Idealists (NF-type people) have complex personality composition, and their unique personality is significantly different from those of pleasure-loving SP technicians, productive SJ guardians and speculative nt rationalists. Although all idealists seem to have a strong ability to communicate with others and express their feelings, the four types of idealists are different in life communication, professional work, marriage and family.
I. Educator (ENFJ type person)
Among all idealists, ENFJ is destined to be an educator, accounting for about 2% of the total number. ENFJ seems to have some kind of magic, always influencing others invisibly.
1) Life communication:
ENFJ people are cheerful, optimistic, easy-going and good at expressing themselves. They can express their emotions spontaneously and freely, whether they are blurted out negative emotions or direct and distinct positive emotions. So in the circle where they live, educators are often quite influential. Regardless of the size of the circle, they will not hesitate to make speeches or statements whenever necessary.
ENFJ people who are good at planning usually arrange their work and social activities in advance, so they can easily design countless activities for the team and deal with all kinds of complicated data quickly. They attach great importance to harmonious relations and establish and maintain this harmony through their charm and sincere concern. They will naturally express their concern and desire for integration to others. Wherever you go, you can always become a popular person.
The sense of responsibility for others' feelings often makes educators feel a deep burden, but if they have to give up some interpersonal relationships because they have not fulfilled their promises, they will feel guilty. Not only that, they often idealize their various relationships, which is unrealistic and will inevitably hurt themselves.
2) Professional work:
Educators can make great achievements in many fields. Their outstanding language talent usually makes them stand out in the work of interacting with people. Most people who work in the media are smart and capable ENFJ people. In addition, they can become excellent educators and psychologists. They can try almost any job that involves maintaining interpersonal communication, but try to avoid those occupations that can't give full play to their communication skills, such as accounting.
3) Marriage and family:
Educators attach great importance to the mutual cooperation in intimate relationships, and will tirelessly promote the harmonious relationship with lovers, and generously invest time and energy. Therefore, they are often good partners and spouses. When there are discordant notes in family life, ENFJ people often have a strong sense of guilt. At the same time, their dream of a perfect relationship and their desire for an ideal partner sometimes become a mental burden, which makes them have a vague dissatisfaction with their existing spouses.
As parents, educators will naturally invest in their children's education, but this investment will not evolve into a domineering paternalistic style. On the contrary, they will be so loving and patient, and sometimes their love will be used by some particularly wayward children.
Second, the tutor (INFJ type)
Mentors focus on helping people realize their potential. INFJ people, who account for 1% of the population, usually show an extremely strong desire to contribute to the happiness of others and guide people around them to achieve higher self-realization.
1) Life communication:
Most tutors are silent and sensitive, but the tutor who likes to be alone but is friendly is a very complicated individual, and his personality is elusive and understandable.
Their hearts are extremely rich, but they only share their feelings with people they can trust. In the face of loved ones, they are naturally willing to express their feelings. When it comes to positive emotions, they will be radiant, and when it comes to negative emotions, they will be gloomy. Because psychological counselors have a strong ability to accept and perceive the feelings of others, they are also quite vulnerable to the harm of people around them, which makes them tend to stay away from interpersonal communication quietly.
Such idealists have strong emotional interaction ability, and they can even subconsciously understand other people's emotions or intentions-good and evil. Thanks to this telepathic ability, they can learn about other people's inner pain or illness, which is difficult for other types of people to understand. Among all types of people, they are also the most likely to understand psychic phenomena. We often find this extraordinary intuitive ability in INFJ people.
2) Professional work:
For counselors, those occupations that require interpersonal communication can not only keep them energetic, but also promote their personal development, especially those jobs that focus on one-on-one communication. Psychological counselors can usually become excellent family doctors, and with their unique telepathic ability, they can go deep into the inner world of patients-although in all types of people, they are also the most vulnerable to their repressed thoughts and emotions. They can also choose to be consultants, teaching or writing in these fields.
Counselors are willing to help others solve problems, cherish the harmonious working atmosphere, and hope that the organization in which they work can operate stably and happily. They will listen carefully to what others say, they can provide counseling skillfully and cooperate with others. INFJ people who like to please others are afraid of contradictions and differences. When they are in a hostile working environment or constantly criticized, they will gradually lose confidence and become unhappy, which will eventually be reflected in the form of physical illness.
3) Marriage and family:
At home, INFJ people are also eager to create a harmonious atmosphere. They may not have many friends, but the feelings and exchanges between friends are deep and lasting. As spouses, they love each other deeply and are willing to give everything for each other. They like close physical contact, but they are extremely cautious in timing. This kind of cold and hot treatment sometimes confuses their spouses. Perhaps it is because INFJ people express their feelings subtly and implicitly, and often choose a romantic or even poetic opportunity to reveal their true feelings.
In parenting, tutors will become good friends with children. Some INFJ women even have a spiritual connection with their children. Although they are very kind, they are equally strict and resolute in dealing with principled education issues.
Third, the struggler (ENFP type person)
ENFP people are eager to experience an event that affects people's lives, and then tell them the story they found and reveal some truth about people and events to inspire others to take action. Their infectious enthusiasm makes them the liveliest and most energetic of all. The number of ENFP accounts for about 3% of the total population.
1) Life communication:
Compared with other NF people, they seem to pay more attention to those passionate emotional experiences in life. Strugglers are full of emotions and always full of enthusiasm for new things. At the same time, they are also very resistant to repeated experiences, and usually lose interest in their surroundings and people quickly.
2) Professional work:
For strugglers, what they are best at is the work of dealing with people. They can become excellent teachers, attracted by communication art, and become talented journalists, speakers, novelists, screenwriters and playwrights. In companies or enterprises, they often boldly challenge those outdated procedures and systems, and therefore become the "early birds" in everyone's eyes.
In the process of choosing a job, faced with those jobs that require meticulous efforts and persistence, ENFP people will soon shrink back. In fact, what they need is a fairly free job that allows them to practice their creativity.
3) Marriage and family:
As spouses, ENFP people usually appear charming, gentle and considerate, but they also often make some deviant behaviors. For their spouses, surprises and surprises are everywhere in life. ENFP people will feel upset when faced with trivial housework. They will never ask about household goods maintenance, family savings, life insurance and other housework, or even whether they have spare money at home. They usually know nothing about it.
When treating children, although they may solemnly announce the family discipline and system to their children, in fact they may not really intend to put it into practice. Because they are worried that this will damage the friendly relationship between them and their children, the task of enforcing these disciplines will eventually fall on their spouses.
When playing the role of parents, ENFP people still don't forget to exert their creativity, and they will provide children with all kinds of novel and interesting experiences. However, on the other hand, when dealing with crying or wayward children, they lack patience and are likely to be at a loss.
Fourth, the healer (INFP type person)
Healing is to repair the cracks in interpersonal relationships in a gentle and harmonious way and help people restore their lost unity and integrity. The most urgent desire of INFP healers, who account for 2% of the total population, is to restore world peace and the integrity of themselves and their loved ones.
1) Life communication:
Therapists often show extreme idealism, and encouraged by this idealism, they can make extraordinary sacrifices for people or things they trust. They are always alone with great idealism, and their sense of isolation is getting stronger and stronger when facing the huge gap between ideal and reality.
They have a lasting fascination with good and bad, sacredness and blasphemy. They will be attracted by purity, will be absorbed in examining evil, and always be alert to the immoral forces lurking in their hearts. Once they think they have succumbed to the temptation of impurity, the healer will be desperate to devote himself to atonement for self-sacrifice.
When evaluating things and making decisions, therapists are usually more willing to follow the footsteps of intuition than rely on logical reasoning. They will collect information extensively in a streamlined way, and then fuse them together until they form various impressions in their minds. Doctors have the talent to explain and create various symbols, which will be expressed in a lyrical and poetic way.
2) Professional work:
Facing the work, doctors have strong adaptability and are willing to accept all kinds of new ideas and information. They know everyone around them and how they feel. Although reserved, they usually maintain friendly and harmonious relations with most people. They may make a wrong judgment or evaluation of the facts, but in the face of emotions, they are like sharpshooters, who hit almost every shot.
The occupations that INFP people can engage in are social workers, library researchers, private teachers, university humanities teachers and so on. They seem to have a strong self-study ability, and they can master the knowledge and skills needed for professional work through self-study. Doctors also have a strong interest in academic activities.
At the same time, like other NF people, they have extraordinary language talent. They often hear other people's inner cries for help, and they seem very willing to sacrifice themselves to help others, even if it even means that their loved ones have to make sacrifices.
3) Marriage and family:
The reserved nature makes it impossible for doctors to open their hearts to their spouses and directly express their interests and feelings, but they can keenly perceive their spouses' emotions and are very willing to make them happy. As spouses, therapists are very loyal to their marriage vows. They will remain absolutely loyal to their spouses. However, on the other hand, although they are wandering on this green grassland at the moment, they may be looking forward to galloping on another greener and wider grassland, and once they lose their way on the grassland, they will soon settle down there.
As parents, they are very concerned about their children's happiness and often show great love when they treat their children. In daily life, INFP people are extremely docile, and they are even willing to completely obey their spouses' life opinions, so it is very easy to live with them. They often let their children express their opinions when making family decisions. If there is a doctor-type parent in the family, generally speaking, family life will remain harmonious for a long time until a new ideal of doctor appears.
Above, that is, the differences between the four types of idealists in life communication, professional work and marriage and family. They are the people who Sarah Waters said at the beginning that they constantly make themselves "more consistent with the world" and are also the bright and happy side of the world.