fearful" for fear of embarrassing scenes. 52.65% of the college students surveyed expressed fear of saying the wrong thing; 5 1.48% of the college students said that they were not good enough because they were afraid of others. 47.84% of the college students interviewed expressed fear of being unsociable or unable to integrate into the group; 43.00% of the college students interviewed expressed fear of being criticized or rejected; 35.85% of the college students surveyed expressed concern that others would pay attention to themselves and feel uncomfortable; 16. 10% of the college students surveyed said they were worried about being praised by others and would feel uncomfortable.

Chi Yukai analyzed that many young people who think they are "socially fearful" actually have no serious psychological barriers. There are several reasons for this "social phobia". One possibility is that some people tend to avoid the social rules needed by social roles because of the complicated social etiquette in reality. Secondly, the ambiguity of the edge in interpersonal communication is also the reason why some young people are unwilling to socialize. Thirdly, some people will regard "social phobia" as a kind of relief from socializing. "People who are afraid of socializing find reasons for their mentality, and also find a sense of belonging in the' social fear' group, giving themselves an excuse not to go out to socialize."

In addition, Chi Yukai believes that another reason for young people's "social fear" is fear of real social failure. "Real socialization is easy to fail. It is very annoying to speak inappropriately in the workplace and interpersonal communication. People who avoid socializing feel that as long as they socialize, they may make mistakes, but if they don't socialize, they won't fail. These people often do not want to socialize. As social animals, people generally hope to gain the recognition and love of others, are eager to pursue the success of interpersonal communication, and are afraid of being looked down upon after the failure of interpersonal communication. "

For the north, there has been a "social fear" caused by fear of social failure and fear that others don't like themselves. "Before a classmate, we both worked in the student organization for a year, which is not to say that we are very unfamiliar. Once we met in the study room, she greeted me warmly. My first reaction was speechless. Then she sat next to me and studied by herself, and I was even more speechless. " Unable to accept this scene, a few minutes after the students sat down, the students went north to find an excuse to escape. "She is sitting next to me, and I can't study with peace of mind. I don't know if she will observe the state of my study, which will leave a bad impression on me ... "In fact, I know that my classmates are concentrating on their studies and don't pay attention to her state, but she still can't stand this kind of getting along. Finding an excuse to leave is the only way for her to carefully protect this relationship.

In the process of chatting, if the topic I throw doesn't get the response from the other party, "Is what I said boring?" "Is something wrong?" ..... all kinds of complicated emotions will come to mind instantly. This kind of emotion also makes the north afraid of interacting with people, especially offline. For this kind of emotion, the North has its own interpretation method. "I will observe others very carefully, even if it is a small action, and then make a very negative explanation for that ambiguous situation."

"In fact, some young people's' social fear' is a kind of self-restriction. They feel that they have worked hard but have no face, preferring not to try. " Chi Yukai said, "On the other hand, people sometimes pay too much attention to what they and others think of themselves, so they are very ashamed of what they say and do wrong, and even regard embarrassing scenes in social occasions as' social death'. In fact, the attention from others is not as focused as we thought, and the feeling of being laughed at and paid attention is often magnified by ourselves. "

Adjusting mentality and making mistakes is the only way to grow up.

"When I don't know what to do, I will imitate the people around me." In order to change the current situation of "social fear", Chen Yiqi has made great efforts. He often imitates other people's speeches on similar occasions. The department summary meeting organized by students, how to encourage students and how to better point out the existing problems ... Chen Yiqi's memo recorded the tone and content of speakers on different occasions in detail, and I pondered it repeatedly when I was free, thinking that I would use it in the same occasion in the future.

For Chen Yiqi, all methods that can alleviate his social fear are worth trying. According to the media survey of Zhongqing School, 77.56% of the college students interviewed, like Chen Yiqi, have tried to solve their "social fears".

Faced with how to solve their "social fear", the results of the media survey in Zhongqing School show that 7 1.85% of the college students surveyed said they would try more and practice integrating into social occasions. This is the case in the north. In her opinion, familiarity and preparation in advance can help her better adapt to the social environment. So she forced herself to participate in various social activities and tried to make new friends. Nowadays, the popular script "Killing" has become a training base for her to get rid of "social fear".

In addition to more contact and more attempts, the media survey of Zhongqing School found that 60.80% of the college students interviewed tried to convince themselves to overcome their fears; 18.85% of the college students surveyed think that although they have a little "social fear", they don't need to solve it; 10.63% of college students seek help from psychological knowledge or psychologists. Another 16.76% of the college students said that their way to solve "social fear" was to spend more time alone and reduce contact with others.

In Chi Yukai's view, if "social fear" does not affect life, young people can ignore it. But if you find your "social phobia" and want to get rid of it, you can try real social phobia therapy. "Systemic desensitization and submergence therapy can generally be used. Systemic allergy is to adjust cognition, put yourself in a social environment that scares you step by step, and gradually improve your adaptability. Submergence therapy, also known as shock therapy, puts itself in the most fearful social environment at once and will adapt to all environments in the future. "

According to the media survey of middle-aged schools, 7 1.24% of the college students surveyed think that "social fear" has brought them slight troubles, 7.54% think it is very troublesome, and the remaining 2 1.22% say it is not.

In Liu Yangyang's view, "social fear" is not all bad. One of his brothers is a typical "social phobia". He usually doesn't communicate with his classmates and friends, and even many students don't even add WeChat. He would rather stay in the library than go out to socialize. "Brother graduated from Ph.D. last year and has distributed 10 core journal papers. He stayed in school as an assistant professor last year. " In Liu Yangyang's view, it is not necessarily a bad thing to be able to settle down because of "social fear" if it is not a job that needs social skills very much.

Unlike Liu Yangyang's idea, Zhou Yu decided to challenge herself when choosing a graduate tutor. "Choosing a tutor is very important for my graduate life and even my future development. I must be brave and proactive. " She hinted at herself over and over again. She took the initiative to contact her senior sister, sent an email to her tutor to introduce her situation and wishes, and took her companion to ask her tutor questions after school started. At the tutor double election meeting after the start of school, Zhou Yu successfully chose her favorite tutor.

Chi Yukai suggested that young people should adjust their mentality, not be afraid of making mistakes and losing face, and not worry about their imperfect manners and movements. "Psychological research has found that 18 to 30 years old is a good time for trial and error. At this age, people have realized the significance of failure to life, and they have the energy to correct their own problems. The experience summed up after overcoming problems is quite helpful to the growth and development of people's lives. As the philosopher Nietzsche said,' What can't kill me will make me strong'. "

According to the survey, 80% of college students think they are slightly afraid of society. In a recent survey by China Youth Daily, more than 80% of college students think they are a little afraid of society, such as in public.

Comparatively speaking, the proportion of "not afraid of society" is 12.24%, and the rest are serious and very serious social fears.

It is reported that social phobia is social phobia. The media quoted psychologists from South China Normal University as saying that social phobia is a psychological disorder and belongs to a subcategory of anxiety disorder. The performance is that patients feel pain and the level is abnormal, which makes them unable to work and live normally. However, experts point out that there is a difference between the social phobia that some young people often say at present and the real social phobia, which is more like a psychological effect of sitting in the right position.

In the survey, in the answer of how to treat young people saying that they are afraid of society, most people say that it is fun. Some people do have social fear, accounting for the highest proportion, followed by some more introverted people.

According to incomplete arrangement, the main occasions of social phobia are nervous and embarrassed when talking in crowded places, embarrassed when asking for help from others, uncomfortable in new environment, uncomfortable in social occasions, trying to pretend not to see acquaintances on the road, and nervous when communicating with strangers.

Taking college students as an example, the scene can be refined to the point that the canteen does not dare to express likes and dislikes, the restaurant does not dare to urge orders, the interview students are restless, and class activities are not actively involved.

In this regard, experts say that young people should adjust their mentality, not be afraid of making mistakes and losing face, and not worry about their imperfect manners and movements. If social fear does not affect life, young people can ignore it. But if you find your social phobia and want to get rid of it, you can try real social phobia therapy, including systematic desensitization and flooding therapy.