I believe many parents have also experienced this embarrassing problem. How do you answer your children?
Think about the lack of sex education of our generation's parents after 1980s and 1990s. When we saw some sexy pendants hanging on some middle school students' key chains, our first reaction was that this student must be a bad boy, but we never thought that the times are developing rapidly now, and the topic of sex has been openly discussed, and sex education can be implanted from an early age.
On March 2nd, 20021year, a report in People's Daily entitled "Children's Sexual Abuse Prevention Education Becomes a Compulsory Course" triggered a heated discussion among parents. Among them, over 90% support it, and 69.33% think it is very necessary to educate underage children about sex and sexual assault prevention. About 54% people think it is necessary to include sex education and prevention education for underage children in normal teaching.
As soon as this policy was introduced, it immediately triggered a wave of research fever among sex educators. According to incomplete statistics, in 20 18, the number of sex educators in China was less than 3% of the total population, and the sharp increase of child sexual abuse cases made schools and families pay more and more attention to the content of sex education.
Why sex education?
My daughter recently said to me, "Mom, I want to marry my brother when I grow up." I suddenly feel that it is time to give her sex education knowledge, and close relatives can't get married.
In today's world, with the popularity of Internet, TV and mobile phones, there are more and more videos of teenagers' intimate actions, which leads children to be more and more precocious, curious about the private things between men and women, and ashamed to talk about sexual knowledge with their parents, which leads to children's impulse to try and eventually lead to bad consequences.
Therefore, sex education is very necessary, and the sooner the better. Maybe some parents will say that my child is still young, only 3 years old, and there is no need for sex education. I don't know that when children are about 2 years old, they will form the initial gender consciousness, and they will be divided into two categories: boys and girls. By the time he was 3 years old, he could imitate different roles such as mom and dad to play house. At this time, you can show him sex education picture books.
A few days ago, her 4-year-old daughter's kindergarten teacher sent them a video to watch. She also asked to draw a circle of love after watching the video, which is her own understanding after watching it. The daughter said that she wanted to protect her privacy and no one else could touch it. I sigh that kindergarten education keeps pace with the times, and I agree with it very much.
More and more data show that sexual assault cases are getting younger and more common. Ma, a psychologist, said: "We underestimated the sexual maturity of teenagers and always thought that they would not fall in love until they were seventeen or eighteen, but the situation at that time was that primary school students had already shown signs."
Therefore, in order for children to form a good sense of self-protection and good interpersonal relationships, sex education must be carried out as soon as possible.
How to conduct sex education?
Children's sex education should be the education of schools, parents and society, and the three-pronged approach can be in an invincible position. Children around 3 years old don't have a good command of words, so it's a good choice to read the series of oriental children's sex education picture books, which vividly show the contents of sex education that parents dare not talk about, and are the first books for children's sex education.
Schools can set up some lectures, questions and answers, role-playing games and information collection boxes to answer teenagers' confusion about sexual knowledge.
For some educational institutions in the society, we can set up various forms of summer camps and winter camps, so that children can have fun in schools and middle schools, make education entertaining, make children happy, reassure parents and let children spend their childhood easily.
In short, through the three-pronged sex education of parents, schools and society, children can be better helped to have the thinking of "red", "yellow" and "green" lights on their body parts. Green light means normal physical contact, such as shaking hands, and yellow light means hugging and holding hands between relatives and friends. The red light is your private parts. Only when you can touch it can you form a good sense of self-protection.
Misunderstanding of sex education
Many parents believe that sex education is to make children better prevent sexual assault. In fact, this understanding is very one-sided.
First of all, children can face themselves better. In fact, it can let children know all stages of their body well, and let them know more about self-esteem, self-love and self-protection.
Secondly, it is conducive to the development of interpersonal relationships. If you are embarrassed or embarrassed to say something, tell it to the other person, such as menarche, acne on your face, enlarged chest, erectile penis, hairy armpits and body odor, which shows that she trusts each other very much and the relationship between them will be very close. Like many adolescents, he has a lot to say to his parents, but he will talk to his good friends. That's the reason.
Therefore, we can't simply think that sex education is to prevent sexual abuse, and it is also the key to the development of self-awareness and good interpersonal relationships.
Finally, I very much agree that sex education should be included in children's compulsory courses, because without early education, your children will not be too young to be suitable for sexual assault. Children are the flowers and future of the motherland, and their healthy growth needs the care of our parents, schools and society. Therefore, please push away the inexplicable power that stands in front of us, be ashamed of sex education, reduce and avoid unnecessary harm to society, and give children a healthy and happy childhood!