There is a saying in "Break Free": "Except inner joy, all gains and losses are not important." Everyone knows the truth, but when you encounter something, you will think and care uncontrollably, and your emotions will be repeated, which will inevitably lead to loss of happiness.
Because he cares too much about gains and losses, he becomes a "paranoid" who wears colored glasses to see the world and complains about life. The saddest thing is that the "garbage man" who has gradually become a circle of friends does not know it.
However, isn't it a good idea to "make yourself happy" Where did happiness go?
Six years ago, I was still in the workplace and my daughter was taken care of by my mother. My heart is full of guilt for my daughter. At that time, I had a dream: I didn't have to go to work and be a full-time mother.
When my daughter was in the first grade of primary school, I realized my dream, but when we disembarked, I embarked on a fundamentally unhappy road.
For several years, my life revolved around my daughter. I can only see my daughter in my eyes and heart, even if she makes a little progress, I think it is an achievement; Similarly, even if she is a little behind, I feel sorry to pay such a big price for quitting.
In fact, my daughter hasn't made much progress, and she can't compare with the children who eat grass around her, both in study and talent.
I have read such a sentence:
"When you give up your career and hobbies and devote yourself to one thing, only to find that what you have worked hard for has not met your expectations, failure, doubt and frustration begin to come to you in waves."
When I become a stay-at-home mom, that's the state. Try my best to pursue my dream. The fruit of dreams is not sweet, how can we be happy?
Because I was unhappy inside, I soon became thin, sallow and depressed. My daughter was yelled at by me and became timid in everything. When my husband comes home from work, I will get bored if I say a few more words. If you don't talk, you complain that your husband is irresponsible.
I am unhappy alone, which leads to the unhappiness of the whole family. What is even more frightening is that I am aware of this problem, but I can't find an outlet for change on the road I choose.
Fortunately, in those years when I was influenced by my daughter's grades, my husband always tolerated me and supported my hobbies as always.
I signed up for a writing class to learn writing and regain my love for words; I made friends with positive energy and discussed the pursuit of life together ... Slowly, I let my daughter and myself go, and the uncontrollable happiness gradually filled my eyes and eyebrows.
Now, I am still a full-time mother, my daughter goes to school, I read and write, cook and do housework; My daughter does her homework, I accompany her, read her favorite books and extract meaningful sentences; My daughter's grades are up and down. I am no longer just blaming, but looking for her problems.
If one dish is not cooked well, you can enjoy the delicious taste of the other two dishes without eating. When you encounter problems in your life, comfort yourself that you can't worry, and learn to sort out the problems calmly; Children's grades are not good, but they are smart and obedient, with a wide range of hobbies and mental health. ...
When you become a full-time mother, do you have to let your child become a schoolmaster? Do you have to be a writer to learn to write? Do you have to be a singer if you like singing?
People will be happy only if they are open-minded. When you are happy, a monotonous life can taste hundreds of flavors; When you are unhappy, a hundred kinds of life can only taste one taste.
Wang Yangming said: "The heart is not tired, and the heart is not attached." When the heart is clean, there will be less desire for distractions. Looking at life at this time, every harvest is gratitude, and every challenge is the way to climb up.
When you learn to face everything calmly and accept everything peacefully, happiness will naturally return.
Reading, writing and studying at home every day, I feel that time is tight, and I always feel that other people's articles are well written and envious; I always feel inferior after working hard for a long time. I always feel that if I don't read more pages, I won't make progress. ...
In the race against time to improve my obsession, I forgot the pleasure of seeing beautiful clothes when shopping, the feeling of laughing when meeting friends, the satisfaction of watching my favorite TV series, and the mood of clearing my mind and relaxing my decision every once in a while. ...
In the process of pursuing myself, a heavy burden presses on my heart and squeezes out my happiness.
That day, my friend invited me to go shopping for the third time. I took off my glasses, took my attention away from the computer, stood up and looked out of the window. There are many high-rise buildings, one after another, and pedestrians come and go in the street without stopping.
Suddenly I feel that life is like a tall building. Everyone has been climbing all his life, but how many floors and how high can he climb? Besides, if you keep climbing and don't give up halfway, how can you have the energy to keep climbing?
This moment made me realize that I felt the depression in my heart was suddenly opened.
I went shopping for an afternoon, bought some beautiful clothes and brought back a pot of blooming flowers. My friend told me many anecdotes, which happened to her, friends' and even hearsay. I actually found that I didn't just browse, but also got a lot of writing materials by the way. A long-lost sense of happiness began to spread in my heart.
I think that time-wasting shopping is not simply consuming my time, because my gains are far greater than my efforts.
Therefore, there is no shortage of happiness in life, but I have never given myself a happy time. Where can you find happiness if you just run towards a destination without stopping to look at the surrounding scenery?
I no longer force myself to do one thing. Studying is progress, and shopping is enjoyment. The knowledge in the book is my brain, and the enjoyment of life is my mood.
The harvest of life is not limited to narrow circles. A few more steps, you can see more scenery. Try a few more times, and you will have more insights. Life is to take a rest when you are tired, and then set off after you recharge your batteries, instead of being plunged into the finish line by a fierce fighter.
In the fast-paced life, many people are bound by busy work, leaving early and returning late.
Happy people see hope in the morning light and feel strength in the light.
Unhappy people, what their eyes can see is only replaced by a feeling, and there is no other happiness except fatigue.
The knot of life must be untied by itself, and everything goes well; If you don't solve it, this knot will get tighter and tighter, and you will have a hard time.
Relax, don't push yourself, everyone is a fireworks with different colors, and they all have their own brilliant happiness.
Where did our happiness go? In fact, they are all interfered by foreign objects.
The happiness of life comes from the possession and pursuit of this time, not from not cherishing this time but from craving it. Cherish is happiness, greed is the devil.
Life is a sea, and everything is done according to one's ability.
Couples are peers, enjoying life together and facing the storms of life together. They appreciate more and tolerate more, and criticize less and blame less.
Children are a gift from heaven, and every gift has value. Don't regard them as tools to compare with others in life.
The pursuit of high salary and high treatment is to improve the quality of life, not at the expense of health;
Be grateful for having a stable job, not complaining about the low salary. If you really work hard, your salary will rise one day.
Tired from work, I might as well go to the library to recharge my batteries and go to the movies.
If the investment fails, think that you are still so healthy, much better than those who are terminally ill, spend all their savings and finally have no way out;
No salary increase or promotion, no new clients, no admission to a good university. ...
What are you afraid of? Life is so long, why do you have to be quick and quick, and want to be fat at one breath? "Rome wasn't built in a day", life can't be brilliant in a day.
This long road needs to recharge your batteries and walk slowly, instead of spinning around in a passion and losing motivation.
In fact, there are some things, just being in it, making a cocoon and being stubborn and unwilling to go out.
Everyone is a unique scenery, and everyone should have a unique happiness. It is not difficult to get rid of the "eager for success" net and make an appointment with yourself to be happy tomorrow. You should try it first.
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