By definition, power is the ability to control others and their results. Therefore, your power depends on the needs of others, especially in order to get expensive rewards and avoid punishment. Some people need you for this. When you can meet their needs better than others, you are more powerful than them. When others need you, they will please you actively, which gives you control. Power can be said to be a great attraction-the greater the power, the higher the attention and the greater the supervision power; The higher the expectation, the easier it is to collapse and the greater the risk. For many people, having power does not alleviate their childhood insecurity, but only provides them with a bigger stage to show this feeling. This is why many powerful people were exposed by the news, did some incredible and surprising things, and were finally defeated.
Nevertheless, everyone yearns for supreme power. No matter what job you do, if you want to be the person you aspire to, you must use your power effectively (whether you think you have power or not). You must come out of your own story and learn how to play your part in other people's stories. Yes, to have and use power, you must learn how to "execute". The statement of performance may seem dismissive to many people, which makes people feel a bit "pretentious". But please don't jump to conclusions. With your deeper understanding of power, you will find that "performance" is actually a very neutral statement, which is very necessary.
At the beginning, we are always uncomfortable with the idea of being in power, but in order to make better use of power, we must show our best side at the right time and hide those insecure and useless parts. Performance is a self-management method, which puts the responsibility to others in the first place and aims to create a safe environment for others to do the same. Remember, if you don't fulfill your role dutifully and play a caring and responsible boss, then your subordinates will not play their role seriously and will not play themselves as a respectable subordinate. In a sense, only when you take the lead in entering the role can people around you also enter the scene and perform their duties. Sometimes, we give up managing and controlling others, act like a modest gentleman, and draw a clear line with the "bad guys". But in fact, this is to give your power to the wrong person.
Doing one's role well means that one needs to actively consolidate one's power. It is not only individual initiative, competitiveness and brutal competition in social life that can make people occupy the highest position in the group. Studies show that individuals of many species are rewarded, respected, admired, and usually given more power because of their rational use of their own strength (making themselves useful individuals to solve all problems, not just coveting the first place). Success, influence and life satisfaction are not the result of your accumulated power, or even how much power others think you have, but the result of using the power you already have to serve others.
Anyone's power depends entirely on the environment when the power comes into effect. Power exists and dies in interpersonal relationships, goals and objectives, environment and social roles. The difference of individual strength forms an attraction, which provides a structure for coordination and contact, and can establish and strengthen relationships. Hierarchical relationships enable people to work together and achieve the same goals effectively because they don't have to compete for control. Therefore, trying to use power without any relationship may be a waste of energy. You know, if you lead the way but no one follows, you are just walking.
Some practices may make it difficult for us to use power effectively. For example, we often decide what to take seriously according to our inner scripts (unconsciously) rather than the same story. There are some immediate ways to strengthen our strength. For example, many doctors will not enter the ward without wearing doctor's clothes and stethoscope. These props may not always be used in doctors' rounds, but many doctors believe that carrying these symbols of medical status and professional knowledge will help patients feel safe and remind doctors to establish their own authority. It's not all a show-what we wear will change others' reactions to us, and it will also change ourselves.
Similarly, territory gives us strength. At home, we are the masters and everything belongs to us; Meeting in your office, even if you are not the highest-level participant, the balance of power will immediately tilt to your side. If you are a teacher and want to exaggerate the influence of power, try to seize the space without home advantage, from customer to customer. For example, before students enter the classroom, walk around the whole classroom and walk around every corner, which will help you establish your own "territory".
In the world of power, being yourself is acting, and acting is being yourself. Once we know the truth of social life, it will become easier and easier to use power. In life, the most important thing is to serve a higher goal and truly express yourself in the role that you can have a real impact. This is not important. It is important to care about others from the heart. If you really care about each other, everything will come naturally. In an important position, you are the embodiment of the self-worth of everyone else in the team. You must show the team that they are worth your time and energy at the first time. Taking your role seriously is the secret of building a good relationship. I wish you all the way to consolidate your political power!