I remember that the saying "if you are serious, you will lose" began to spread on the Internet five or six years ago. When I first heard this sentence, I felt very confused. As long as I am a little more serious, someone will say, "If I am serious, I will lose."

Is it wrong for me to do things seriously? !

Until recently, I was interested in this again because of the debate in the final of the fourth season of "Seven Ba Shuo" some time ago:

In the final of "Romance 4", although Mix won in the end, I always felt that what he said was not so sharp. As for Chen Ming, it has always been an emotional card routine; In a word, I don't think what they said is very good. I need to say something to you.

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I used to envy people with excellent academic performance.

When I was in college, there was a girl in our department who often took the first place in her major. When she graduated, she got a national scholarship and obtained the qualification of insurance research.

She will listen carefully in any class, which is a wonderful thing in the university classroom where most people are playing mobile phones or reading other books.

Once I had a very profound math class. It was a sleepy afternoon. Many people were sleeping on their stomachs, but she still listened carefully, so I asked her, "Can you listen to this class?" ! "

She said, "It seems that I have nothing to do but attend classes. If I sleep now, I won't be able to sleep at night. "

There is also a girl who claims to be a rotten woman, playing all kinds of games, hearthstone legends, League of Legends, watching all kinds of dramas, and basically not listening to classes, either reading novels or playing games, but her academic performance is still very good.

Her circle of friends never basks in learning, but in travel photos, game feelings or feelings about which male star is really handsome.

Some time before the end of the semester, before the circle of friends queued up for photos in the library, they once read idle books because the ink was too late, and waited for the closing time in the library.

On the way back to the dormitory, I met the girl with some textbooks for the upcoming exam in her hand. It turns out that she has begun to study hard.

Nowadays, online chicken soup is very popular. Because there are too many chicken soups, some people write articles against chicken soups. For example, some time ago, it was popular that "your self-discipline is slowly destroying you", and immediately someone wrote "your self-discipline is slowly destroying you" to refute it.

In fact, people who are really self-disciplined and serious are disdainful of chicken soup or anti-chicken soup, because their self-discipline is innate and they will not immediately go to the circle of friends for praise because they study hard today; I don't think I should reward myself just because everyone is sleeping and I am in class.

Our earnest efforts are only taken for granted in the eyes of those unfathomable people!

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Most people want to win, strive for the upper reaches and earn a lot of money, which is one of the reasons why chicken soup is popular in today's society.

Recently, there is a TV series that is popular. It is called "Military Division Alliance".

In one clip, Cao Cao gave questions to Cao Pi and Cao Zhian, asking them to set out from the East Gate and the West Gate respectively the next day and hand over the flags to the generals outside the city within the specified time.

Yang Xiu assisted Cao Zhi. When Cao Zhi asked what to do if someone stopped him, Yang Xiu said, "Kill him."

Sima Yi assisted Cao Pi. Cao Pi asked Sima Yi how to deal with this problem. Sima Yi said, "Everyone in the world only knows winning or losing. This time we only fight for right and wrong, not winning or losing. "

The next day, when it was time to send the flag, both of them were stopped. Yang Xiu decided to kill the gatekeeper who sent the flag out of the city for Tsao Zhi. On the other hand, Cao Pi listened to Sima Yi's persuasion and did not leave the city gate.

Afterwards, Cao Zhi was promoted to Pingyuan Hou. Cao Pi was not promoted, but was imprisoned for more than ten days. But when Cao Cao went to war, Cao Pi stayed in Xudu, Lao Zi went to war, and his son stayed in the country. This is the only treatment for the prince.

In troubled times, heroes in the world only know how to win or lose, and they are not tolerant enough. If you look far and wide, you should stick to right and wrong, not people's hearts!

Although Cao Pi was in prison, he captured the hearts of Confucian officials in the DPRK because he didn't kill his master, so even in prison, he could still ask his ministers to intercede for him.

Although Cao Zhi sent the flag, he brutally killed the janitor, leaving a "good impression" of "doing whatever it takes to achieve his goal" and indirectly losing people's hearts.

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Some time ago, He Jiong's words were very popular on the Internet.

Although it looks like chicken soup, it makes sense.

What moves me most is that if you give up, don't complain and don't feel that your efforts are not rewarded.

If you want to do something, hard work is the premise, and hard work is the price of doing something, just like you have to pay for it.

Let's talk about Mix winning the championship. In fact, in the final, he may not be better than Chen Ming from the debate alone, but from the performance of the seven masters throughout the fourth season, Mix's performance is indeed much better than Chen Ming.

Mix often blames himself in The Story of Qi Dad, saying why he didn't work hard, as if all his achievements were made by talent.

How is that possible? It's just that he is covering up his efforts and pretending to be indifferent, for fear that everyone will know that he wants to win so badly that it is not extraordinary enough.

Mix won because his usual performance touched the audience, and finally I was able to stand in the final again because I was serious. Even if I lose, I will make a summary without regrets, which is perfect.

But these are all illusions, and his final success is not the key factor!

There are many serious people (the most typical one is Ali). Why did Mix win? !

Is it because he is serious enough? !

Don't! Because he mastered the method; Understand the psychology of the audience; Know how to reverse, will joke; Mastered the routine of debate; Know how to "argue right and wrong" instead of "on winning or losing".

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"Seriously, you will lose!"

You say this because you have exposed your burning desire to win. Winning is everyone's idea. This is not uncommon. What is rare is that when the world is bent on winning without thinking, you can still expect to find the right direction first and distinguish right from wrong.

Seriously should be taken for granted. If you want it, you must pay. It should not be made public in the circle of friends and overemphasized in your own heart.

If we keep a long heart in the face of an impetuous world, although we are serious, we don't feel serious; Although I work hard, I don't think I am working hard; Even if you suffer hardships on the road of growth, you won't feel too sorry for yourself.

Slowly, you become those unfathomable people in the eyes of others.

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