I answered a question and answer about stay-at-home mothers doing housework two days ago, but I didn't expect to attract so many voices. Some people express empathy, and what they say and write is a true portrayal of themselves every day. Some people object that stay-at-home mothers are lazy and avoid work, so they don't go to work. Others say that stay-at-home mothers are selfish and stay at home without making money ... anyway, there are all kinds of voices. Generally speaking, they agree that stay-at-home mothers work harder than they oppose, but what surprises me most is that the voice of opposition is not from hard-working fathers, but from some mothers, which is really surprising.
A mother said that she is good at taking care of babies, housework and work, with an annual salary of 500 thousand. I really envy my real name. What a good mother! Not only let us moms envy, but also let many dads feel ashamed! You see, people are good at home and abroad, mainly because they can make money. Fathers don't always want their wives to be so capable! Then you can refuel yourself first!
After a brief look, I feel that stay-at-home mothers are useless, and even those who are lazy at home are mostly strong women who work and take care of their families.
I don't know how these mothers do everything. To tell the truth, I am also a very strong person. After graduation, I went to work in an enterprise. I was called the desperate Saburo. Because of his excellent work, he joined the competent department of the unit in the form of secondment in the second year, and was admitted to the business department in the second year.
A foreign girl with no background really feels that she is working hard. She never dares to be lazy or work hard. There are only a dozen people in our unit, most of whom are over 40 years old. I am the youngest in the unit. I do all the work that everyone asks me to help. I think this is an opportunity to learn and it pays off. The work is particularly smooth and very fulfilling.
But a few years later, I chose to give up my hard-won job because I became a mother.
At the moment before the baby was born, I always believed that I would return to work soon, ride the wind and waves, and even create miracles.
The arrival of a pair of twin nurses made me re-examine and plan my life. My daughter is premature and weak. They lived in the neonatal intensive care unit for more than ten days, and I was thinking about how to raise them in the future and how to make them grow up happily. When the child comes back from the hospital, it is not as heavy and miserable as someone else's newborn. I said to myself, it's okay, I will take good care of them!
I was at my parents' house within half a year of the child's birth, and a large family of five or six people took care of the child together. The child is of good height and weight. Take her to the hospital for routine examination. The doctor said that the two children are really well raised! At that time, I didn't feel how tired I was with my children! I thought, our baby is so relaxed, why can't those who take the baby take it? Melodramatic!
The child returned home six months ago, and her mother-in-law brought a girl from her hometown to take care of the child. Only then did I know how much help my family had given me. My mother-in-law is often unwell, and she can only help me hold the baby when I cook and wash clothes almost during the day. As long as I am free, she will definitely give me the child.
I have to go back to work, and my mother-in-law is full of unhappiness. On the first day of work, she posted a note on the wall, which clearly stated when the child would drink milk, take medicine and drink water, but when she came back, her aunt told me apologetically that she had been crying in the morning, didn't want to drink milk and didn't eat anything. I gave the big one the wrong medicine and took it twice ... I really collapsed at that time. I thought I would arrange it when I went out, but this happened!
This is not the most collapsed. What's more, my mother-in-law thought it was no big deal to give her children the wrong medicine, so she asked my aunt not to tell me. Or my aunt was afraid that taking the wrong medicine would have side effects, so she told me. The grandmother of the child can take the child to do this. To tell the truth, it's really not safe to give the child to someone who has nothing to do with it.
Besides, grandma really doesn't want to take care of the children. My grandmother's aunt is young and inexperienced in taking care of children, so my husband discussed with me whether to resign, and then asked my mother to take care of the children together. To tell the truth, giving up work is very tangled and sad, but after thinking about it, I feel that I have the responsibility to bring my children into this world, so I still quit my job and go home to take care of them.
It's easier to bring up two children with my mother than with my mother-in-law, because my mother always worries that her daughter is too tired and works secretly. Although I also feel sorry for my mother's hard work and try to make myself do more things, my mother is still aging rapidly with the naked eye. People who haven't taken care of their children for a long time really can't understand the hard work of taking care of their children. Their bodies are tired and their hearts are more tired!
A few days ago, when I was sorting out photos, I saw some photos they took when they were young, and all the tears I really saw could stay. The home is always in a mess, not what most people think, but indescribable, just like a garbage dump.
Some people say that it is good to clean the house every few days. I want to say that there are children at home, not once every few days, but once every minute, because they will constantly make garbage, scraps of paper, dumped meals, milk, scattered toys, snacks, all the places that can be touched, and some very young children will urinate at any time ... really, only you can't think of it.
The house is in a mess, so there is no need to clean it, because it will be dirty soon after cleaning. However, I don't want myself and my family to live in a sloppy environment all the time. Even if it is cleaned, it will be dirty immediately, but at least it will be clean and tidy for a while. When the children wake up and her husband comes back from work, the home will be clean and people will feel much more comfortable!
Children are particularly prone to illness when they are young, and they often get sick together. This is what scares me most. Run to the emergency department in the middle of the night and spend the New Year in the hospital. I don't know how many times
Knowing that it is too hard to take care of the children, when the children are less than three years old, I resolutely let my mother go back to her hometown. I know how many difficulties I will face, but I think mom should go home and reunite with dad and live a relaxed life for a few days. I can't raise a child, but I help my daughter raise a child. When will it be your own?
Are those who take care of their children at work helpful in life? If it is to let the old man help you carry the burden to change your years, there is nothing to be proud of compared with a full-time mother!
After my mother returned to her hometown, I took care of the children alone. At first, it was really a chicken feather, but I didn't want my mother to worry, so I reported good news instead of bad news. Actually, that year was a collapse.
My husband was very busy at work that year, and the company coincided with a critical moment. Although he tries his best to help me when he gets home, he often has to work overtime. I understand that it is not easy for him to work hard outside, so I try not to influence him with things at home.
The child is ill. During the day, a person takes two children to the hospital for intravenous drip, often parks the car in the library, and a person carries a child to the clinic. Most afraid of children having a fever at night, they often dare not sleep all night to cool their bodies.
Once in the middle of the night, a child had a fever and physical cooling was ineffective. Seeing the child getting worse, I had to go to the hospital. It's raining heavily outside, and I'm holding my child alone and holding an umbrella for fear of getting wet. My husband said to take us to the hospital.
But there is still a child sleeping, and I can't help it. I put my mobile phone on and put it next to the child's pillow. My husband and I took a child with a high fever to the hospital. I've been sticking my mobile phone to my ear to listen to the sound, for fear that the child will wake up.
My husband took me to the hospital, and my children and I lined up to register. Husband hurried home to take care of the other one. Not long after he left, he heard the sad cry of the child on the phone, and his heart was broken. How scared a three-year-old child will be when he wakes up in the middle of the night and has only himself at home! When I was waiting in line with the baby, I shouted on the phone, honey, don't be afraid, mom will be right back.
But the child couldn't hear it at all, and kept crying and crying. At that time, I thought, it's okay to cry, as long as you don't climb out of the window to find us. Hearing the sound of my husband coming home, my tears suddenly stayed.
Finally, I hung up the needle with my child in my arms here, and my husband came to the hospital with his little daughter. The child was naked, wrapped in a blanket, barefooted and with tears in his eyes. Husband said that she kept crying and missed her mother. No matter how to coax her, she can only take it with her.
As soon as I touched the child's leg, I got cold and thought it was broken. Sure enough, I had a fever during the dawn exam. The two babies had a high fever together, and no one helped me with intravenous drip. I sat aside and grabbed their little hands for fear that they would touch them.
Both children should be atomized. They are scared and cry, but I can't coax them. I cried too. When children saw me crying, they stopped crying. They put fog masks on their mouths and said, mom, I won't cry, so don't cry … ..
In fact, when taking care of children, it doesn't matter how tired you are. I just think that children who are so young should be considerate of adults and hide their helplessness and sadness. It is really distressing!
Those who say that their children can handle everything properly from the age of two or three, don't cry or make trouble, be obedient and considerate to adults, think about it, are some of your years quiet or not! To be honest, I really don't want my children to become like that. I hope my children can cry whenever they want, just like silly children when they were young. Smiling, if he wants to be spoiled, his life is very long, but the time he can vent his emotions carefree is really only a few years, and the past is over!
The child is old and in kindergarten. I think I can finally go to work. But the ideal is full and the reality is skinny. After the children go to school, the mother is a little more relaxed than before, but it is difficult to find a job that can match the schedule of the kindergarten. She will send them to kindergarten at 9 am and take them home at 4 pm. In the meantime, she will call you often. If the children get wet, they have to send one. The child has a little fever and cough, so he should take it back to stay at home for a while. The children accidentally fell down and had to be sent to the hospital for dressing. ...
Kindergartens often engage in various parent-child activities. My father was busy at work, so I went. Sometimes when two children want to do activities at the same time, we have to ask two parents to help us take one. Sometimes there are not many parents at the scene, so we can only make a child angry and stand by and watch. To tell the truth, it's really not a taste to watch children stand by and watch others play.
Some people say, what's wrong with letting children watch for a while? After he entered the society, there were many more serious setbacks than this. Everyone still dotes on him! Yes, children will eventually enter the society and will be whipped and baptized by the years, so why not make them happier when they are young? Do we bring them into this world just to make them feel the cruelty of life all the time?
During my children's kindergarten, because it was difficult to find the right time to work outside, I registered a trading company and hired someone to run the business. I mostly do accounts, enter and leave the warehouse, invoice and deliver goods, which is more than 200 thousand a year, not bad. Because I am my own company, the time is more flexible. When I am with my children, I don't have to work, but I work overtime at night. I take my children everywhere on weekends and holidays. They especially like to visit museums and libraries all over the country, covering almost a third of China.
I am glad that I took my children to many places at that time, and the children in primary schools really spent less and less time playing. After my child went to primary school, the salesman of the company went it alone, so I couldn't find a suitable salesman at the moment. After running business for a while, I found it really difficult to grasp the time. My children take them home for dinner at noon, and sometimes they make deliveries or visit customers temporarily. I didn't have time to cook when I got home, so I had to take it out to eat. Sometimes after school in the afternoon, I am still outside and can't pick them up on time. When they arrived at school, they had been waiting for a long time. Running around during the day and sorting out all kinds of words at night. Sometimes I get upset when I'm busy. When my children come to ask me questions, they get impatient. Sometimes after running all day, I am too lazy to cook a fine dinner, so I just cook a few dishes to make a living. During that time, I obviously felt that the child was not eating well and his face was thin. What's more, my busy and anxious mood has affected my children and their father. They are cautious when they see me every day, for fear of provoking me. After a busy week, I didn't want to go out on weekends, so my father sent me to a children's interest class. During that time, I did earn some money, but my family was depressed and my children's grades were affected. One day, when I stayed up late to do the contract, my husband came over and asked me, why do you work so hard every day? How many days have I not got along with my children? I look unhappy every day. What's the point of making money? Suddenly I found myself really wrong and forgot what I said to make my children grow up happily.
It took more than a month to handle all the business, cancel the company and resume the role of full-time mother.
Looking back now, I'm glad I chose. In recent years, my family happiness has improved a lot. My husband can devote himself to his work because I devote myself to housework, and he makes great progress every year.
I think it's good to take care of two children. There are nearly 50 children in the class. They are described by teachers as sunny, sunny, cheerful and enterprising.
After the epidemic last year, the school gave children a psychological test. Less than ten people got full marks in the whole grade test, and both of them got full marks. Children with glasses account for three quarters of the class. Their eyesight is normal, and their teeth are the envy of most students in the class.
These seem insignificant, but my husband said that they are all the result of my careful care and cultivation of their good habits every day.
In learning, they have been accompanied since childhood and have developed good study habits. So in the sixth grade, both of them were very self-disciplined and didn't have to worry too much.
It was because of their self-discipline that I re-entered the society and started working at the end of last year.
The process of accompanying children to grow up is particularly hard, but it is also very happy and a process of growing up.
Because of the understanding and support of my family, I quickly adapted to my work, and I am very happy to work again!
I am not a stay-at-home mom now, but I used to be a self-qualified stay-at-home mom.
I want to say that it's good to have a mother who can take care of both work and family, but a full-time mother is no worse than you!