Therefore, we look at the husband's results from the type of wife.
If the husband gives his salary to such a wife, congratulations, there will be a good life in the future.
It stands to reason that even if a husband pays his wife, he should have some pocket money. After all, it costs money for men to socialize outside However, if you meet a strict wife, your husband will be miserable.
A former colleague of mine earned more than 4,000 yuan a month. He paid his wife every month. His wife is better, and he dare not pay it. According to him, his wife only gave him 50 yuan of pocket money every month, not a penny. Three melons and two dates, not to mention the change, even smoking has to borrow money from friends every month. Even if he meets a gift or something, his wife won't give him money and let him find his own way. Unless two people get married by relatives or friends, the wife pays for it. It was a poor day. He seldom attends parties of friends and colleagues, and his pockets are empty. Sorry, he protested to his wife many times, but it was all in vain. When chatting, he once said that his wife was ok with him in other aspects, otherwise she would have divorced.
Although there are not many wives of this type, you can find a few. Paying wages to such a wife has affected her husband's normal life and social interaction, resulting in only one word "miserable".
If you pay this type of wife, it goes without saying that everyone knows that there is no problem at all.
This is the smartest wife, who knows how to protect her husband's face and understand each other. The husband is also willing to give his salary to such a wife, which is a kind of trust in each other. In the face of this type of wife, the husband will be very conscious instead, and he does not need his wife to worry about spending money indiscriminately, so he will grasp the discretion. After all, it's all for the same family. It's important to respect and care for each other.
This kind of wife doesn't want to worry too much and mind her own business. Even if her husband wants to get paid, they are too lazy to take care of it and simply don't accept it. Take care of the money you earn, and spend more and less as you see fit. In this case, it seems that the husband is free, but the result is different. Conscious husband, there will be no big problem. If he is a person with poor self-control, his salary may also encounter moonlight.
Such wives are not interested in financial management, and even give their jobs to their husbands for safekeeping. Of course, only if her husband is reliable.
Generally speaking, in most families in China, it is a long-standing habit for a husband to leave his salary to his wife for safekeeping. One party is willing to pay, and the other party is willing to take care of it. Why not? There are many minutes in the situation, and there are many minutes in the result. As long as the husband and wife think in one place and work hard in one place, the salary is the same for whoever they leave. It belongs to the same property anyway.
What kind of situation do you belong to
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Let me tell you a true story.
My hometown is a neighboring village, and both father and son are teachers. My son married a beautiful wife and didn't know how to spoil her. The wife is uncompromising. He not only gave his wife his salary card password, but also forced his father to give his salary card and password to his wife in various ways. His mother died early, and nobody cared. As a result, his wife was fooling around with the village head with their father and son's salary card and all the assets in the family. Later, she was blocked in the house by her own man and caught red-handed, and all the nearby villages knew about it. The man was so angry that he got mental illness, and his father had a cerebral hemorrhage that he became Alzheimer's disease. That woman is fooling around somewhere again.
Therefore, paying a wife depends mainly on what kind of wife she is. Paying the salary to the wife who can live at home will save her husband a lot of trouble and make his life better and better. But if you give your salary to the following kinds of wives, you are surrounded by family.
Wife of "Chopper Party"
All kinds of buy buy purchases, whether useful or not, will be ruined no matter how high the salary is.
"gambler" wife
Gambling is addictive, winning or losing is discussed at the mahjong table, and gambling is so red that my husband is black and blue.
The wife who "plays hidden rules"
There is no bottom line for accompanying leaders for their own purposes, and sooner or later they will kick their husbands away. Basically, divorce is a matter of time.
A wife who is unfilial to the man's parents.
Such a wife is not a kind person. If you give economic power to such people, your parents will suffer with you, and the result will be disloyalty and isolation.
Of course, these are a few cases. I have a friend who has a very good wife, who is good at living and investing and managing money. His wife holds the financial power of the family, and he never asks. They have a daughter who goes to primary school. In a few years, he is going to buy a house and pay a down payment. As a result, his wife took out all the money. He doesn't even believe that this family is full of happiness except spending so much money.
Of course, it is reassuring to have a wife who is both internal and external, has a high personality and can manage money. If the husband can manage money and allocate daily expenses reasonably, the wife's money can also be handed over to the husband for management; It can also be two people discussing management. No matter who manages money, it is based on mutual trust. Understand each other, care about each other, and don't be unhappy about money. Life is once in a hundred years, remember to cherish each other.
Do you have such people around you?
How to give a salary card these days? They are all tied to online banking, so he must know the salary first. Even if his wife has a salary card, it is impossible to check it every day, right? My husband's salary card has been in my hand since 10 our family got married, but every time I get paid, he tells me that I get paid today. I gave it to him during the Spring Festival last year. Now it's his turn to get paid. Just let me know and I'll transfer it from Alipay to my card. I feel that it makes no difference whether I can issue a salary card now. I worry about everything in our family, and my husband only goes to work without thinking about things.
My wife and I got the marriage license on 17, but we reached an understanding on their economic management when we dated on 20 14. We are all part-time, with an average salary ranging from 4000 to 5000, but we also have the heart to buy a house. So when we were dating, we had agreed to save money to buy a house together. The first question we face is who will keep the money. I'm not sensitive to this aspect, so I offered to let my wife take care of it. As a result, my wife is too troublesome. She wanted to spend more time learning English, so she left it to me.
In the eyes of many people, if you master financial power, you have the right to speak. However, at that time, in my opinion, the pressure doubled. Because we have defined the goal of saving money to buy a house, I always feel that buying a house is far away and the pressure of saving money is even greater. On the other hand, my wife never asks for money. In her opinion, this burden is left to me. She just gives me the money she wants to save every month and concentrates on doing her own thing. In the first month of saving money, I borrowed two books on financial management from the library and bought one online to study how to manage money. So our state at that time was different from most people's imagination. Although I hold the financial power, I am still under pressure. Sometimes I think my wife really gave me all the money, which is quite touching.
The second stage of our financial changes is marriage. We bought a house, paid the money on 20 16, renovated it on 20 17, bought a parking space on 20 18, and got married in the same year. These years are the most expensive for us, so our savings are all used up and our family has helped us a little. In this case, my wife is pregnant again, which makes our economic pressure more and more serious, and she begins to care about the family economy. So we had a second discussion on family economic management, and finally reached an agreement that my monthly salary was used for housing, car and living expenses, and her salary was mainly saved and kept by her. It is from this stage that my monthly salary is basically zero, and the rest will be left to my wife.
Does this financial change have a big impact on me? Actually, it's not as exaggerated as everyone thinks. I'm not a consumer at all. If I don't have enough money every month, I will spend it. If I have no money to pay back, I will ask my wife for it. Life is still the same. When friends go out to eat, most of them are treated by others. I invite them once or twice occasionally. I also explained my financial situation to my friends frankly. Everyone understands that it does not affect our communication. In terms of life, there is basically no consumption, and I cook when I go home at night. Our monthly living expenses are really not much.
If you want to ask me how I feel now, I am still very happy. I'm too lazy to care about money. I devote myself to my career, working during the day and learning how to be a self-media at night. In terms of getting along with my wife, because she is in charge of money, I don't have much argument with her. We still have business and quantity, and we will communicate everything. Most importantly, I am very happy to have a daughter!
I am Maureen's emotional cabin, focusing on psychology and emotional communication. Welcome to share with me! ~
There happens to be a similar story.
A colleague said that his family has a neighbor with a monthly income of about 6500. All but 500 pocket money must be given to the wife. In a few years, he accumulated more than 200,000 yuan, but his wife lost more than 40,000 yuan when she went to buy a fund. Finally, his wife paid the down payment with the rest of the house, and then her wife used the excuse of going out with her lover.
But the problem is that the relationship between husband and wife is not good Now my wife doesn't go home in the first month on the pretext of going out. She also asks her husband for money every month, but pays the room fee in her own name. My wife's brother also called her brother-in-law incompetent and asked her sister to pay for a house!
This is what happens when you pay your wife. Do you think this is unfair?
Of course, not all wives are like this. It's good not to divorce, but it's a little troublesome to divorce!
Husband and wife love, just like a wife is an expert in financial management, it is not bad to give it to her. If her husband is good at it, it doesn't matter who manages the money and who manages the money. The problem is that when such a wife who has a bad relationship with her runs away, she is asked to collect money every month. It really makes people a little worried about their husbands, fearing that talents will be empty in the future! I think this husband is a little timid. I don't know how he thinks about his present situation and his future life.
It's still a cliche. Everyone has his own ideas and ways of living. As long as he thinks it makes sense, why should he pay attention to other people's opinions?
Others, regardless of others, are still husband and wife anyway, and the future life is still on our own!
Go your own way and live your own life!
My brother is an engineer. He doesn't smoke, drink or play games. He paints every day! The salary is more than 10 thousand per month! When the bonus reaches 30 thousand, sometimes you can get 50 thousand if you do it! Give all the money to my wife, who owns all kinds of cosmetics, branded clothes, beauty and facial micro-plastic surgery! Give her family all kinds of money! His wife always shows off cosmetics and bags to my wife at parties! ! Until my brother got sick and had an operation, his wife could only take out 20 thousand! I borrowed money from my mother's house and didn't take out a penny! They have been married for four years! I can't even get the money to see a doctor! Finally, all the treatment costs are borne by the company and the husband's family! My brother divorced directly after he got well! There is no room for discussion! Who advised him to be anxious with whom! Therefore, it is not impossible to give your wife all your salary and bonus, but you must know it in your heart!
I tell a story. The hero of the story is a teacher in the unit. He pays his salary every month in the company, and he gives it to his wife in full. He is a gentleman who cuts. Whether he is tired or idle at work all day, he always laughs, as if he doesn't know that there are still troubles in the world. Suddenly one day, his wife was in the hospital, and he was still at work, laughing and laughing. It was not until the hospital issued a notice of critical illness that he asked for leave to take care of his wife in the hospital. Knowing that Yang was going to run away, she took out the key from her bag and handed it to him. He picked up the spoon and weighed it, then put it in his pants. After dealing with his wife's affairs, he continued to work. Colleagues in the unit joked that "boss" has now become a veritable boss! After retiring for more than 30 years, he drank twice a day and laughed at people until he died at the age of 92. His optimism all his life left a deep impression on people! So there is nothing wrong with being a hen-pecked wife.
The man who gave all his salary to his wife finally had a deposit at the end of the year.
This view is based on my personal experience. Husband 14 graduated, 17 stayed with me. He didn't save any money during these three years. Every year when he goes home for the New Year, his father gives him some living expenses, with an average salary of 5,000 yuan. As for where the flowers are, he doesn't know. Looking at the annual Alipay bill, he was puzzled. Since mobile phone payment, money is not money, but a number, and it doesn't hurt to spend it.
Later, he offered me his salary card, but he still ignored his money. Both WeChat and Alipay are bound by this card. I only took a card for knitting. Oh, there is nothing I can do. In order to prevent him from spending money indiscriminately, I ask him to transfer it to me every month. As for the salary, because he is in sales, his salary is not fixed, so no matter how much he earns, he keeps the living expenses of the month and transfers the rest to me, 3000-
I have to say that after scrimping and saving, he has changed a lot and spent money in moderation. He seldom goes to restaurants to eat. He has given up dinner. He is reluctant to buy what he likes, and his clothes are all bought online (he said that physical stores are expensive) ... On the other hand, he desperately makes money and strives for performance every month. He said: to save money and increase income is the king. If you save it, you will only get poorer and poorer.
In fact, the motivation to urge him to save money is not my mandatory order, but our dream-to buy a house and take root in this city. I hope that one day, we will no longer work for the landlord.
One of my uncles, who works with my dad on the construction site, is not tall, just like one meter five.
Short and frustrated, in the words of young people now, Xu.
When I was a child, I sold steamed bread, and my father called him steamed bread.
We will also be called Uncle Steamed Bread.
Fifty. I found a woman who didn't have a marriage certificate to live with this year.
There is a girl in her twenties and my father. They call him.
However, Uncle Xu is more honest. He thinks it is good to be sincere to others.
Because I have never been married and have no children, I really regard other people's children as my own.
Although he is in his twenties.
Because my dad is a contractor, he pays all the wages, and he knows exactly where he is going.
Anyway, I feel sorry for myself. I gave all my salary to others and ended up with nothing.
We all sympathize with him.
But there must be something hateful about the poor.
My dad often reminds him to keep an eye on it, but he just won't listen.
I'm the one who pays me. I took a deep breath the moment I handed in my salary card. Being in charge of my family is so worrying that it gives me a headache. This is not what men are good at at at all.
Actually, this is the second time I have handed in my salary card.
The first time I was chasing my wife. At that time, I was faced with two rivals in love. Both of them are more handsome than me and have better family conditions. Later, I thought of a way to beat those two people. This way is when I go to hold her hand, holding my salary card in my hand.
Based on this, my wife thought I was an honest man and finally married me.
After our son was born, all kinds of expenses increased obviously. It takes a month or two's salary for my son to be ill in hospital. But life has to go on, and the pressure of life makes me start complaining about her. I said she didn't know how to save, and she bought some things without my consent. Of course, she refused to accept the accusation, so I got angry and forced her to return my salary card to me. I care.
I don't know if I'm in charge. When I got home, I found that being in charge was a technical job, and my brain was simply not competent.
After being tortured for a month, I put my salary card in her hand and told her that I was not qualified to be the finance minister. She said with a smile, you think the finance minister is easy to be!
I don't care whether vegetables go up or not after wages are paid, and whether meat goes up or not. I want to eat crayfish. If I want to eat ribs, I will tell my wife directly, and then she will buy them back.
After the salary is paid, I no longer worry about what paper pants my children use. What kind of clothes to wear? What kind of fruit do you want to eat and which clinic do you want to see a doctor?
After my salary was paid, I no longer worried about the happy events of my relatives and friends. How much should I send?
From then on, we got married 1 1 year. I am not only relaxed, but also my wife loves me.
Many newlyweds want to control the financial power of the family, which has caused some contradictions. I think as a man, I still have to give my salary to the woman. As long as your wife is loyal to you and doesn't spend money indiscriminately.
Women can choose you among many men because they love you and want to live with you wholeheartedly. The love in a woman's heart is not what men keep saying, but to sacrifice their own interests and show it in action.
Salary is salary on the surface, but it is actually a promise of love, which means that you are willing to take care of her for life. When a woman receives this promise of love, of course she is willing to live a good life with you!