How can schools harm people? Schools are places to educate and train people, and social institutions trusted by thousands of parents and students in Qian Qian.
But after reading this book, combined with my personal growth and the work experience of counselors, I realized that schools can really hurt people.
This kind of injury is universal, not caused by easily identifiable factors such as nationality, class and gender, but by systematic injustice and structural violence caused by a series of basic problems.
This kind of injury is so hidden that adults who step into society are still influenced and restricted by those injuries that have been forgotten for a long time.
1. Why does the school hurt people?
First of all, the essence of school education is a social behavior, and one of the central functions behind its design is to reserve human resources for social development.
Therefore, under the framework of social overall education, schools will inevitably be involved in the social resource distribution system to distinguish and divert people.
Unfortunately, we hardly realize the role of schools in shaping our success and adapting to the hierarchical structure of modern society. We are deeply involved, especially the teachers, students and parents in this system.
We firmly believe that as long as we work hard enough and obey the rules (obey the school rules and listen to the teacher), we can succeed.
Secondly, schools lag behind social development. The concept and operation system of traditional education constantly prove their rationality and stubbornly refuse to change.
Carefully observe the schools around you, from kindergarten to primary and secondary schools, and then to undergraduate and graduate education. /kloc-in the past 0/00 years, scientific and technological progress has been earth-shaking. However, teaching and learning in most schools still continue the old model.
I wonder, is school education a superstructure? If the answer is yes, then school education is born from adaptation to gradually falling behind social and economic development, waiting to be broken and rebuilt.
2. Who did the school hurt?
When discussing the harm of schools, our first thought is students.
Yes, as the audience of school education, students bear the brunt.
Through a large number of interviews, the author of this book summed up the similarities and differences between proofreaders and students, including the following five points.
First, the environment in which the injury occurs-cognitive, emotional or identity differences are intolerable.
Second, because of their own differences, they feel unacknowledged and humiliated.
Third, if you feel pressure, even if you are not successful or not very successful, you must adapt to or obey the requirements of the environment.
Fourthly, as a learner, I feel alienated from myself.
Fifth, it reduces the fun of learning.
When I read the third point, I remembered my personal experience. In the three years of junior high school, I met a very strict class teacher. At every class meeting, she will sum up the performance of the whole class for a week, criticize those who have made mistakes or omissions, and stand up and reflect on themselves.
Under her authority, many class cadres unconsciously became the defenders and executors of strict class rules. The leader of my group is one of them. He meticulously checked the completion of his classmates' homework, and filled in a blank, which was recorded as late homework.
Once I missed two spaces in my English homework, so I was registered and reported. As a result, I was criticized by name at the class meeting, and because of the status of the monitor, the teacher said more. Many years later, I can still feel the sense of injustice and humiliation of standing up and accepting criticism in front of the whole class.
I swear to myself that I will never miss an empty seat again. I became more cautious.
However, such a goal is not easy to achieve, it requires a lot of efforts and will distort a person's behavior.
Once, before I handed in my homework, I found that I accidentally missed another blank. Guess what? I actually hid in the toilet to make up for it, because once other students found out, they would report to the team leader, so I would not only be criticized for handing in my homework late, but also for being dishonest.
The mess of making up homework in the toilet further strengthened my unreasonable demands on myself. Even after the environment gradually relaxed, I didn't learn to let myself go.
It took me a long time to make up with myself. It was not until I went to graduate school that I really realized that the class teacher was wrong and the group leader was wrong. A student doesn't need to bear such criticism because of a small mistake.
I further realized that a large part of my requirements for myself came from this. I wasted a lot of energy on avoiding mistakes before. Now I have to learn to forgive myself, accept my imperfections, accept that I will make mistakes, and spend more time and energy on action.
Similarly, even those social elites who have made extraordinary achievements can still feel pain and tear when looking back on the injury of school education. These injuries are deeply rooted in their hearts, and some even last a lifetime, not to mention ordinary you and me?
Parents and teachers often hurt students unconsciously because they used to be the audience of the education system. Teachers, in particular, as the beneficiaries of the education system, are often more likely to accept the values and ideological paradigms instilled by schools and pass on this hidden curriculum to students.
In the process of reading this book, I seriously recalled and examined many unpleasant experiences when I was a counselor. I found that I did a very good job in learning the hidden course contents in the education system, and often passed them on to my students without thinking, just like the cases shared in the book.
More importantly, after reading this book, I found words to describe these experiences. Fortunately, during my four years as a counselor, I have repeatedly emphasized to students that what I share with you is what I think is right at this stage, and I have been learning and growing up, constantly reconstructing my knowledge and concepts.
Looking back on your early learning experience and memories of school, have you ever had an uncomfortable and unpleasant experience?
If you are an educator, have you unconsciously taught hidden courses to students like Xiao Bai?
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Recognize that injury is only the first step, and healing and growth require continuous conscious efforts. To be continued ~
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